Ideally yes but he mentioned it was too early to have that conversation. Also you can save yourself an awkward convo–definitely not fun when you ask someone if they are still dating other people and find out they are
2) He did you a favor. If they match, you know the girl you are dating isn’t into and can get out sooner rather than later. If he had swiped left you would never know if she is actively using Tinder.
I hate it. A friend of mine would notoriously pull this move. He would buy rounds+apps and tell everyone “he’s got this one” only to send out venmo requests the next day (when he is sober) for drinks and apps we don’t want and the stupidly large tip he put down
I don’t understand the big hang up with becoming exclusive. It literally only means that you aren’t dating other people. Being exclusive isn’t committing to getting married or even committing to family functions or seeing them every day. Everything can be sorted out as you define the terms of how serious you are but I will not invest in someone who is dating a whole bunch of other people. If you’ve been dating for 4 months, how do you not know if the person you are currently seeing is dating other people or not?
as a guy, I’ve had numerous girls ask me out and suggest overpriced restaurants ($50 isn’t that much) or activities I didn’t even want to go to. I am happy to split but there is 0 % chance I would pay the full thing if she suggested
My friends always said: “when you know, you know…and when you don’t know, you know” If it takes you 3 months to make up your mind about exclusively dating the person, you just aren’t into the person.
A word of advice-You will have better luck if you go to a Sunday evening (~5pm) mass. Most Sunday morning masses are not well attended by anyone under the age of 50. If you want a liberal Catholic Church find a Jesuit parish (the one near me is has like a pro-immigration group and Catholic gays group etc).
The young adult groups in general are very friendly and actively try to hold fun activities for people in their 20s. I don’t do many of the really religious activities but the social activities are all really fun. A lot of the girls I met were new to the city and didn’t know anyone and were actively trying to meet people.
I am qualified to answer-I am a practicing Catholic. Yes quite a few young adults go to mass. In the past 5 years, I have asked out numerous girls after mass (or at other Catholic functions) and it is a good place to meet “nice” girls. It is easy to say hello as you are walking out. Also, in my parish, the young adults often go to a bar to grab drinks after Sunday evening mass.
I am all on the side of getting married before moving in together. I hear compatibility all the time as the reason but I want to know situations when someone moved in and found out issues that weren’t obvious from just staying over at his/her house several times a week. I knew right away with the girls I’ve dated whether we were compatible. You can see how clean they keep the apartment and general sleep habits etc. Also, moving in together reduces the incentive to get married. Lots of friends have been living together 4+ years with no engagement/marriage on the horizon. Not a situation I would want to be in
Obviously that would be ideal when someone isn’t interested. But replying to someone’s texts doesn’t ensure that they are being straightforward or giving you closure. Many times people agree to dates and then flake at the last second and then pop up a few days later. Or they ask someone out and never make concrete plans. Sending mixed signals to me is much worse than just ignoring.
I would much rather the ghost. The intent is obvious. There is nothing more confusing than someone who shows interest and then backs off then repeats that cycle. Spent so much time over analyzing someone’s texts when they sent mixed signals. I never had to over analyze a ghost
I think I am in the minority but as a guy, I like aggressive girls. Nothing more attractive than a girl who knows what she wants and goes out and gets it. Also it is a huge turn off if you can’t make concrete plans. At this stage in my life I don’t “hangout” or “meet up” … I go on dates.
The only time I have gotten comments on how bad it looks was when I have let friends cut my hair. I no longer let someone else cut my hair. I have done it enough you can’t tell the difference. And yes 1,800 over 10 years isn’t that much but I know lots of guys who pay more than 50$ for a crappy buzz cut which isn’t worth it.
My last name+ a reputation of being grumpy easily earned myself the nickname of cruella. Also cutting guys hair is extremely easy with clippers. You don’t need a bowl to do a reasonable job. 10years*15$*1per month=1800$
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Ideally yes but he mentioned it was too early to have that conversation. Also you can save yourself an awkward convo–definitely not fun when you ask someone if they are still dating other people and find out they are
2) He did you a favor. If they match, you know the girl you are dating isn’t into and can get out sooner rather than later. If he had swiped left you would never know if she is actively using Tinder.
