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Every single day of the week has a feel to it. Mondays are similar to that of having something stuck in your teeth the entire day. Tuesdays are like falling asleep in a huge lecture class. Wednesdays are like a lunch break where you’re catching up on homework that you didn’t do the night before. Thursdays, meanwhile, feel like December 23rd – not quite Christmas Eve, but close enough that you don’t mind waiting anymore. Of course, Fridays are like the first time you were left at home alone without a babysitter while Saturdays are the first day of spring break in middle school.
Sundays, though. You can feel Sundays no matter how you decide to encounter you encounter them. If you’re hungover, there’s a weight that you can’t seem to shake until you finally fall into a melatonin-induced sleep around 11 p.m. when the weekend is finally over. If you were responsible enough to stay in the night before, you can tackle the day methodically and indulge without guilt. Coffee and pastries can lead into pizza and beer, all culminating with a quiet night at home with a movie or television show. But no matter how you go about it, Sundays are a time to be selfish and do whatever you have to do to feel good about yourself going into the long work week ahead.
So yes, it should go without saying that GQ’s insinuation that “Sunday is the best day for a first date.”
You can make a case to go on a first date pretty much any day of the week, but depicting Sunday night as the premiere date night is reckless and irresponsible. Let’s take some excerpts from Lauren Larson’s piece and dissect why you should never, under any circumstances, ask someone on a first date to end your weekend.
On Sundays you’re not competing with a million Friday night revelers for bar stools, and you’re not competing with all the cool Friday night parties your date could be at that night. Still, the best thing about Sunday is its distance from the horrors of the workweek.
The flaw in this argument is simply that Friday nights are close to Sunday nights in terms of where they should fall on the scale of Best Nights To Go On First Dates. Friday nights, for all intents and purposes, should not be reserved for uncomfortable and forced conversations. Friday nights are your first opportunity to unwind from a week of emails and meetings; they’re not meant to pigeonhole yourself with another party in a crowded bar full of young professionals looking to blow off some steam.
Furthermore, the notion that “the best thing about Sunday is its distance from the horrors of the workweek” is simply incorrect. Not only are you staring down the barrel of Monday’s gun, you’re imagining all the pieces you have to pick up the next morning from all the slacking you did on Friday.
I believe that our social skills peak on Sunday nights, only to return to a monosyllabic nadir on Monday morning … After a weekend of safe chats with people I know well, by Sunday evening I’ve refined all my new funny jokes, and I’m properly lubed up for chit-chat with a stranger.
I’m not going to pretend that the author and I should have all the same viewpoints. That’s simply not the case. But most people’s social skills are completely zapped come Sunday night. We’re social creatures who enjoy spending the majority of our free time in crowded bars – especially when single and testing the waters while dating. Bars are, for better or worse (more worse), the best place to meet someone easily which is why we flock to them weekend-in and weekend-out.
She does, however, admit that there are some fundamental flaws.
There are two potential downsides to the Sunday date. The first is that should your date go badly, you’ll wake up Monday morning bathed in misery and your game will be shook all week long. But your date won’t go badly, because you’ll both be your best Sunday selves. The other potential downside is the Sunday curfew. I have a strong lizard response against staying up late on Sundays, such that even if the date is the best ever, at 11 P.M. I will immediately terminate it and scuttle away to bed.
The last thing I want to do after a long weekend is 1.) spend valuable time with someone I’ve never met before, and 2.) spend even more valuable money on someone I’ve never met before. Yes, not every date requires you to spend money, but there are only so many things Sunday nights have to offer. You can throw hiking out the window when all your body is craving is a fat glass of cabernet and a bowl of pasta. And once that date appears to be going well, so do three more glasses of that cabernet which all lead to the dreaded Monday morning hangover. You know, that thing we all desperately try to avoid.
But here’s where we go off the rails.
One little-known benefit of the Sunday date is that it fully dissolves the Sunday scaries. The Sunday scaries, for those who are blissfully unaware, is the anxiety that sets in before you go back to work after the weekend (again, I love my job—but I actively dread getting up early to do it). Most people nurse their Sunday scaries by drinking anyway, so why not drink away your jitters with another person?
No no no no no, every day of the week and a million times on Sunday.
Yes, she drew her exact definition from a site that I created. No, this does not make her an expert. Curing your Sunday Scaries by drinking is quite possibly the worst way to cure them. It only amplifies said anxiety come Monday. To do all of that with a total stranger? No. No no no no no.
With any first date, there comes anxiety. There’s a hope and optimism that the date will go well that’s also paired with the dread that you could end up spending the next two hours with someone who you don’t hit it off with. Preparing for a first date is akin to preparing for a big presentation or a high school soccer game – you need to be prepared, you need to feel confident, and you need to get up for it. None of which are things normally associated with Sundays by any stretch of the imagination.
Have a family dinner. Engage in a quarter-life crisis. Eat a bowl of bucatini. Just don’t go on a first date with someone you met online.
She references a “Sunday kind of love,” which is a phrase not connected with a blossoming love at all. Sunday dates are the perfect way to unwind with a long-term partner, but something to avoid at all costs if you’re still swiping away in your Uber home from the bars at 2 a.m. .