On my first date, my now lady friend (so I guess it worked) and I decided to partake in a game of “creating the backstory for the people you’re watching” and then plan an elaborate heist – Ocean’s 11 style – using the characters we had created. Most fun I’ve ever had at a Hispanic festival down the street from an Oktoberfest.
I’ve never had a date meet me at my house before a first date (because as a guy I’m pretty sure every woman would be 1000% sure I was going to kill them), but I’ve always been fully on-board the Just Got Off Work as we meet at the bar…and yet every inch of me smells fresh and I’m wearing clothes that are both more casual and more stylish than the button up and wrinkled slacks I actually wore to work.
I’m honestly amazed, most girls I know claim mid twenties until like 29. I’m a big believer in both the numbers, and how my general attitude has changed in each age bracket.
20-23 = early 20s = get drunk, don’t care about anything
24-26 = mid 20s = get drunk, adult habits begin to kick in
27-29 = late 20s = get drunk, existential crisis about how I need to get my life together
Let me caveat all of this by saying your early 20s is exactly when you should be going through all of this and really determining who you are, so break up, quit your job, move across the country. Do it all now when the consequences are lessened.
That being said, I’m going to take the (what I believe will be) unpopular route in here and say that I actually think that we, in this current age, are too prone to searching for some mystical “right,” and it’s what has made us so unsatisfied with what is “good” in our lives.
Take for instance relationships, we bounce around on Tinder, Bumble, etc. and we’ve got so many options that it becomes “this date was good, but there’s probably perfect out there,” and we tend to give up instead of putting any effort in and calling it “not meant to be.” This attitude has permeated into marriage with people getting divorces as soon as the midlife crisis hits or things get hard. On the other hand, arranged marriages tend to be happier after the first three years because the participants understand that the relationship is a job and you need to learn to make it work.
I’ve found that, at least for myself and those I’m closest to, we really need to take a look at whether we’re looking to make a change because it is what will fulfill us most in the future, or if we’re just doing it because it’s easier to blow it up and assume that Future You will magically make things work, than it is to rebuild and risk real failure.
The fact that we’re programmed to validate our choices after the fact means we’ll almost always say we made the right decision to blow it up in the past. But take some time to really appreciate the life you have, and only then think through what it is you should be doing to make yourself happier long term.
There’s nothing wrong with a “good” life, and the fact that it’s not always stimulating every aspect of your being doesn’t mean it’s not “right.”
Do good, have fun, ya’ll.
My one buddy had a buffet wedding, but he had a food truck doing it, so they continued making food throughout the night. Nothing nearly as clutch as being at a vineyard while a truck is pumping out all the BBQ and fixings your heart could desire long into the night.
Great reasoning, but Thursdays are my sacred Mexican food night, so I’ve taken to Wednesday night dates for those that I don’t care a lot about, and the slightly crazy but underrepresented Saturday afternoon date.
You can go for the late brunch, or show up after brunch and a little liquid courage. There are always activities and things to do that differentiate you from the drinks of every other first date, while still keeping it low-key. Plus there’s no I have to be at work tomorrow thoughts, and if it’s going well, you can “blow off” your Saturday night plans and keep the date going.
Friday: $0, girlfriend brought over pizza and the wine was free (meaning I bought it previously and therefore it somehow costs nothing)
Saturday: $35 on Mexican food and margs
Sunday: $32 on gas and a Gatorade, $84 at Home Depot
Every time a girl would compliment me for not sending a dick pic (please stop complimenting guys for not sexually assaulting your eyes), I would always send a picture of Richard Nixon and explain that I just wanted to fit in with all her other matches that obviously worked out so well.
It’s weird to realize you and I are the same age within a week. Funny thing is, I found dating refreshing by not giving a flippity fuck anymore (with sadly no 21-year-old women involved).
Can confirm, did that and the girl actually proposed we meet for our second date that night since she was busy the rest of the week. It made it all so much easier and less stressful.
I’m a big fan of the original 501 STF. That last part is key, because you’ll get the appropriate tapered look and it will actually fit your body without having to size up and down a ton. Buy them 2″ wider and 2-4″ longer than usual then use hot water and they’ll shrink perfectly.
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*slow clap* this was goddamn beautiful
On my first date, my now lady friend (so I guess it worked) and I decided to partake in a game of “creating the backstory for the people you’re watching” and then plan an elaborate heist – Ocean’s 11 style – using the characters we had created. Most fun I’ve ever had at a Hispanic festival down the street from an Oktoberfest.
