I do way too many of these, so apparently I’ve shamelessly embraced the basic lifestyle. Now the goal is to avoid crossing the line between being basic and being like Girl in TGDAG.
Sorry that happened (twice). I agree changing your mind about meeting up is understandable, but I think it’s just common courtesy to send at least a “hey sorry can’t make it” text if concrete plans have been made.
Personal trainers are great, but if they’re too expensive, there are also workout guides that are actually pretty decent at providing structured plans (Amanda Bisk, Kayla Itsines, etc). As a former college athlete who had to realize that the real world doesn’t allow for 3 hour/day workouts, I wasn’t sure if they would work for me to stay in shape but they’ve been surprisingly good for feeling strong and lean, especially if you eat as healthy as you already do.
Almost automatic swipe left if every single one of a guy’s photos is a selfie, which sadly happens way too often. That being said, fishing photos and no bio aren’t complete dealbreakers for me (ideally yes, the bio would be clever and make me laugh but I get that’s hard to do in 300 characters).
It’s totally okay to be awkward as a guy or girl; as EandD said, no one’s game is 100% perfect all the time. It’s less okay to define yourself as being awkward or “quirky” because you think that’s the new cool thing to be (which I’ve seen happen some for guys but definitely more for girls).
I agree that asking to meet up in person somewhat early on is good, but I’d also prefer at least a couple of messages back and forth just to make sure that the guy is relatively normal before taking it offline.
For me personally (please feel free to chime in, Best or Rachel or anyone else!), the pic with a dog doesn’t just show “does he have a cute dog that I can play with” (although that would be great), it’s more of a sign that you like dogs at least enough to pose with one and dogs are my favorite animal, so we have something in common. It’s also a good and easy conversation opener for us, and if we ask about the dog, even if it’s not yours, you can say it belongs to your friend but you wish you had one/had one as a kid/think the dog is so much fun/ask her if she has any pets, etc. As long as you’re prepared with a way to continue the conversation if we ask about it, that’s fine.
^agree with Rachel on both counts, I’m much more likely to swipe right in general if there’s something written (unless it’s a million random emojis). That being said, if you have a pic with a dog, it’s an automatic right swipe.
100% agree. You’ve already brought it up with Jenny and she’s given multiple excuses so that’s a major sign that (sadly) she may not ever come around/want to go back to an official relationship, even though that’s what you’re hoping for. It seems like everything with Katie is going well, so I’d go with her. Something else to keep in mind is that it takes time to forget someone–hopefully as you hang out more with Katie, you gradually will start thinking about Jenny less and less.
Don’t worry about it! As cliché as it sounds, it’s all about timing. It’s great that you love your job, and you’re feeling secure in income/housing, and it seems like those have been your primary focus over the past years. Now that you’re confident in both of those, you hopefully have more time to try the dating scene (bars, dating apps, meeting friends of friends etc) if that’s what you want, and self-confidence is always attractive. 24 isn’t old at all, so don’t feel pressured (or panic) about trying to make it all happen immediately.
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I do way too many of these, so apparently I’ve shamelessly embraced the basic lifestyle. Now the goal is to avoid crossing the line between being basic and being like Girl in TGDAG.
Sorry that happened (twice). I agree changing your mind about meeting up is understandable, but I think it’s just common courtesy to send at least a “hey sorry can’t make it” text if concrete plans have been made.
Personal trainers are great, but if they’re too expensive, there are also workout guides that are actually pretty decent at providing structured plans (Amanda Bisk, Kayla Itsines, etc). As a former college athlete who had to realize that the real world doesn’t allow for 3 hour/day workouts, I wasn’t sure if they would work for me to stay in shape but they’ve been surprisingly good for feeling strong and lean, especially if you eat as healthy as you already do.
Uncle Rick and Todd’s dad are tied for my two favorite characters in TGDAG.
Almost automatic swipe left if every single one of a guy’s photos is a selfie, which sadly happens way too often. That being said, fishing photos and no bio aren’t complete dealbreakers for me (ideally yes, the bio would be clever and make me laugh but I get that’s hard to do in 300 characters).
Those don’t even sound like they’re that comfortable–yoga pants are the way to go.
It’s totally okay to be awkward as a guy or girl; as EandD said, no one’s game is 100% perfect all the time. It’s less okay to define yourself as being awkward or “quirky” because you think that’s the new cool thing to be (which I’ve seen happen some for guys but definitely more for girls).
All of these other bios make the avid sports fan sound a lot better.
This should definitely boost your confidence
Tripp would definitely want in on this plan too.
I agree that asking to meet up in person somewhat early on is good, but I’d also prefer at least a couple of messages back and forth just to make sure that the guy is relatively normal before taking it offline.
TGDAG is the highlight of my Wednesdays (PGP?). Please don’t leave us hanging, Will.
For me personally (please feel free to chime in, Best or Rachel or anyone else!), the pic with a dog doesn’t just show “does he have a cute dog that I can play with” (although that would be great), it’s more of a sign that you like dogs at least enough to pose with one and dogs are my favorite animal, so we have something in common. It’s also a good and easy conversation opener for us, and if we ask about the dog, even if it’s not yours, you can say it belongs to your friend but you wish you had one/had one as a kid/think the dog is so much fun/ask her if she has any pets, etc. As long as you’re prepared with a way to continue the conversation if we ask about it, that’s fine.
^agree with Rachel on both counts, I’m much more likely to swipe right in general if there’s something written (unless it’s a million random emojis). That being said, if you have a pic with a dog, it’s an automatic right swipe.
100% agree. You’ve already brought it up with Jenny and she’s given multiple excuses so that’s a major sign that (sadly) she may not ever come around/want to go back to an official relationship, even though that’s what you’re hoping for. It seems like everything with Katie is going well, so I’d go with her. Something else to keep in mind is that it takes time to forget someone–hopefully as you hang out more with Katie, you gradually will start thinking about Jenny less and less.
Sounds like a close call, it’s probably a good thing that you managed to escape early.
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Extra points if the bottle has something like “myprotein” or “bodybuilding.com” written all over it.
Don’t worry about it! As cliché as it sounds, it’s all about timing. It’s great that you love your job, and you’re feeling secure in income/housing, and it seems like those have been your primary focus over the past years. Now that you’re confident in both of those, you hopefully have more time to try the dating scene (bars, dating apps, meeting friends of friends etc) if that’s what you want, and self-confidence is always attractive. 24 isn’t old at all, so don’t feel pressured (or panic) about trying to make it all happen immediately.