Life is messy, folks. I am friends with two women who don’t even know each other whose husbands both cheated on and left them for their best friends…Not a co-worker, people- their best friends. That is wrong. Cheating is wrong. Telling someone the truth is NEVER wrong. Lying is. I don’t understand why we are having this conversation. Mark is and always will be a good guy…a good guy with bad timing.
Lost your mom- keep it factual, slightly sentimental and move on like “lost my mom recently, she was an amazing person, it’s been tough but it brought our family closer together” (be careful not to gloss over it is my point, you are a human being after all)
Tennis coach- really simple, be her friend and listen, be there for aftermath but ultimately it is her decision to hang out with who she wants to hang out with
Noel- If he doesn’t pronounce it Noel like Joel, give me a break. p.s. the moral of the story ladies and gents is don’t name your kid Noel
Alleycat tamer- move on, there is a guy out there that wants you that you don’t have to train
I love Christmas but this article makes me want to start a Go Fund Me for Thanksgiving. You gotta wait until the day after Thanksgiving! You just got to. I wag my finger at my neighbors who start Christmas decorating before Thanksgiving. Give Thanksgiving a chance. Feels so schizophrenic to say Happy Thanksgiving during dinner staring at Xmas stockings on the fireplace…But I dig the sentiment behind the piece
Had never heard of white chicken chili till I moved to Chicago (from Florida) and had it for the first time at this couple’s Oscar party 10 years ago. I still remember that chili. I’ve tried to replicate it twice- they gave me the recipe but it did not taste the same. Out of curiosity does your recipe include cornbread and goat cheese on top?
This is my point summed up. Who cares? You blossomed- that’s wonderful- good on you. But the fact that you want to show it off almost indicates no growth on the inside. Go because you care about seeing certain people you fell out of touch with and you want to celebrate their success- not yours. To care about showing off your ugly duckling to swan transformation is not inspiring. But don’t get me wrong- I know a lot of people do this “if you can see me now!” thing (whole reason behind FBs popularity) but you have better things to do. Trust me. Oh and they will not care.
Travis, is that you? My husband is a big believer in this advice and has never bought a new car ever and guess what? He’s debt free and tons of cash in the bank that he made before we got married just saving and making smart choices…like buying Dollar Store soda…Holler if you drink Faygo (btw, what a horrible name to pick Dollar Store). And no I don’t drink it- I have dignity
We like to go “musical.” One year, we were Axle Rose and Slash, one year, Robert Palmer and one of his iconic girl backup singers from that video. I think musicians and legends are always a hit (people come up to you and sing their songs at you at the party)
Can get behind most of these but the thing is, Piece of S, excuse me, may I call you that? ;-), regarding #11, if you haven’t forgiven someone, you haven’t moved on. Forgiveness is essential to moving on in the best way because when you move on after forgiving, you move on and rise above those haters and who doesn’t want that?
Not one to spend a ton of money on grooming/self-care but I am big believer in the fact that sometimes a great pair of shoes, the perfect pair of jeans or a great haircut can change your life
I have never met an asshole who uses exclamation points. I, for one, love exclamation points- especially when showing gratitude or congrats or giving compliments. Look at these two sentences “You look fantastic.” Versus, “You look fantastic!” Which one would you rather be the recipient of?! 😉
The biggest thing I would also say to is be a little antisocial the first 30 days unless you have a buddy losing weight with you- Avoid going out so you are not tempted and get meal envy when you order the Cobb salad and they get the triple cheeseburger
That’s what I said: “Is not a nice person.” Please read my post again. We agree. And, it’s not a bad comparison because what I’m saying is, your butthole is on your person- it’s part of your body. Just cause waste comes out doesn’t mean you treat it with less respect or TLC than your face or arms. Which is why my comparison works: just cause someone is serving you food doesn’t mean you get to treat them poorly (drops mic).
