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The Mailbag, a podcast based on this series, is launching Wednseday. The questions that make the podcast will be a combination of emails (if you’d like to remain anonymous) and voicemails. The hotline number is above. Please give me plenty to choose from so that we start off strong with interesting topics of discussion.
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Sup snacc lookin’ ass,
Do you think a future brother in law should be invited to your bachelor party? It didn’t even cross my mind to invite the BIL to mine, but I’m hearing this is not typically the move. My future BIL is a nice enough guy but we aren’t that tight and I just think that would be a weird thing to do. Thoughts?
This is always a tough one. Ideally, you do not want the brother of your future bride at your bachelor party. You really don’t even want him knowing what goes on during your bachelor party. It’s not for him, especially if you two aren’t close.
It’s your final celebration of being single. Shit gets weird on these things. Do you want her brother around for the novelty strip club outing? Do you want her brother around when the “should we find some cocaine?” conversation comes up? Do you want her brother around when the topic of past hookups is broached? Do you want him seeing you blacked out?
This is your time to be selfish, man. The wedding and all related activities are about you and your bride-to-be. If I’m you, I do not invite him.
Ca$h Munny Dillionaire:
Ltft whatever. I’ll keep it short and sweet. I’m back on the dating app train and keep seeing Instagram handles in the bios of the ladies. Is this an open invitation to slide into the DM’s or are they just trying to stack up followers? Probably going to get the most insight from the PGP hunnies in the comment section. Be well, slugger.
I think people do this for two reasons: 1) to provide you a direct line of communication via DM, and 2) to showcase more of who they are.
These apps only allow you to upload a handful of pictures. Dropping the handle gives you an entire photo album to peruse, as well as their witty captions, all their girlfriends gassing them up, etc. It’s always a good sign, in my opinion, when they include their handle. It lets you know they want you to see more of them. It’s confident. If she has three heavily edited/filtered pictures in her profile and no Instagram handle in the bio, she’s likely not much of a looker.
That’s how we think. Sorry, ladies.
Aye Dill, Another LTFT coming at ya.
My brother and I are about 3 years apart in age, (myself being younger.) We look and sound pretty similar, but once you get to know us, we’re like water and oil. My whole life, I’ve always wanted to the traditional older brother, younger brother relationship, but he was always off doing his own thing, hanging out with other people, not generally thinking about spending time with me. As time went along, we grew into 2 seperate people, with opposing views on a multitude of fronts.
An example of this would be, my major in school is STEM based, his is in business. I went away to school, he stayed at home (and still lives there currently after graduation.) I stand more liberal with my decisions, he’s more conservative. I’ve dated, he hasn’t started dating yet (story for another time) and so on. Our relationship is fine when I’m home, and we still talk to each other throughout the week, but I’ve always wanted more out of it. I’m in my early 20s, and don’t want to have a sibling relationship with my brother, but a friendship relationship… do you think it is too late, and should stick with I got, or do you think I can salvage it? If so, what can I do?
Side note: (He doesn’t drink, so getting the casual brew with him is out of the question, or else this would be a slightly easier prediciment in terms of bonding.)
Of course it’s not too late. I am the youngest of three siblings — I have two sisters. We get closer every day and have gotten very close throughout the years. We don’t have a ton in common, either. In my early 20s, we weren’t so close. Life’s circumstances can push people apart. It doesn’t matter much that you two don’t share common ground about things. You just need to find a way to talk and hang out more.
Him not drinking is a definite hurdle, though. Alcohol brings everyone together.
FTLT. So this is embarrassing to talk about. I recently turned 30 and I’m still a virgin.
Losing my virginity was something I always intended on doing but it just hasn’t worked out. I got my heartbroken my freshman year of college by the only girl I was ever in love with and it made me really insecure ever since. It’s been difficult to even attempt to date women because I’m very skittish about being rejected.
My virginity was a huge topic of discussion during my college years amongst my friends. I ended up lying to them and told them I had sex with a girl I was only casually hooking up with.
I had given up until last year when I fell for someone and I ended up getting destroyed (again). It was a shock to my system to get my shit together. The problem now is that I’m at an age where 99% of people have had sex and if I tell any girl I’m interested in, it would probably be a dealbreaker.
I can’t figure out what’s wrong with me, I feel like I’m a freak. I have lots of female friends, I don’t have issues with developing friendships with women. I’ve been told repetitively by women that I’m good looking, intelligent and funny…it’s just difficult for me to have self-confidence, especially when I’m so far behind the curve.
I don’t know what I should do at this point.
Dating means putting yourself out there, man, and being vulnerable to getting crushed is an unfortunate, but necessary, part of finding someone. It sucks but we all go through it at some point. Everyone out there who is single has a 100% relationship failure rate. Think about that shit. Each one fails until it doesn’t. You’re far from alone and you’re definitely not a freak because of it.
It’s also not weird or sad that you’re a virgin still. I mean it’s a little pitiful and I feel bad for you, but it’s not a character flaw, nor is it something that should hinder your ability to attract someone. We actually had The Bachelor’s Brittany Taylor on Touching Base today and asked her if she’d date a virgin. She said yes without hesitation. This is, I’m assuming, the prevailing sentiment among women. Some might even think it’s pretty cool.
Don’t bring up your virginity until sex is imminent, and by that point you’re already in so it won’t affect shit.
What’s up Dorn,
I’m going into my senior year of college and I’m having some serious scaries about post grad life after graduation. Could you or the comment section give some advice on how to be a real adult in the working world? There’s a possibility I might also live in a totally new city and need to meet a whole new group of friends. Any ideas about good ways to do this? Thanks!
I feel bad for people who say college was the best time of their lives. How shitty that your best days are behind you, when you were broke and going to class and taking tests and going to keg parties and living in shitty apartments. Depressing.
The postgrad life is about freedom. Live where you want, find a job that suits you, and earn your own money. Money is great to have, if you didn’t know. Earning a living grants you so many freedoms you never had before. You’ll see..
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