Boston Max

Spending my retirement fund at Trader Joe's and trying to remember to check my mailbox semi-regularly

Member Since 01/25/2016

  • Boston Max 4 days ago on I'm 27 Years Old And I Don't Know What A Date Is

    This. Exactly this. That’s what I’m writing about. HOWEVER, in real life, I’m not letting it drag on. I’m only letting it drag on on the internet so I have something to write about when I’m at a loss for other things to write about. Sue me, I like writing.

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  • Boston Max 4 days ago on I'm 27 Years Old And I Don't Know What A Date Is

    It doesn’t matter. You’re 100% right. And I honestly don’t care about the label, tbh. BUT, I’ve been using my blogs for years to settle debates with my friends, leaving it up to the comments section to answer. So, recently, I said a date was two single people hanging out. My friends were like, “let the comment section decide.” So I wrote a bog yesterday, used a random story of me and Mia grabbing burgers (back in like October) to potentially illustrate the debate, and decided to see what y’all thought re: what you define a date as.

    Clearly I’m wrong, my friends all agree with all of you, and I’m the sole person on the planet who’s believed for years that a date is merely two single people alone together. But hey, I’ve been wrong before and I’ll be wrong again.

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  • Boston Max 4 days ago on I'm 27 Years Old And I Don't Know What A Date Is

    Normally works out where girl starts as a friend, I fall in love with her, I get over it, we end up being such good friends that the thought of dating her weirds me out. It’s something that I’ve gone through with millions, maybe even hundreds, of female friends since I was, idk, 14? I could see a shrink for this but would rather just take lashings from internet strangers in the comment section

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  • Boston Max 4 days ago on I'm 27 Years Old And I Don't Know What A Date Is

    Nah that’s awkward I think I’d rather it just be confusing my entire life and just bitch and moan about it on the internet to random strangers.

    In all seriousness, I think the reason I’m so often in these grey areas and refusing to communicate my true feelings is because I don’t want to put myself out there and get rejected by my own friend. I’m actually fine at the moment dating girls who I meet on Bumble or at the bar, but I’ve just got a proclivity for falling in love with my friends. Whoops

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  • Boston Max 4 days ago on I'm 27 Years Old And I Don't Know What A Date Is

    I’m fully aware that not everything I write is going to be liked or perceived positively. I write things that I think will generate interesting debate and conversation. Definitely didn’t think I’d take such a bath but, hey, I put myself out there and got smacked around a bit.

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  • Boston Max 4 days ago on Live From The Friend Zone: When Is A Date A "Date"?

    That’s a really sobering comment, one that will certainly keep me up at night and cause some introspection. It hurts my feelings, but it’s good criticism, and I get it.

    BUT, I don’t know how this is only being read as a sex thing; I’m not trying to be Vance Munson a la Hitch. Mia is a girl who I really liked and thought I could date. Not just try and smash. My use of the word “Sex” in the column is more of a proxy for a relationship that goes beyond “just friends.” Now, having said that, I also do not view Mia as a girl who I keep around just because at one point over the spring I had a big crush on her. I truly do value her friendship, as I value all my friendships, and I never would want to reduce our relationship to just “yeah she’s hot, I want to hit it.” That’s not the intention of the story.

    To be 10000% transparent, I wrote this to introduce Jen in a unique way, and to kind of phase Mia out, so to speak, as well as try and write about this thought I’ve been kicking around about what the hell is the definition of “Date.” I will say, I think the point about intention is the best thing i’ve read in here and is well taken.

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  • Boston Max 4 days ago on Live From The Friend Zone: When Is A Date A "Date"?

    I do not think date implies romance or vice versa. I’ve gone on “dates” in the true sense of the word (think Bumble match) and have had zero romance. And I’ve hung out with friends in a scenario that probably didn’t intend to be a date and it go flirty. The point I’m trying to make and doing a horribleeeeee job of is to not overlook maybe a really great guy or girl who’s sitting right in front of your face just because you think it’s blasphemous to try a romantic “date” with a friend.

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  • Boston Max 4 days ago on Live From The Friend Zone: When Is A Date A "Date"?

    That’s not how I would describe my “attitude” towards being friends with women. I like women, and have many friends who are women. I’m not looking to have sex with them (maybe a few). But if they flat out said they wanted to, would I stop them? Probably not. If you think that makes me a creep? I’m not going to lose sleep over it.

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  • Boston Max 5 days ago on Live From The Friend Zone: When Is A Date A "Date"?

    This is going to sound strange, because I’m 100% straight and have never had sex with a man and don’t intend to, but like if I had a buddy who was gay, and we got drunk, and he convinced me to have sex with him, then I went into the date with NO INTENTION of having sex with him but did anyway. So, did we go on a date?

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