Wife and I decided for our engagement to get a plastic tree that we have again this year and will use in the future. It’s a bit thin, but it cost 40 bucks and is 6ft tall. Pretty nice. Once we have kids, we’ll use the plastic tree as the “kids tree” and get a real tree as our “adult tree.”
Big Christmas has been stealing my birthday party for years. None of the girls come by anymore because they’re like “I’m spending time with my family.” It’s been a sausage fest birthday party the past 27 years and I’m sick of it.
When I was in college, I was an RA and purposely took the Thanksgiving week assignments so I wouldn’t have to take Spring Break (I always had airplane tickets to Palm Springs). It was perfect because a buddy of mine would come and crash in my dorm with me, we’d drink and play video games the whole week and then we’d go to cracker barrel for Thanksgiving. No one was on campus, so I basically did nothing and I slept until about noon or later everyday. Those were better times. Now I’m married and have to wake up early Wednesday to drive 6 hours with an anxiety ridden dog and a wife. I yearn to be alone on Thanksgiving.
My favorite “Aha, I’m right” moment is when I say something and then weeks later I turn out to be correct. Example: my wife wanted to take pictures with her brothers girlfriend (they had been dating a month) at the wedding (family photos, mind you). I told her it was a bad idea, because what if they break up. She said it would be fine, they’ll stay together, it’ll look great, and even if they break up it won’t be bad. Well, the girlfriend ended up hitting my wife’s brother the night of our wedding, the break up was made worse because they took one car from Pensacola to Jax (6 hours). She’s in 6 major photos of my wife’s family. Needless to say, I savored being right for a solid week and a half. Take the Ws where you can, man!
I didnt say I havent changed, but I dont expect my wife change, but also i dont expect for if she does change for me to like every change. I agree to disagree with you all, but I’m still firmly on the side of “wait til marriage.”
I think you miss the point of marriage and living together. My goal isnt to fix my wife of any of her flaws, just as she doesnt try to fix me of my quirks (unless it’s damaging in some way). If you go in thinking “I need to fix them” then you’re going to fail.
I understand people have gotten divorced, i’ve been through two with my parents. I guess I’ve just made a decision that I’m not going to do that, no matter what. Divorce isn’t even an option, and that’s the commitment I mean. It’s not just a ring, it’s a symbol saying “I’m not leaving you for any reason at all.” That means even if you change, or I change, or anything, I’m not going anywhere. Even if you’ve hidden something from me because you’re afraid I will leave, my commitment to you goes beyond that. I take that very seriously, as I’m sure others do, I just have a different, more traditional, perspective on it.
But it sets a timeframe where you say “okay, after this, we’re not backing out no matter what” and it kinda prepares you for that. Sure, you can wait a while to move in together and prepare, but there isnt that commitment.
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Wife and I decided for our engagement to get a plastic tree that we have again this year and will use in the future. It’s a bit thin, but it cost 40 bucks and is 6ft tall. Pretty nice. Once we have kids, we’ll use the plastic tree as the “kids tree” and get a real tree as our “adult tree.”
FESTIVUS FOR THE REST OF US!
Im pulling a Ron Swanson and drinking Lagavulin all day.
I’m so glad I came back just to be able to read this comment
Same group of people who listen to Christmas music in August and say “It’s just such good music!” Fuck off.
Big Christmas has been stealing my birthday party for years. None of the girls come by anymore because they’re like “I’m spending time with my family.” It’s been a sausage fest birthday party the past 27 years and I’m sick of it.
You clearly dont understand the South. I get the pancakes because they’re the best, but nothing on that menu is bad.
When I was in college, I was an RA and purposely took the Thanksgiving week assignments so I wouldn’t have to take Spring Break (I always had airplane tickets to Palm Springs). It was perfect because a buddy of mine would come and crash in my dorm with me, we’d drink and play video games the whole week and then we’d go to cracker barrel for Thanksgiving. No one was on campus, so I basically did nothing and I slept until about noon or later everyday. Those were better times. Now I’m married and have to wake up early Wednesday to drive 6 hours with an anxiety ridden dog and a wife. I yearn to be alone on Thanksgiving.
Oh shit thats WAY worse
This was a joke.
Sometimes I fight just to have a reason to sleep on the couch because my couch is HELLA comfy.
My favorite “Aha, I’m right” moment is when I say something and then weeks later I turn out to be correct. Example: my wife wanted to take pictures with her brothers girlfriend (they had been dating a month) at the wedding (family photos, mind you). I told her it was a bad idea, because what if they break up. She said it would be fine, they’ll stay together, it’ll look great, and even if they break up it won’t be bad. Well, the girlfriend ended up hitting my wife’s brother the night of our wedding, the break up was made worse because they took one car from Pensacola to Jax (6 hours). She’s in 6 major photos of my wife’s family. Needless to say, I savored being right for a solid week and a half. Take the Ws where you can, man!
I didnt say I havent changed, but I dont expect my wife change, but also i dont expect for if she does change for me to like every change. I agree to disagree with you all, but I’m still firmly on the side of “wait til marriage.”
Nope, i wouldnt. And we’ve discussed that. Even if she cheated on me, I’d try to find a way to fix it.
I think you miss the point of marriage and living together. My goal isnt to fix my wife of any of her flaws, just as she doesnt try to fix me of my quirks (unless it’s damaging in some way). If you go in thinking “I need to fix them” then you’re going to fail.
I understand people have gotten divorced, i’ve been through two with my parents. I guess I’ve just made a decision that I’m not going to do that, no matter what. Divorce isn’t even an option, and that’s the commitment I mean. It’s not just a ring, it’s a symbol saying “I’m not leaving you for any reason at all.” That means even if you change, or I change, or anything, I’m not going anywhere. Even if you’ve hidden something from me because you’re afraid I will leave, my commitment to you goes beyond that. I take that very seriously, as I’m sure others do, I just have a different, more traditional, perspective on it.
But it sets a timeframe where you say “okay, after this, we’re not backing out no matter what” and it kinda prepares you for that. Sure, you can wait a while to move in together and prepare, but there isnt that commitment.
Living in Florida, the past two weeks have been hell as a reminder that our govt is fucked. Really needed this.
Oh, it wasnt fun, but it gave us time to think about it instead of rushing into it.