Formerly known as Queen of The Garbage People. Functional title still stands. Dog owner, whiskey drinker, Star Wars fangirl. #DoingItForTheContent
QuinnTruflais@gmail.com
It’s not about legal rights, it’s about functional rights. I have the right to walk down the street freely without fear of sexual harassment or bodily harm, but that doesn’t mean it actually happens. I have the right to do my job without being sexually harassed by leadership or team members and if it does happen I technically have legal recourse… but that doesn’t always happen. I even have the right to decline to work on the party planning committee or participate in the pot luck at work without being docked for performance, but that doesn’t mean people won’t start thinking I’m “not a team player” even though my male coworkers are doing exactly the same thing. Let’s not even get into the more serious stuff like violence and victim blaming. These are just a few hypotheticals and not specific to me, but I just wanted to illustrate that there is very much a difference in the privileges that men and women enjoy within the context of legal rights.
I think that co-opting the conversation to make it about one specific person is a disservice to the movement and the discussion at hand. My personal view is that he’s not the problem, he’s a symptom of the larger problem, but like I said earlier, I don’t want this to turn into a Trump debate and I don’t want to speak for the other women who participated. This is just a personal piece on why I individually participated.
I don’t want to turn this into a Trump thing because I think it would detract from the message, but I would agree that it certainly had more participation and exposure than in previous years, which I believe is largely due to fear as a result of what many women perceive as the recent overt “re-normalization” of sexism and harassment. I would rather keep the focus on the fear and highlighting the marginalization though.
I’m certainly not secretive about my intense dislike of him, but this day has been around since 1975, and sexism and discrimination and misogyny far predate him. For me at least this was just about women.
I completely agree that the concept was a victim of poor messaging and takeover by privilege. I’m all about intersectionality and solidarity- if you have any ideas about how I can be a better ally to my WOC I would be happy to listen! Drop me a DM or am email!
If you want to DM or email me I’d be happy to give you just a few examples that I and others I know have personally experienced. I mean this very genuinely by the way- I would actually like to have a constructive conversation about it!
I think it would be really interesting for you as a thought exercise if you asked a few of the women in your life what kind of experiences they’ve had where they were made to feel uncomfortable, less than, attacked, discriminated against, or ignored/passed over as a result of their gender. I genuinely think it would surprise you and might change your mind as to whether it’s a systematic problem.
Eh, I would say U St and Columbia Heights used to be hipster but the hipsters have been priced out recently and moved to Brookland and Shaw, both of which I avoid like the plague. To be fair, I also actively avoid Georgetown. I’m very comfortable in my NW/SW + Arlington quadrangle of life haha. I think it’s still fair to say that the vast majority of DC is a clean cut business casual or suit wearing cadre including the students.
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It’s not about legal rights, it’s about functional rights. I have the right to walk down the street freely without fear of sexual harassment or bodily harm, but that doesn’t mean it actually happens. I have the right to do my job without being sexually harassed by leadership or team members and if it does happen I technically have legal recourse… but that doesn’t always happen. I even have the right to decline to work on the party planning committee or participate in the pot luck at work without being docked for performance, but that doesn’t mean people won’t start thinking I’m “not a team player” even though my male coworkers are doing exactly the same thing. Let’s not even get into the more serious stuff like violence and victim blaming. These are just a few hypotheticals and not specific to me, but I just wanted to illustrate that there is very much a difference in the privileges that men and women enjoy within the context of legal rights.
I think that co-opting the conversation to make it about one specific person is a disservice to the movement and the discussion at hand. My personal view is that he’s not the problem, he’s a symptom of the larger problem, but like I said earlier, I don’t want this to turn into a Trump debate and I don’t want to speak for the other women who participated. This is just a personal piece on why I individually participated.
I don’t want to turn this into a Trump thing because I think it would detract from the message, but I would agree that it certainly had more participation and exposure than in previous years, which I believe is largely due to fear as a result of what many women perceive as the recent overt “re-normalization” of sexism and harassment. I would rather keep the focus on the fear and highlighting the marginalization though.
I’m certainly not secretive about my intense dislike of him, but this day has been around since 1975, and sexism and discrimination and misogyny far predate him. For me at least this was just about women.
Email me at quinntruflais@gmail.com or you can hit me up on twitter
I completely agree that the concept was a victim of poor messaging and takeover by privilege. I’m all about intersectionality and solidarity- if you have any ideas about how I can be a better ally to my WOC I would be happy to listen! Drop me a DM or am email!
If you want to DM or email me I’d be happy to give you just a few examples that I and others I know have personally experienced. I mean this very genuinely by the way- I would actually like to have a constructive conversation about it!
I think it would be really interesting for you as a thought exercise if you asked a few of the women in your life what kind of experiences they’ve had where they were made to feel uncomfortable, less than, attacked, discriminated against, or ignored/passed over as a result of their gender. I genuinely think it would surprise you and might change your mind as to whether it’s a systematic problem.
The PGP Ladies groupme is thrilled to hear of this latest beard development.
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I had all of these questions as well… and no answers.
I didn’t know they had dolphin dentists! That sounds like a terrifying experience.
Girls chat has confirmed- No Beard: unanimous would. Beard: mixed responses.
If you can’t knock this one down, my man, idk what to tell you.
Literally flying into DIA tomorrow… this has given me a lot to think about.
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I only apply to the ones from middle aged men looking for a “female roommate to live rent free” and “perform light housekeeping duties.”
So you gonna get me Kevin’s number or….?
It’s embarrassing how excited I am about this.
Eh, I would say U St and Columbia Heights used to be hipster but the hipsters have been priced out recently and moved to Brookland and Shaw, both of which I avoid like the plague. To be fair, I also actively avoid Georgetown. I’m very comfortable in my NW/SW + Arlington quadrangle of life haha. I think it’s still fair to say that the vast majority of DC is a clean cut business casual or suit wearing cadre including the students.