I’m going to be the last of my siblings to have children, and I’m mildly worried my mom won’t even be excited by then. It’ll just be “oh great, another birthday to memorize.”
I’m married to a smoker, so I feel this girl’s pain. I actually gave him the ultimatum up front before we started dating (told him I wouldn’t date a smoker) so he “quit” for about 2 years before we got engaged, then picked it back up (in hindsight I’ve realized he probably never quit and just hid it from me). Anyway, I bring it up every now and then so he knows how I feel about it, but he has pretty severe anxiety and I know outright quitting is going to be incredibly hard. I also know that he has to genuinely WANT to quit for it to work, and with his stressful job and anxiety, idk when that will happen. Everything else in our relationship is great though so I almost feel bad making too big a deal out of smoking. It’s just not the hill I want to die on…at least yet.
I left a company that allowed jeans every Friday and every day during the summer, and went to a company that almost never allows jeans. At first I didn’t think it would bother me that much, but my God if I don’t think about how much I miss it every. single. day.
It’s literally a free morale-booster. I don’t understand why some bosses are so against it.
Literally came here to say this. I mean geez kids, you probably won’t even remember these people’s names in 7 years. No one cares about your “problems.”
THIS. I have a friend who literally TRAVELS FOR WORK and she got a dog. Shockingly, she couldn’t find anyone willing to watch her dog 2-3 days a week for her so now she pays for expensive boarding for almost half the dog’s life.
I have another friend who got a Bernese Mountain dog when he lives in a 3 bedroom townhouse with 2 other roommates. They have no yard and the roommates are constantly having to clean up after him.
So I’d add to this list: don’t get a dog if you live in a shared space. Your roommates will never love your dog as much as you do and it will just drive a wedge between you.
Agreed. I had almost the exact same situation happen to me about a year into my first adult apartment. Roommate’s BF was still in college and wanted to move in with us for the summer so he didn’t have to go back and live at his mom’s. I think he offered us like $25 a week or something ridiculous. He was already there more than I preferred and they fought a lot. But I also hate confrontation so I took the text message route to talk to the roommate. I knew it would be screenshotted and sent to him and potentially other mutual friends so I made sure it sounded diplomatic. Shockingly, it went over just fine and she apologized for even considering it and he removed all his shit from the place the same day. Hope it works out the same for you.
Started a new job last week after being at my previous one for over 7 years. The Sunday Scaries the night before were so real, and I definitely said that it felt like the first day of school.
This may not be a popular comment, but to the guy thinking NOLA over NYE without his gf needs to reconsider. NYE is a holiday that girls generally want to spend with their SO’s (kiss at midnight HELLO), and taking a boy’s trip to a notoriously risky destination makes me think the gf would probably blow a gasket when she finds out. At the very least, he should run that by her (though I’d bet my firstborn she’s not gonna be on board).
Initially read the title of this article and thought it was “My Girlfriend Just Moved IN and I’m Turning Into Total Scum.” Was very confused. But alas, this turned out to be much more depressing.
As a seasoned bachelorette party attendee (as well as a former bride), I have a few more to add:
-Don’t pick a holiday weekend. Everyone else’s friends and significant others will be pissed, and flights and hotels will be at a premium. Trust me, I’ll still want to come even if I have to take some PTO.
-Please for the love of god, choose a hotel or AirBnB that’s actually big enough to accommodate everyone. I went to one last year where 12 girls shared 2 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms. Sorry, this isn’t freshman year spring break and I’m not sleeping on the same couch as your cousin Becky I’ve met once.
-Send out the dress code in advance. If I need a black romper or shorts to go with the fluorescent pink tank you’re making me wear, I need to know ASAP so I can go shopping if needed.
Team car lunch. When I call my husband or mom to bitch about what a cunt Beth in accounting is being today, I don’t want to have to worry if any coworkers are listening in from the booth behind me.
Nashvillian here and I will echo that it seems insanely hard to make friends in this town. I think it has to do a lot with how transient Nashville is. Literally zero of my friends are actually from Nashville (few are even from Tennessee), and none that I know of plan on staying long term. It makes the friend group turnover rate incredibly high. Someone’s always new or moving away. Best of luck to you.
I actually had enough room on my guest list to allow nearly all of my single friend’s and my fiance’s single friends a plus one to our wedding. At the time I was super proud of that fact and felt like I was being so nice and accommodating to consider that a lot of people don’t like to attend weddings by themselves and I at least gave them the option of bringing a date. However, now that the wedding has passed, I can’t help but regret that decision a little. My parents spent a few extra hundred they didn’t need to letting some randoms get drunk on their dime all night. Not to mention a girl who came as the date of one of my fiance’s degenerate friends (who I’d never met and have not seen or heard about since) caught my bouquet. I just think weddings are better left to people who actually care about the bride and groom.
I think this happens to everyone around the ages of 25-27. At first you kind of fight it because you still fear becoming “old” and “boring” but eventually, you’ll stop caring as much, and that’s honestly the most freeing thing ever. It’s a process though, just let it happen. Staying in on a Friday is now one of my favorite little pleasures in life. Order in, catch up on TV and wind down from a long week.
The Price of Gold about the Tonya Harding/Nancy Kerrigan scandal was AMAZING. I mean I always knew she was crazy, but my gosh that interview….I’m still not done being shocked by it.
There are benefits and drawbacks to both, but I tend to stick with after work most days, and on days when I have plans after work, I suck it up and go in the morning. I don’t feel like most girls have the luxury of going during lunch because re-showering, re-washing hair and re-applying makeup takes almost an hour in itself.
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I’m going to be the last of my siblings to have children, and I’m mildly worried my mom won’t even be excited by then. It’ll just be “oh great, another birthday to memorize.”
“but everyone’s the same height lying down.”
