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Welcome to 2017 where our President went from black to orange and it’s finally socially acceptable to get a divorce. We all know that feelings are fleeting and love doesn’t always last forever, so it’s inevitable that divorce is bound to happen and life will go on.
At the ripe age of 26, I already have three divorced friends – so what makes you special? That being said, half the battle is actually getting divorced, but what comes next seems to be a foreign concept for most. So here we are, willing to help you (or that friend you’re asking for), with what to do after the big break up in order to stay sane.
Stay Active
Stop crying – we know you’re sad but we probably are too, so do something that makes you AND those around you feel a little less nauseous. It’s easy to fall into ruts and patterns with ice cream in one hand and the remote in the other. Studies show dopamine levels drop after traumatic events (idk if that’s true), so it’s important to get up and do something each and every day. Find a buddy (preferably another divorced buddy), find a gym/trail and pretend to run, or just find a bottle of vodka, but regardless – you’ll thank us later when you aren’t fat and lonely.
Join a Group
Loneliness is a leading killer these days – no studies prove that, but arguing against it seems pretty hard. Humans are social creatures, we need people in our lives, even weird group-goers. Find something that interests you and join one accordingly. AA counts, so like I said, vodka.
Cook
Cooking is magical – and for those of us “creative types”, it’s a great way to channel our energy and really feel inspired again. Find a new dietary challenge and come up with 10 solid meals that correlate – not only will it be fun, but you’ll also lose those 10 lbs you’ve been bitching about for past 3 years.
Travel
“I don’t want to see the world” – said no one ever. Get a passport, you’re an adult now in case you were still skeptical – so let’s get it together. Driving to the next town hasn’t been considered a trip since the horse and buggy went out of style. I heard Bali’s pretty chill, let me know if you agree.
De-clutter
They say de-cluttering is the new black – it’s trendy, it’s cool and it actually really helps. The new you needs a new life so why not start by getting rid of all those clothes you bought in 1999 and donate to those in need. Once you lose those 10 lbs, you’ll want new clothes anyways. Happy house, jealous ex-spouse.
Being divorced doesn’t have to be nearly as awful as all those lonely single people say it is; it can actually be quite liberating, freeing, and a great wake up call to get shit done. Use this time wisely, you never know when your next husband/wife might come along – or just another opportunity to drink vodka..
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@chelseabucklew
When getting divorced, hit the lawyer, delete gym, Facebook up or something like that.
I got anxiety from this article and I’m not even married
Mary Magdalene was just a spring fling?
Child of divorce. (Dad in Heaven, Mom on Earth and the whole Joseph thing)
That blows, sorry man
If your crew is rolling with 3 divorcee’s under the age of 26 then things have gone off the rails… maybe keep the cooking and traveling to a minimum and have everyone take an honest assessment of how your living your lives…
Sounds like a fun group. 7/10 would sup.
While especially true for the recently divorced, these habits improve your quality of life no matter what emotional state you’re in. Life fucks us all in different ways at one point or another. It’s all about how you look at adversity. Perfect piece for a Tuesday afternoon, keep up the good work.
Literally have been doing all of these after my ex and I broke up and it seriously works wonders. The only problem is now that I can’t be active since I can’t walk for 4 months but no one told me I can’t crutch around the hiking trails. I’ve been more motivated after all this bullshit than I was before.
Go crutch the shit out of the trails, man.
As cliché as the saying it, get a hobby. Never underestimate the importance of any kind of activity that you thoroughly enjoy, especially if it’s something you ex wouldn’t have wanted to try.
Solid advice. Also, Sup?
I’m at 26 as well and in the final stages of my divorce. This column is spot on as I haven’t done a few of the suggestions and it wasn’t a fun process, I somewhat fell off the grid and traveled around the world. However, the only thing I would add is to not invest too much emotional energy into the first real relationship post marriage.
Life goes on after divorce. I read a women’s interview where she handled herself and her children very well after the divorce. She took the best decision to hire an experienced lawyer. First step in getting a divorce is to contact a good lawyer. We need to hire a professional and experienced lawyer who can help us out in a good way in the entire divorce process. I found on Yelp, Facebook and Twitter about the advocate Bechara Tarabay at http://www.facebook.com/public/Bechara-Tarabay. These tips mentioned in this article are going to be very helpful for divorced couples.