Charlotte

Member Since 10/27/2013

  • Charlotte 8 years ago on Questions About Relationships From A Guy Who's New To The Game

    Girl here. She won’t care if you bring over a toothbrush, and will probably be excited to meet your parents as long as it’s been at least 2-3 months. Especially excited if a trip to Mexico is involved.

    On how many nights to spend together, everyone is different. I only spend 2-3 nights with my bf and that’s how it has always been due to work schedule. I have friends who spend 6-7 nights a week with their significant others. I agree that if you drastically cut back, she will overthink it and worry you’re not as into it anymore. So either but an AC unit or dial it back gradually.

    I disagree with the person who said she already knows you’ve hooked up with your female friends. How would she possibly know? Not like you post that on Instagram. But she is likely a little jealous of your cute female friends either way, so you should make sure to introduce them right away so she doesn’t feel like you’re hiding anything. And avoid much solo time with said female friends, especially anything outside of grabbing lunch, etc.

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  • Charlotte 8 years ago on Blonde Women Are Not Attracted To Blonde Men

    Natural blonde female here. Not attracted to blonde men. Not sure why not either.

    I think maybe because blonde hair is associated with youth, which tends to make women more attractive but not necessarily men.

    Maybe more specific to me and other natural blondes: It also might be because blonde men tend to have the fair facial features (eyelashes, eyebrows) which I think looks sort of creepy and im self conscious of in myself, so maybe I notice it more than a Brown haired girl would? Because I do find some guys that just have dirty blonde hair from being out in the sun attractive if they still have an otherwise “brunette looking” face (strong brow, stubble). But would still find a dark-haired guy hotter 99% of the time.

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  • Charlotte 8 years ago on Questions From The Chase: Potential Lesbian, A Virgin, And A Snake In The Grass

    Is sex with a virgin really that different? My first time didn’t hurt too much. And I feel like as a girl, it’s not that hard to be good in bed. Just put it in and move how it feels good to move…Our bodies are designed for sex to be pleasurable. Just letting go and enjoying yourself will be a bigger turn on to a guy than any move that an “experienced woman” may have learned over the years.

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  • Charlotte 8 years ago on Take The Risk Before You Can't

    Not to burst your bubble, but you just graduated and haven’t started law school yet. I wouldn’t go shouting from the rooftops that this risky move was a success. You could hate Milwaukee and 60 years from now this girl could still be “the one who got away”.

    The good news is: you’re 22, nothing’s permanent, you can move somewhere else if you hate it and you’ll probably meet another girl you like better anyways. But in a couple years you’ll probably realize that if you’re happy with the circumstances of your life and the people you’re sharing it with, accepting that fact does not make you a coward with “fomo”. It means you’ve had enough life experience and know yourself well enough to recognize when something/someone is right for you and you don’t need to explore anymore options to know for sure. Settling down does not necessarily mean settling.

    But if you’re 22, keep the new experiences, bad relationships and potential mistakes coming!

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  • Charlotte 8 years ago on I Sat Next To A Sorority Chick In The Nail Salon And Live-Tweeted Her Break Up With Her Boyfriend Over The Phone

    How are people saying she’s dumb? Only part she looks dumb is where she agreed to text him later. He made out with another girl in front of her and all her friends, so she rightfully dumped him and is annoyed he’s still blowing up her phone. Sounds like she is ready to graduate and move on anyways and that’s what she doesn’t give af. Stay strong girl, there’s better ones out there.

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  • Charlotte 8 years ago on Questions From The Chase: Why Can't I Find A Boyfriend?

    Sort of going off of paragraph 2…. A couple of my friends and I (all female) came to a realization that pretty much every relationship fight we’ve ever been in, started with us getting mad at the guy for something. I don’t think a a boyfriend has ever been pissed at me and picked a fight over it, ever. I’m sure I’ve done annoying things, but they’ve all just let it go. Only exception in the group was a girl whose ex used to get mad at her for flirting with his friends, but seems like a unique scenario. Has anyone else really looked back and seen a similar pattern ( and is it really always the girls making the guys bad behavior into a fight?)

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  • Charlotte 8 years ago on It's Time To Put Away Dating Apps And Meet Someone In Person

    I think they key is to meet the solid “match” in real life as quickly as possible. Met my current bf when I had bumble downloaded for about a week. Every other guy messaged back and forth for so long that I eventually lost interest – I don’t care what your fav movie is, I don’t even know you. My guy asked me to grab drinks within the first 2 messages, clearly we thought each other were attractive, why waste a week texting some stranger. Just ask them out.

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  • Charlotte 10 years ago on A Teacher's Thoughts Before Going Back To School

    You wonder why you don’t get more sympathy? You’re complaining about doing a job that’s still easier than everyone else’s for and only exists 3/4 of the year.

    I’m usually a huge supporter for increasing teacher salaries, but that $27k a year sounds about right for you.

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  • Charlotte 10 years ago on Grown Up Things I Refuse To Do

    Knox, even though you’re not particularly attractive judging by your pic and constantly talking about how little money you make, I have such a crush on your article persona.

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  • Charlotte 10 years ago on Thoughts From A "Fat Girl"

    So for us skinny girls, guys only date us to avoid being teased by their friends? They’re not actually attracted to us and privately wish they we’re with someone bigger? Nobody wins

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