I’m married to a smoker, so I feel this girl’s pain. I actually gave him the ultimatum up front before we started dating (told him I wouldn’t date a smoker) so he “quit” for about 2 years before we got engaged, then picked it back up (in hindsight I’ve realized he probably never quit and just hid it from me). Anyway, I bring it up every now and then so he knows how I feel about it, but he has pretty severe anxiety and I know outright quitting is going to be incredibly hard. I also know that he has to genuinely WANT to quit for it to work, and with his stressful job and anxiety, idk when that will happen. Everything else in our relationship is great though so I almost feel bad making too big a deal out of smoking. It’s just not the hill I want to die on…at least yet.
Just left a job where my boss was one of my (real) best friends and I can’t tell you how much I miss it.
I left a company that allowed jeans every Friday and every day during the summer, and went to a company that almost never allows jeans. At first I didn’t think it would bother me that much, but my God if I don’t think about how much I miss it every. single. day.
It’s literally a free morale-booster. I don’t understand why some bosses are so against it.
Literally came here to say this. I mean geez kids, you probably won’t even remember these people’s names in 7 years. No one cares about your “problems.”
THIS. I have a friend who literally TRAVELS FOR WORK and she got a dog. Shockingly, she couldn’t find anyone willing to watch her dog 2-3 days a week for her so now she pays for expensive boarding for almost half the dog’s life.
I have another friend who got a Bernese Mountain dog when he lives in a 3 bedroom townhouse with 2 other roommates. They have no yard and the roommates are constantly having to clean up after him.
So I’d add to this list: don’t get a dog if you live in a shared space. Your roommates will never love your dog as much as you do and it will just drive a wedge between you.
Agreed. I had almost the exact same situation happen to me about a year into my first adult apartment. Roommate’s BF was still in college and wanted to move in with us for the summer so he didn’t have to go back and live at his mom’s. I think he offered us like $25 a week or something ridiculous. He was already there more than I preferred and they fought a lot. But I also hate confrontation so I took the text message route to talk to the roommate. I knew it would be screenshotted and sent to him and potentially other mutual friends so I made sure it sounded diplomatic. Shockingly, it went over just fine and she apologized for even considering it and he removed all his shit from the place the same day. Hope it works out the same for you.
Started a new job last week after being at my previous one for over 7 years. The Sunday Scaries the night before were so real, and I definitely said that it felt like the first day of school.
This may not be a popular comment, but to the guy thinking NOLA over NYE without his gf needs to reconsider. NYE is a holiday that girls generally want to spend with their SO’s (kiss at midnight HELLO), and taking a boy’s trip to a notoriously risky destination makes me think the gf would probably blow a gasket when she finds out. At the very least, he should run that by her (though I’d bet my firstborn she’s not gonna be on board).
Initially read the title of this article and thought it was “My Girlfriend Just Moved IN and I’m Turning Into Total Scum.” Was very confused. But alas, this turned out to be much more depressing.
As a seasoned bachelorette party attendee (as well as a former bride), I have a few more to add:
-Don’t pick a holiday weekend. Everyone else’s friends and significant others will be pissed, and flights and hotels will be at a premium. Trust me, I’ll still want to come even if I have to take some PTO.
-Please for the love of god, choose a hotel or AirBnB that’s actually big enough to accommodate everyone. I went to one last year where 12 girls shared 2 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms. Sorry, this isn’t freshman year spring break and I’m not sleeping on the same couch as your cousin Becky I’ve met once.
-Send out the dress code in advance. If I need a black romper or shorts to go with the fluorescent pink tank you’re making me wear, I need to know ASAP so I can go shopping if needed.
Team car lunch. When I call my husband or mom to bitch about what a cunt Beth in accounting is being today, I don’t want to have to worry if any coworkers are listening in from the booth behind me.
Nashvillian here and I will echo that it seems insanely hard to make friends in this town. I think it has to do a lot with how transient Nashville is. Literally zero of my friends are actually from Nashville (few are even from Tennessee), and none that I know of plan on staying long term. It makes the friend group turnover rate incredibly high. Someone’s always new or moving away. Best of luck to you.
I kept waiting for this article to get started and then all of a sudden it was over.
Holy shit he seriously fake proposed?! After 3 years?! He 100% deserves this. What a dick.
ATTENTION ALL MEN: DO NOT EVER FAKE PROPOSE TO A GIRL, EVER.
I actually had enough room on my guest list to allow nearly all of my single friend’s and my fiance’s single friends a plus one to our wedding. At the time I was super proud of that fact and felt like I was being so nice and accommodating to consider that a lot of people don’t like to attend weddings by themselves and I at least gave them the option of bringing a date. However, now that the wedding has passed, I can’t help but regret that decision a little. My parents spent a few extra hundred they didn’t need to letting some randoms get drunk on their dime all night. Not to mention a girl who came as the date of one of my fiance’s degenerate friends (who I’d never met and have not seen or heard about since) caught my bouquet. I just think weddings are better left to people who actually care about the bride and groom.
I think this happens to everyone around the ages of 25-27. At first you kind of fight it because you still fear becoming “old” and “boring” but eventually, you’ll stop caring as much, and that’s honestly the most freeing thing ever. It’s a process though, just let it happen. Staying in on a Friday is now one of my favorite little pleasures in life. Order in, catch up on TV and wind down from a long week.
The Price of Gold about the Tonya Harding/Nancy Kerrigan scandal was AMAZING. I mean I always knew she was crazy, but my gosh that interview….I’m still not done being shocked by it.
There are benefits and drawbacks to both, but I tend to stick with after work most days, and on days when I have plans after work, I suck it up and go in the morning. I don’t feel like most girls have the luxury of going during lunch because re-showering, re-washing hair and re-applying makeup takes almost an hour in itself.