I think he screwed up with the “I think they only way they would is if you were wearing nothing but yarn or something hahah” comment. It wasn’t that funny and slightly awk.
Plus his description of his job sounded kinda basic and like he was trying to act cooler than everyone he works with. Not a good look. He should’ve just told her where he works and moved on to something else (since talking about work is a great way to lead to a dead end). And she never even confirmed she even likes that place before he asked if she was “still on”.
Or she’s literally just wasting his time – which is probably right. Don’t give up, Eric.
Recently started going to line dance lessons at a country bar. The ratio is always solid and most girls are dancing with their friends or sitting around dying for a guy to dance with. I’m an idiot for not doing this for the past two years…
I’m currently in the same situation brother. Hang in there! But real talk, thank you for this post. You’re right – sometimes you just gotta hit reset and move in a different direction to reach happiness (or whatever the hell it is you’re looking for).
Do we have any evidence to suggest that Todd wasn’t new to the city when he met Girl (it does say he’s a Michigan grad)? Maybe that’s why he was on Hinge – to meet new people (and get some strange) and then his new girlfriend’s friends are cool and he’s like “fuck it I’ll just hang out with these guys”.
That apparently went way over your head – two totally different issues there. Dual-relationships is in Section A of the ACA Code of Ethics, Confidentiality & Privacy is in Section B. But thanks doc…
My two cents as a counseling grad student (we find similar issues in our interactions with clients):
This sounds like an issue of dual-relationships. She’s your PT, but then she would be your friend. For any medical professionals out there: are there any situations where there would be conflicting interests between these two roles? Is there a power imbalance in place with their current interaction? Typically patient/therapist relationships are a one-way street. Real friendships are equal, so it might create new potential issues in a friendship.
But why it was so easy for you to strike up conversation with this lady on this day? What was it that made it easy to let your guard down and take a chance, and what’s stopping you from doing that again?
Case and point:
Saving text messages from over a year ago was literally my saving grace after my crazy ex tried to fuck me over via false charges (of which I was able to prove I was innocent and acquitted). She deleted old text messages of our past conversations so her phone was filled with a bunch of unrequited “hey”s to make it look like I was stalking her but I had every last text on record of her responses and conversations she even initiated. Her credibility was instantly ruined and I walked away a free man and make her look so dumb.
So save your old texts (or just don’t date psychos). But y’all feel free to do you. It’s your phone…
If you use “You Had Other Plans” to get out of a 3rd date with someone you’re no longer into, shake them up with this Power Move: When you’re out with your “friend from college” (or other date) be sure to get the food you were supposed to get with the other person and put it on your Snap Story (sushi’s a good one). Let’s them know real quick what’s up without any direct confrontation. Fuck you Sarah…
I’m a counseling student and this hit hard. It’s part of our curriculum to do hundreds of hours of counseling for free, so once you factor in tuition costs we’re basically paying the school $10/hr to listen to people’s problems. But I’m making a difference, and that’s what matters, right?
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I think he screwed up with the “I think they only way they would is if you were wearing nothing but yarn or something hahah” comment. It wasn’t that funny and slightly awk.
Plus his description of his job sounded kinda basic and like he was trying to act cooler than everyone he works with. Not a good look. He should’ve just told her where he works and moved on to something else (since talking about work is a great way to lead to a dead end). And she never even confirmed she even likes that place before he asked if she was “still on”.
Or she’s literally just wasting his time – which is probably right. Don’t give up, Eric.
Username checks out.
If your camera roll isn’t full of screenshots of Tinder profiles to remember Instagram handles for sliding in DMs later, are you even trying??
5% of the time it works 100% of the time. I have a date this weekend from doing this mess. Shooters shoot…
Congrats on getting two articles published in a row! You’re killing it!
Recently started going to line dance lessons at a country bar. The ratio is always solid and most girls are dancing with their friends or sitting around dying for a guy to dance with. I’m an idiot for not doing this for the past two years…
You just gotta find your niche.
I’m currently in the same situation brother. Hang in there! But real talk, thank you for this post. You’re right – sometimes you just gotta hit reset and move in a different direction to reach happiness (or whatever the hell it is you’re looking for).
Do we have any evidence to suggest that Todd wasn’t new to the city when he met Girl (it does say he’s a Michigan grad)? Maybe that’s why he was on Hinge – to meet new people (and get some strange) and then his new girlfriend’s friends are cool and he’s like “fuck it I’ll just hang out with these guys”.
Under the ACA, Girl is old enough to be taken off of her parents’ health insurance – that pleases me way more than it should
Wally from TFM, is that you in disguise?
That apparently went way over your head – two totally different issues there. Dual-relationships is in Section A of the ACA Code of Ethics, Confidentiality & Privacy is in Section B. But thanks doc…
My two cents as a counseling grad student (we find similar issues in our interactions with clients):
This sounds like an issue of dual-relationships. She’s your PT, but then she would be your friend. For any medical professionals out there: are there any situations where there would be conflicting interests between these two roles? Is there a power imbalance in place with their current interaction? Typically patient/therapist relationships are a one-way street. Real friendships are equal, so it might create new potential issues in a friendship.
But why it was so easy for you to strike up conversation with this lady on this day? What was it that made it easy to let your guard down and take a chance, and what’s stopping you from doing that again?
Rachel: “I’m not here to be played!”
*makes out with six guys in one day on national TV*
Case and point:
Saving text messages from over a year ago was literally my saving grace after my crazy ex tried to fuck me over via false charges (of which I was able to prove I was innocent and acquitted). She deleted old text messages of our past conversations so her phone was filled with a bunch of unrequited “hey”s to make it look like I was stalking her but I had every last text on record of her responses and conversations she even initiated. Her credibility was instantly ruined and I walked away a free man and make her look so dumb.
So save your old texts (or just don’t date psychos). But y’all feel free to do you. It’s your phone…
If you use “You Had Other Plans” to get out of a 3rd date with someone you’re no longer into, shake them up with this Power Move: When you’re out with your “friend from college” (or other date) be sure to get the food you were supposed to get with the other person and put it on your Snap Story (sushi’s a good one). Let’s them know real quick what’s up without any direct confrontation. Fuck you Sarah…
“Enough to know that nothing good can ever come from answering that question.”
Humblebrag much…?
I like to leave an hour early and smoke a cigar on the way home. Get all the smoke breaks of the day in at once while feeling fancy af.
https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/name/Taylor_Nolan_MS,NCC,LMHCA_Seattle_Washington_315076
In case anyone is interested in Taylor’s counselor profile in Psychology Today…
Sup?
I’m a counseling student and this hit hard. It’s part of our curriculum to do hundreds of hours of counseling for free, so once you factor in tuition costs we’re basically paying the school $10/hr to listen to people’s problems. But I’m making a difference, and that’s what matters, right?