I hate it. A friend of mine would notoriously pull this move. He would buy rounds+apps and tell everyone “he’s got this one” only to send out venmo requests the next day (when he is sober) for drinks and apps we don’t want and the stupidly large tip he put down
I don’t understand the big hang up with becoming exclusive. It literally only means that you aren’t dating other people. Being exclusive isn’t committing to getting married or even committing to family functions or seeing them every day. Everything can be sorted out as you define the terms of how serious you are but I will not invest in someone who is dating a whole bunch of other people. If you’ve been dating for 4 months, how do you not know if the person you are currently seeing is dating other people or not?
If you’ve been dating for 4 months and don’t know where you stand. he/she just isn’t that into you….
as a guy, I’ve had numerous girls ask me out and suggest overpriced restaurants ($50 isn’t that much) or activities I didn’t even want to go to. I am happy to split but there is 0 % chance I would pay the full thing if she suggested
*expect to pay
Agreed. I came here to say the same thing. If you suggest a restaurant or activity, you should expect pay.
My friends always said: “when you know, you know…and when you don’t know, you know” If it takes you 3 months to make up your mind about exclusively dating the person, you just aren’t into the person.
A word of advice-You will have better luck if you go to a Sunday evening (~5pm) mass. Most Sunday morning masses are not well attended by anyone under the age of 50. If you want a liberal Catholic Church find a Jesuit parish (the one near me is has like a pro-immigration group and Catholic gays group etc).
The young adult groups in general are very friendly and actively try to hold fun activities for people in their 20s. I don’t do many of the really religious activities but the social activities are all really fun. A lot of the girls I met were new to the city and didn’t know anyone and were actively trying to meet people.
I am qualified to answer-I am a practicing Catholic. Yes quite a few young adults go to mass. In the past 5 years, I have asked out numerous girls after mass (or at other Catholic functions) and it is a good place to meet “nice” girls. It is easy to say hello as you are walking out. Also, in my parish, the young adults often go to a bar to grab drinks after Sunday evening mass.
I am all on the side of getting married before moving in together. I hear compatibility all the time as the reason but I want to know situations when someone moved in and found out issues that weren’t obvious from just staying over at his/her house several times a week. I knew right away with the girls I’ve dated whether we were compatible. You can see how clean they keep the apartment and general sleep habits etc. Also, moving in together reduces the incentive to get married. Lots of friends have been living together 4+ years with no engagement/marriage on the horizon. Not a situation I would want to be in
Obviously that would be ideal when someone isn’t interested. But replying to someone’s texts doesn’t ensure that they are being straightforward or giving you closure. Many times people agree to dates and then flake at the last second and then pop up a few days later. Or they ask someone out and never make concrete plans. Sending mixed signals to me is much worse than just ignoring.
I would much rather the ghost. The intent is obvious. There is nothing more confusing than someone who shows interest and then backs off then repeats that cycle. Spent so much time over analyzing someone’s texts when they sent mixed signals. I never had to over analyze a ghost
I think I am in the minority but as a guy, I like aggressive girls. Nothing more attractive than a girl who knows what she wants and goes out and gets it. Also it is a huge turn off if you can’t make concrete plans. At this stage in my life I don’t “hangout” or “meet up” … I go on dates.
Natty Boh. Always the cheapest beer at any bar in Baltimore. Red Dog before moving to Baltimore.
A bad case of the Easter Scaries
^”You don’t need a bowl to do a reasonable job.”… I have never used a bowl when I cut my hair. And the puppy comment was great @sailgating
The only time I have gotten comments on how bad it looks was when I have let friends cut my hair. I no longer let someone else cut my hair. I have done it enough you can’t tell the difference. And yes 1,800 over 10 years isn’t that much but I know lots of guys who pay more than 50$ for a crappy buzz cut which isn’t worth it.
My last name+ a reputation of being grumpy easily earned myself the nickname of cruella. Also cutting guys hair is extremely easy with clippers. You don’t need a bowl to do a reasonable job. 10years*15$*1per month=1800$