I feel like most guys start looking for something serious around their mid 20s to early 30s but most girls start looking for something serious around their early to mid 20s so I’m also curious as to what accounts for that difference.
Bill is right here. As guys we don’t worry as much because we can have kids at an older age without issue. I would also add though that dating with intent is really driven by what type of lifestyle you’re going for. I know friends who have got married at 22 and usually they go for a comfortable lifestyle where both of them work and have kids when they’re in their mid 20s. Someone like me where I have my own company, travel a lot and don’t have a stable income, I wouldnt necessarily want to bring someone else into this equation long term, right now. I’m only 26 though. The closer I get to 30, I’ll probably be more inclined to settle down. I’d also add that the “dating market” in your area matters a lot. There are quite a few articles now about how dating is harder for college educated women in cities because they typically outnumber college educated guys in those areas and guys don’t want to commit early in that situation, when they have plenty of options to play the field with.
6. The Customer Service Reprepresentative-I used to be one of these people and the only thing that worse than customers bitching to you all day is compunding it with coworkers bitching to you about being bitched at, all day.
I recently went on a date with a girl who’s 30 (I’m 26) and it had way more of a “settle down” type of vibe than what I was used to so I’d say you’re spot on about it having more of a sense of urgency to settle down as you get older.
Having excellent people skills is the reason, I even get most of my jobs. Having a college degree is just a checkbox they mark off on the list of hiring qualifications, the people skills is what actually gets you the job and allows you to close deals after getting the job.
The last time I did this ended with the girl who my friend broke up with faking a pregnancy to try to keep him around and now, she’s married to his best friend. I’d say it’s probably good he broke up with her in that case.
I’ve talked multiple friends into breaking up, and the move there is to politely ask them “what do you think about when he (something that he does repeatedly)?” Or “Do you think he went a little overboard when he (something else he did)?” After she responds you say “That’s going to get to you eventually” and they’ll either agree and that will plant a seed in their mind or they’ll disagree and you just say “Really? That would definitely get to me.” Make sure you keep a polite tone during the entire conversation. The point is not to argue or get in the last word but to plant that seed in their mind and let them draw their own conclusion. Next time he does whatever you mentioned, she’ll think about what you said.
As a guy, if a girl I just met a few days ago, turned down an invitation to an event from me without making some offer of an alternate plan along the lines of “I’m busy tonight but if you’re going there next weekend, I’ll definitely make it out,” it’s likely that I would just think she’s not interested and move on.
I actually was on the other side of a similar experience with the last girl I dated. We went on a date, we kissed and I thought it went well. I asked her out again and she said she was busy and didnt offer any alternate plans. I took it as a sign she wasnt interested and I never called or texted her again. Another girl that I told that story to also said that the the girls response shows she wasn’t interested.
He was interested enough to invite you out which he probably intended to go through with but probably lost interest at the first sign of dissaproval which was you being hesitant to say yes.
I’d also add to get started on activities you’ve been putting off whether it’s an errand, hobby, reading a book or starting a business. Also, as soon as you’re unemployed remember to allocate money for events you’re planning to attend.
For the wipers, if your wipers aren’t great and actually make things more blurry than a little rain does, it makes more sense to hold off on using them until necessary.
Also, to the guy who wants to make the Roth IRA contribution, that’s the smart financial choice and if she’s mad at you for 2 weeks over your choice of retirement funds, imagine how bad it will be for more serious situations, dump her.
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I feel like most guys start looking for something serious around their mid 20s to early 30s but most girls start looking for something serious around their early to mid 20s so I’m also curious as to what accounts for that difference.
Bill is right here. As guys we don’t worry as much because we can have kids at an older age without issue. I would also add though that dating with intent is really driven by what type of lifestyle you’re going for. I know friends who have got married at 22 and usually they go for a comfortable lifestyle where both of them work and have kids when they’re in their mid 20s. Someone like me where I have my own company, travel a lot and don’t have a stable income, I wouldnt necessarily want to bring someone else into this equation long term, right now. I’m only 26 though. The closer I get to 30, I’ll probably be more inclined to settle down. I’d also add that the “dating market” in your area matters a lot. There are quite a few articles now about how dating is harder for college educated women in cities because they typically outnumber college educated guys in those areas and guys don’t want to commit early in that situation, when they have plenty of options to play the field with.
6. The Customer Service Reprepresentative-I used to be one of these people and the only thing that worse than customers bitching to you all day is compunding it with coworkers bitching to you about being bitched at, all day.
I recently went on a date with a girl who’s 30 (I’m 26) and it had way more of a “settle down” type of vibe than what I was used to so I’d say you’re spot on about it having more of a sense of urgency to settle down as you get older.
Ramen Noodles is pretty sad because it’s the absolute cheapest thing you could possibly get. Even cheaper than macaroni.
Having excellent people skills is the reason, I even get most of my jobs. Having a college degree is just a checkbox they mark off on the list of hiring qualifications, the people skills is what actually gets you the job and allows you to close deals after getting the job.
The last time I did this ended with the girl who my friend broke up with faking a pregnancy to try to keep him around and now, she’s married to his best friend. I’d say it’s probably good he broke up with her in that case.
I’ve talked multiple friends into breaking up, and the move there is to politely ask them “what do you think about when he (something that he does repeatedly)?” Or “Do you think he went a little overboard when he (something else he did)?” After she responds you say “That’s going to get to you eventually” and they’ll either agree and that will plant a seed in their mind or they’ll disagree and you just say “Really? That would definitely get to me.” Make sure you keep a polite tone during the entire conversation. The point is not to argue or get in the last word but to plant that seed in their mind and let them draw their own conclusion. Next time he does whatever you mentioned, she’ll think about what you said.
Completely wrong. Going to the top of the Sears Tower is one of those things you have to do at least once.
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It’s called “Recent Contacts.” I use it on Android but I know there’s an iPhone app with the same name and function.
I use an app for this that puts contacts names & numbers in chronological order. Worth every penny.
As a guy, if a girl I just met a few days ago, turned down an invitation to an event from me without making some offer of an alternate plan along the lines of “I’m busy tonight but if you’re going there next weekend, I’ll definitely make it out,” it’s likely that I would just think she’s not interested and move on.
I actually was on the other side of a similar experience with the last girl I dated. We went on a date, we kissed and I thought it went well. I asked her out again and she said she was busy and didnt offer any alternate plans. I took it as a sign she wasnt interested and I never called or texted her again. Another girl that I told that story to also said that the the girls response shows she wasn’t interested.
He was interested enough to invite you out which he probably intended to go through with but probably lost interest at the first sign of dissaproval which was you being hesitant to say yes.
I’d also add to get started on activities you’ve been putting off whether it’s an errand, hobby, reading a book or starting a business. Also, as soon as you’re unemployed remember to allocate money for events you’re planning to attend.
For the wipers, if your wipers aren’t great and actually make things more blurry than a little rain does, it makes more sense to hold off on using them until necessary.
Also, to the guy who wants to make the Roth IRA contribution, that’s the smart financial choice and if she’s mad at you for 2 weeks over your choice of retirement funds, imagine how bad it will be for more serious situations, dump her.
Try half.com or ebay. Works like a charm.
When you take your pillowcase off and see how gross that 3 year old pillow looks, you’ll definitely be convinced to throw it away.
It probably wasn’t someone in Seattle Seattle-ing but it was definitely an asshole asshole-ing
You should tell people at parties this, to make them hate you.