This. It all comes down to the toilet paper. For me the measure of how cheap someone is, is exactly what you stated: cheap toilet paper. If someone doesn’t have the decency to treat their anus with basic TLC, they are not only cheap but dangerous because if that’s how they treat their own ass, how will they treat you? It’s like that saying: A person who is not nice to the waitress is not a nice person. I say, “he who wipes rectum with cheap toilet paper…”
I wouldn’t say trash move (way harsh,Ty) but I do think it’s pretty narcissistic to take a day off from work to celebrate, well, yourself. Whenever I hear that a co-worker is not at work because it’s their birthday, I do kind of cringe
To “Boyfriend Shoved Me”: Listen to your instincts. Your instincts know if this is a good man who made a terrible mistake or a bad man with a major character flaw. I have a friend whose boyfriend cheated on her in college. She forgave him. They got married and they have two kiddos. Their relationship actually improved after the cheating. He bared his soul- she bared hers. Guess what? Half the girls in our friends group who told her to leave him are in shitty marriages now. There are no rules. It’s not “once a cheater always a cheater” or “once a beater always a beater.” He’s your guy- you know him best. Think hard and deep and ask yourself “could I see him doing this to me again?” And, if the answer is yes, leave.
Dear Virgin, being somewhat ashamed or feeling like a freak because you haven’t done the deed is some tyranny of the majority level type of ridiculousness. “Most people are not virgins at 30” So what? Own it. The problem you have is not being a virgin, the problem you have is you don’t embrace it. You see it as something freakish liability and it’s not. When you meet a girl you’re into, tell her “You know what? Just never got there, waiting for the right person.” And if she’s kind, sexy, sensual, compassionate and adventurous- she will look at it as an opportunity not a liability. Please go rock on with your bad virgin self.
Props on getting sober- honestly that is very hard to do. But, and you knew this was coming, hospitality cannot be overdone, my dear. You are serving food, correct? Why? Because you understand that your guests will be appreciative of it and expect it. The same argument for not serving alcohol could be made for not serving food (yes, I am being hyperbolic). The point is, serving alcohol to make your guests feel more comfortable, happier, is the hospitable thing to do. Nothing more- nothing less.
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Life is messy, folks. I am friends with two women who don’t even know each other whose husbands both cheated on and left them for their best friends…Not a co-worker, people- their best friends. That is wrong. Cheating is wrong. Telling someone the truth is NEVER wrong. Lying is. I don’t understand why we are having this conversation. Mark is and always will be a good guy…a good guy with bad timing.
Lost your mom- keep it factual, slightly sentimental and move on like “lost my mom recently, she was an amazing person, it’s been tough but it brought our family closer together” (be careful not to gloss over it is my point, you are a human being after all)
Tennis coach- really simple, be her friend and listen, be there for aftermath but ultimately it is her decision to hang out with who she wants to hang out with
Noel- If he doesn’t pronounce it Noel like Joel, give me a break. p.s. the moral of the story ladies and gents is don’t name your kid Noel
Alleycat tamer- move on, there is a guy out there that wants you that you don’t have to train
I love Christmas but this article makes me want to start a Go Fund Me for Thanksgiving. You gotta wait until the day after Thanksgiving! You just got to. I wag my finger at my neighbors who start Christmas decorating before Thanksgiving. Give Thanksgiving a chance. Feels so schizophrenic to say Happy Thanksgiving during dinner staring at Xmas stockings on the fireplace…But I dig the sentiment behind the piece
Had never heard of white chicken chili till I moved to Chicago (from Florida) and had it for the first time at this couple’s Oscar party 10 years ago. I still remember that chili. I’ve tried to replicate it twice- they gave me the recipe but it did not taste the same. Out of curiosity does your recipe include cornbread and goat cheese on top?
This is my point summed up. Who cares? You blossomed- that’s wonderful- good on you. But the fact that you want to show it off almost indicates no growth on the inside. Go because you care about seeing certain people you fell out of touch with and you want to celebrate their success- not yours. To care about showing off your ugly duckling to swan transformation is not inspiring. But don’t get me wrong- I know a lot of people do this “if you can see me now!” thing (whole reason behind FBs popularity) but you have better things to do. Trust me. Oh and they will not care.
