On a first date, you will inevitably have to answer the age-old question of whether or not you should be drinking. On the pro list, ordering one or seven adult beverages will loosen your inhibitions, helping the conversation, and erasing some of the awkwardness in making the decision in whether or not you should be going to pound town with a virtual stranger. On the con list, you’re amping up an expensive tab, there’s the possibility of getting out of control, and if you’re drinking a different amount than what your date thinks is appropriate, you can probably just erase your number from their phone right now.
While these pros and cons certainly need to be taken into serious consideration, the Journal of Personal Relationships, which is apparently a real thing, published a study about how alcohol affects feelings of intimacy on dates. As it turns out, when women drink on dates, they have more intimate feelings toward their dates. However, the tables are turned for men – drinking on dates makes them feel less intimately involved with their partner.
For standard gender roles, I could see this making sense – women tend to let their guard down more when alcohol is involved, while men….well, we all know the quality of interaction provided by a drunk guy at a bar. This has some interesting applications for Millennial daters – for one, meeting at a bar proooobably isn’t the best option if you’re looking for someone to bring home to mom. For the best level of compatibility, researchers suggest that women may want to drink on a date while the men remain sober; however, I don’t really think many of us females could pull that off without looking batshit crazy. It may be best to avoid the hard stuff until you get to know each other a little better, so it’s time to start planning some of those “creative” dates that we all know and love – kayaking and outdoor summer concert series, here we come. .
[via Business Insider]
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