This isn’t a meant to be a smart comment. But what difference would it have made, had you decided to be married and continued furthering your education at the same time? What would’ve have changed the relationship? You are doing literally everything a married couple does?
Were you actually getting along with your roommate or just pretending to? Sounds to me like you harbored resentment the whole time.
To answer your question, no it doesn’t sound like a happy marriage. You should know if she is a slob before you move in with her. Eventually two people will become comfortable enough to show their true selves. His/Her sloppiness will show at some point and if this is a deal breaker for you then by all means you should break it off. I hardly think that should be reason to end a relationship but if the person is uncompromising on their filth than I could definitely understand. However, if two people actually care about one another, picking up tampons won’t be that hard of a habit to squash.
There will always be something you have to work at and moving in with someone is not going to change that. The weird idea that marriage has to be a land of bliss is ridiculous. It was never meant for that.
The statement “you don’t know someone till you live with them” is nonsensical unless you haven’t truly taken the time to get to know someone beforehand. If someone is hard to live with it should be easily recognizable during a long, well thought out dating process. Also, the “compatibility” argument is ludicrous. Nobody is completely compatible. It takes work. If you think love, marriage, relationships are suppose to be easy than you should NEVER date. Seriously, never–because, I’m willing to bet it will fail every time. Eventually, a relationship should become more than mutual physical attraction and a list of petty commonalities between two people. Desire for the other person and their presence as a best friend has to materialize. This takes a lot of work and sacrifice. Something tells me in the long run, good relationships are about choosing love, instead of love acting like an indecisive adolescent that comes and goes whenever it “feels” right.
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Crap. I’m a consultant.
I don’t judge those who try it. But I don’t think it is as practical of a solution to marriage as people suggest.
“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect.”
This isn’t a meant to be a smart comment. But what difference would it have made, had you decided to be married and continued furthering your education at the same time? What would’ve have changed the relationship? You are doing literally everything a married couple does?
I apologize for my grammar inaccuracies. I’ll be sure to review my sentences every now and than.
Were you actually getting along with your roommate or just pretending to? Sounds to me like you harbored resentment the whole time.
To answer your question, no it doesn’t sound like a happy marriage. You should know if she is a slob before you move in with her. Eventually two people will become comfortable enough to show their true selves. His/Her sloppiness will show at some point and if this is a deal breaker for you then by all means you should break it off. I hardly think that should be reason to end a relationship but if the person is uncompromising on their filth than I could definitely understand. However, if two people actually care about one another, picking up tampons won’t be that hard of a habit to squash.
There will always be something you have to work at and moving in with someone is not going to change that. The weird idea that marriage has to be a land of bliss is ridiculous. It was never meant for that.
The statement “you don’t know someone till you live with them” is nonsensical unless you haven’t truly taken the time to get to know someone beforehand. If someone is hard to live with it should be easily recognizable during a long, well thought out dating process. Also, the “compatibility” argument is ludicrous. Nobody is completely compatible. It takes work. If you think love, marriage, relationships are suppose to be easy than you should NEVER date. Seriously, never–because, I’m willing to bet it will fail every time. Eventually, a relationship should become more than mutual physical attraction and a list of petty commonalities between two people. Desire for the other person and their presence as a best friend has to materialize. This takes a lot of work and sacrifice. Something tells me in the long run, good relationships are about choosing love, instead of love acting like an indecisive adolescent that comes and goes whenever it “feels” right.
In college at 22? I should’ve done a victory lap.
I dig a girl who likes to go to the park.
Must have had a bunch of Clemson douches voting in SC.
What kind of sick, diabolic list is this?
This was so NSFW for me. Hope the girl behind me didn’t see me creepily staring.
High five Cole.
#47??? This is sick.
Dear Carmen, if you had a patronus, what would it be?
College: Vom and Rally
Now: Vom all night and next morning
“you pet wandering mystery cats with no regard for toxoplasmosis.” This guy knows what’s up. So sick of people doing this.
^^^^^this
And suits are expensive. A man should have at least one expensive suit.
I agree with 98% of this. Boat shoes are extremely comfortable during the summer.
Why was our nation so stupid to not elect him again?