I wish everyone ever read this.
I’ve never had a date meet me at my house before a first date (because as a guy I’m pretty sure every woman would be 1000% sure I was going to kill them), but I’ve always been fully on-board the Just Got Off Work as we meet at the bar…and yet every inch of me smells fresh and I’m wearing clothes that are both more casual and more stylish than the button up and wrinkled slacks I actually wore to work.
I went with the projector route, because for the same price as a 65″ TV, I’ve got 100″ of movie theater glory and a 7.1 surround sound system.
I’m honestly amazed, most girls I know claim mid twenties until like 29. I’m a big believer in both the numbers, and how my general attitude has changed in each age bracket.
20-23 = early 20s = get drunk, don’t care about anything
24-26 = mid 20s = get drunk, adult habits begin to kick in
27-29 = late 20s = get drunk, existential crisis about how I need to get my life together
I became a vampire 10 years ago and no longer show up in photos. Stop shaming me.
Well damn, I just wasted way more words to say the same basic thing.
Let me caveat all of this by saying your early 20s is exactly when you should be going through all of this and really determining who you are, so break up, quit your job, move across the country. Do it all now when the consequences are lessened.
That being said, I’m going to take the (what I believe will be) unpopular route in here and say that I actually think that we, in this current age, are too prone to searching for some mystical “right,” and it’s what has made us so unsatisfied with what is “good” in our lives.
Take for instance relationships, we bounce around on Tinder, Bumble, etc. and we’ve got so many options that it becomes “this date was good, but there’s probably perfect out there,” and we tend to give up instead of putting any effort in and calling it “not meant to be.” This attitude has permeated into marriage with people getting divorces as soon as the midlife crisis hits or things get hard. On the other hand, arranged marriages tend to be happier after the first three years because the participants understand that the relationship is a job and you need to learn to make it work.
I’ve found that, at least for myself and those I’m closest to, we really need to take a look at whether we’re looking to make a change because it is what will fulfill us most in the future, or if we’re just doing it because it’s easier to blow it up and assume that Future You will magically make things work, than it is to rebuild and risk real failure.
The fact that we’re programmed to validate our choices after the fact means we’ll almost always say we made the right decision to blow it up in the past. But take some time to really appreciate the life you have, and only then think through what it is you should be doing to make yourself happier long term.
There’s nothing wrong with a “good” life, and the fact that it’s not always stimulating every aspect of your being doesn’t mean it’s not “right.”
Do good, have fun, ya’ll.
And look at you now, running a major cleaning product company.
My one buddy had a buffet wedding, but he had a food truck doing it, so they continued making food throughout the night. Nothing nearly as clutch as being at a vineyard while a truck is pumping out all the BBQ and fixings your heart could desire long into the night.
Great reasoning, but Thursdays are my sacred Mexican food night, so I’ve taken to Wednesday night dates for those that I don’t care a lot about, and the slightly crazy but underrepresented Saturday afternoon date.
You can go for the late brunch, or show up after brunch and a little liquid courage. There are always activities and things to do that differentiate you from the drinks of every other first date, while still keeping it low-key. Plus there’s no I have to be at work tomorrow thoughts, and if it’s going well, you can “blow off” your Saturday night plans and keep the date going.
Name checks out.
Friday: $0, girlfriend brought over pizza and the wine was free (meaning I bought it previously and therefore it somehow costs nothing)
Saturday: $35 on Mexican food and margs
Sunday: $32 on gas and a Gatorade, $84 at Home Depot
This might be my most grownup weekend in months.
Both my girlfriend and my dog are unhappy with me constantly asking my dog if he “has a ruff life”
Every time a girl would compliment me for not sending a dick pic (please stop complimenting guys for not sexually assaulting your eyes), I would always send a picture of Richard Nixon and explain that I just wanted to fit in with all her other matches that obviously worked out so well.
It’s weird to realize you and I are the same age within a week. Funny thing is, I found dating refreshing by not giving a flippity fuck anymore (with sadly no 21-year-old women involved).
Can confirm, did that and the girl actually proposed we meet for our second date that night since she was busy the rest of the week. It made it all so much easier and less stressful.
I have so many questions, and so few of them have to do with the cookware.
Well, this was a thing that I read on a Monday morning.
I’m a big fan of the original 501 STF. That last part is key, because you’ll get the appropriate tapered look and it will actually fit your body without having to size up and down a ton. Buy them 2″ wider and 2-4″ longer than usual then use hot water and they’ll shrink perfectly.