Travis, is that you? My husband is a big believer in this advice and has never bought a new car ever and guess what? He’s debt free and tons of cash in the bank that he made before we got married just saving and making smart choices…like buying Dollar Store soda…Holler if you drink Faygo (btw, what a horrible name to pick Dollar Store). And no I don’t drink it- I have dignity
We like to go “musical.” One year, we were Axle Rose and Slash, one year, Robert Palmer and one of his iconic girl backup singers from that video. I think musicians and legends are always a hit (people come up to you and sing their songs at you at the party)
Can get behind most of these but the thing is, Piece of S, excuse me, may I call you that? ;-), regarding #11, if you haven’t forgiven someone, you haven’t moved on. Forgiveness is essential to moving on in the best way because when you move on after forgiving, you move on and rise above those haters and who doesn’t want that?
“..ask for help. We could all benefit from talking to someone once a week without fear of judgment.” Word. So much word to this.
Not one to spend a ton of money on grooming/self-care but I am big believer in the fact that sometimes a great pair of shoes, the perfect pair of jeans or a great haircut can change your life
I have never met an asshole who uses exclamation points. I, for one, love exclamation points- especially when showing gratitude or congrats or giving compliments. Look at these two sentences “You look fantastic.” Versus, “You look fantastic!” Which one would you rather be the recipient of?! 😉
The biggest thing I would also say to is be a little antisocial the first 30 days unless you have a buddy losing weight with you- Avoid going out so you are not tempted and get meal envy when you order the Cobb salad and they get the triple cheeseburger
That’s what I said: “Is not a nice person.” Please read my post again. We agree. And, it’s not a bad comparison because what I’m saying is, your butthole is on your person- it’s part of your body. Just cause waste comes out doesn’t mean you treat it with less respect or TLC than your face or arms. Which is why my comparison works: just cause someone is serving you food doesn’t mean you get to treat them poorly (drops mic).
This. It all comes down to the toilet paper. For me the measure of how cheap someone is, is exactly what you stated: cheap toilet paper. If someone doesn’t have the decency to treat their anus with basic TLC, they are not only cheap but dangerous because if that’s how they treat their own ass, how will they treat you? It’s like that saying: A person who is not nice to the waitress is not a nice person. I say, “he who wipes rectum with cheap toilet paper…”
I wouldn’t say trash move (way harsh,Ty) but I do think it’s pretty narcissistic to take a day off from work to celebrate, well, yourself. Whenever I hear that a co-worker is not at work because it’s their birthday, I do kind of cringe
how are we supposed to make a wish at a fountain if we get rid of coins? asking for a friend
To “Boyfriend Shoved Me”: Listen to your instincts. Your instincts know if this is a good man who made a terrible mistake or a bad man with a major character flaw. I have a friend whose boyfriend cheated on her in college. She forgave him. They got married and they have two kiddos. Their relationship actually improved after the cheating. He bared his soul- she bared hers. Guess what? Half the girls in our friends group who told her to leave him are in shitty marriages now. There are no rules. It’s not “once a cheater always a cheater” or “once a beater always a beater.” He’s your guy- you know him best. Think hard and deep and ask yourself “could I see him doing this to me again?” And, if the answer is yes, leave.
Dear Virgin, being somewhat ashamed or feeling like a freak because you haven’t done the deed is some tyranny of the majority level type of ridiculousness. “Most people are not virgins at 30” So what? Own it. The problem you have is not being a virgin, the problem you have is you don’t embrace it. You see it as something freakish liability and it’s not. When you meet a girl you’re into, tell her “You know what? Just never got there, waiting for the right person.” And if she’s kind, sexy, sensual, compassionate and adventurous- she will look at it as an opportunity not a liability. Please go rock on with your bad virgin self.
Props on getting sober- honestly that is very hard to do. But, and you knew this was coming, hospitality cannot be overdone, my dear. You are serving food, correct? Why? Because you understand that your guests will be appreciative of it and expect it. The same argument for not serving alcohol could be made for not serving food (yes, I am being hyperbolic). The point is, serving alcohol to make your guests feel more comfortable, happier, is the hospitable thing to do. Nothing more- nothing less.