While we are Catholic, we didnt move in simply because of that. As children of divorce, we didnt want to add to the possibility of divorce, which is higher amongst couples who cohabitate.
I disagree with you. I knew my wife pretty damn well before she moved in. I think it’s a myth “you have to move in to figure them out.” If you spend time with them, you’ll learn their habits. I knew what parts of my wife bugged me before we lived together. If you do it right, you’ll know.
And there won’t be any “growing pains” because of what I’ve stated. And the things I have learned about my wife after marriage haven’t been painful because we’re married, I know she’s committed, and I know she’s not going to leave me, and I’m not going to leave her, because those things don’t matter.
Much appreciated brother! Glad to be back. Been meaning to follow stuff a bit closer for a while now.
Also, if you end up breaking up, the whole “moving out” thing gets really awkward. If you don’t even live together and you break up, you don’t have to do anything.
Gonna be a cold take, but hear me out: wait til marriage. Commitment at that level means that you’re in it for the long haul regardless of any habits that you may not like, makes the other person comfortable. Also, you can plan out moving in, you don’t have to just get up and move in all of a sudden. My wife and I were engaged for a year, meaning we really go to know each other, really planned out the whole moving in thing, and made the process way less stressful. Plus, we knew each other really well by that point, so I knew what to expect.
Nice article. Eloquent. Considering my bouncing around for the past year and a half, getting married and starting yet another new job, i think I’ve come to realize this is the point of our 20’s. These are our Post Grad Problems. Books have chapters and our lives continue. The book only ends when our life does, and until that happens, anything can and will happen.
Will, I have risen to come and comment on this. It’s been a long time, friend. I want to say best of luck to you, and to anyone who has been laid off. This is free market capitalism at work, and it hurts sometimes.
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While we are Catholic, we didnt move in simply because of that. As children of divorce, we didnt want to add to the possibility of divorce, which is higher amongst couples who cohabitate.
I disagree with you. I knew my wife pretty damn well before she moved in. I think it’s a myth “you have to move in to figure them out.” If you spend time with them, you’ll learn their habits. I knew what parts of my wife bugged me before we lived together. If you do it right, you’ll know.
And there won’t be any “growing pains” because of what I’ve stated. And the things I have learned about my wife after marriage haven’t been painful because we’re married, I know she’s committed, and I know she’s not going to leave me, and I’m not going to leave her, because those things don’t matter.
Much appreciated brother! Glad to be back. Been meaning to follow stuff a bit closer for a while now.
Also, if you end up breaking up, the whole “moving out” thing gets really awkward. If you don’t even live together and you break up, you don’t have to do anything.
Gonna be a cold take, but hear me out: wait til marriage. Commitment at that level means that you’re in it for the long haul regardless of any habits that you may not like, makes the other person comfortable. Also, you can plan out moving in, you don’t have to just get up and move in all of a sudden. My wife and I were engaged for a year, meaning we really go to know each other, really planned out the whole moving in thing, and made the process way less stressful. Plus, we knew each other really well by that point, so I knew what to expect.
Actually I’m back to teaching again. Just 12 students though, it’s nice. One of them is a piece of shit though.
Nice article. Eloquent. Considering my bouncing around for the past year and a half, getting married and starting yet another new job, i think I’ve come to realize this is the point of our 20’s. These are our Post Grad Problems. Books have chapters and our lives continue. The book only ends when our life does, and until that happens, anything can and will happen.
Will, I have risen to come and comment on this. It’s been a long time, friend. I want to say best of luck to you, and to anyone who has been laid off. This is free market capitalism at work, and it hurts sometimes.
DJ Khaled Motivational Speech?
If you’re not watching “The Mighty Ducks” then I don’t want to know you.
Is the girlfriend still around?
In short: life. Long answer: helping gf move, studying for my insurance license, and also trying to stay away from my phone so much.
It’s all about connections
Recommendation from someone going from a low paying job to a much higher paying job: get a higher paying job.
Talked to a couple of the disciples and realized this is an old article, so it might have been before Easter when this comment was made.
Know that I am always with you. And Easter has passed.
Staycations. PGP.
“WHO SAW THIS COMING?!?!” Everyone. The answer is everyone.
Full Metal Jacket.
The amount of people on here with kids is both astounding and awesome. I don’t know the struggle, but I respect it.
Honestly, that’s a virtue