Take her to some awful generic place like Robbins Brothers and explain to her that you’re there to browse and try on rings, but not to buy because “you’ve already got a guy”. This buys you a few more months because she is happy progress is being made, she can actually try on rings without looking like an idiot, and you can get a sense of if she’d rather have size over quality or vice-versa.
My fiance did this, and it shut me up for a while. The sales guy had me walk away for a minute while my fiance told him his budget, then the salesman only let me try on rings within his budget. It was really a win-win.
Also, pinterest is a fantasy board. I’ve never seen a pin with a ring less than two carats. I was pinning things for the settings, not because I actually thought I would get that absurd center stone.
A well-timed “you’re the best I’ve ever had” from Todd will ensure emotionally unstable drunk sex from what’s-her-name tonight. A poorly-timed “why do you even care?” will get him kicked out.
1. Find a card with something not horrible on the inside.
2. Buy blank card, write the other card’s poem/BS inside.
3. Say nothing, she will assume you came up with it.
No girlfriend should ever judge a switch to standing over the side of the bed, doggy style to catch your breath. Sometimes it’s a sprint, sometimes its a marathon. There’s no shame in pacing yourself.
Gotta disagree with you here – Chipotle could add eggs or huevos rancheros and they’ve got a breakfast menu. You know my hangovers need? A chipotle breakfast burrito. Add bloody mary’s and they’ve got a whole new business model. SOLID AS A ROCK
I want to take the time to respond carefully to all of these things you brought up, because my ADHD medication hasn’t worn off for the day and I feel as if you’ve taken things as I’ve said, “I am entitled to stay at home.” That is not what I said. I said that is what I want.
First, what would I say if my husband wants me to work while he stays at home? I don’t think I’d marry someone who did. Not because someone isn’t entitled to feel that way, but because I think that’s something a couple would discuss before they got married. If I want to stay at home (given that we are lucky enough to live comfortably on a single income) that shouldn’t be a surprise to my future husband. If I need to work, I can and would without hesitation. If we communicated properly (as I think a healthy relationship should regardless of your opinions on my article) this wouldn’t be an issue.
After all, can I build a deck? Absolutely not. I don’t know anything about building decks. I’m confident that given the proper time and help I could learn to build a deck, but that’s not something I ever want to do. I think you were trying to point out that any work involving the house that has been thought of as being a particular gender’s work is of equal value, and you’re absolutely right. I’m not entirely sure why my inability to build a deck matters, because if we decided that someone needed to build a deck and we decided that the person staying at home should build the deck because they had more free time, I’d do it.
The aspirations to be a stay-at-home mother do not infuriate all men of this generation. It infuriates some, but they shouldn’t be with those women. They should with the women that write articles like the previous article. I’ll agree that living in the south makes it even harder to find those women, but if the shoe were on the other foot I’d be hard pressed to find a husband that was ok with me staying at home if I lived somewhere else. It’s hard to live in an area where the cultural norm is different from your beliefs, regardless of what those are.
You want a co-pilot? Great. Everyone should have a co-pilot, not a dependent. Emotionally, physically, financially, whatever. If my future and husband and I communicate about what we want and expect, then we have each have a co-pilot based on what we want.
I stated in the article that I could stay at home IF we were lucky enough to be financially stable doing so, but nothing in the article implied that I wanted to “sit at home”. I mentioned a multitude of volunteer work or school involvement I could be doing. Am I the type of person who is fully comfortable being dependent on someone else? Financially, yes. Because I don’t have to feel stuck if I wanted to leave. I addressed that as well.
“Miss Independent” is about being emotionally guarded so the girl in the song doesn’t get hurt in a romantic relationship. Then she falls in love and realizes she can be emotionally vulnerable and it’s okay to “let someone in”. You should listen to that song again.
I never said that women who work can’t be a capable parent. I think almost anyone can agree they know great moms who worked and terrible moms that stayed at home. Being a good mom depends on the individual. Same with being a good father.
TL;DR: Communication is key, and you should be in a relationship based on mutual respect and understanding.
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Take her to some awful generic place like Robbins Brothers and explain to her that you’re there to browse and try on rings, but not to buy because “you’ve already got a guy”. This buys you a few more months because she is happy progress is being made, she can actually try on rings without looking like an idiot, and you can get a sense of if she’d rather have size over quality or vice-versa.
My fiance did this, and it shut me up for a while. The sales guy had me walk away for a minute while my fiance told him his budget, then the salesman only let me try on rings within his budget. It was really a win-win.
Also, pinterest is a fantasy board. I’ve never seen a pin with a ring less than two carats. I was pinning things for the settings, not because I actually thought I would get that absurd center stone.
A well-timed “you’re the best I’ve ever had” from Todd will ensure emotionally unstable drunk sex from what’s-her-name tonight. A poorly-timed “why do you even care?” will get him kicked out.
1. Find a card with something not horrible on the inside.
2. Buy blank card, write the other card’s poem/BS inside.
3. Say nothing, she will assume you came up with it.
No girlfriend should ever judge a switch to standing over the side of the bed, doggy style to catch your breath. Sometimes it’s a sprint, sometimes its a marathon. There’s no shame in pacing yourself.
Next up, Things Girls Do After Graduation: Get in an obnoxious, crying, drunken fight in a publicly embarassing situation.
And yes, Todd is fucked. Only way out is if she catches the bouquet, which he has no control over.
Maybe her birthday is coming up. There’s no way he could fall short on those expectations!
Exception: Dogs. Dog pictures do not count in the three instagram rule.
Gotta disagree with you here – Chipotle could add eggs or huevos rancheros and they’ve got a breakfast menu. You know my hangovers need? A chipotle breakfast burrito. Add bloody mary’s and they’ve got a whole new business model. SOLID AS A ROCK
That was way longer than I thought. I need to lower the meds, yikes.
I want to take the time to respond carefully to all of these things you brought up, because my ADHD medication hasn’t worn off for the day and I feel as if you’ve taken things as I’ve said, “I am entitled to stay at home.” That is not what I said. I said that is what I want.
First, what would I say if my husband wants me to work while he stays at home? I don’t think I’d marry someone who did. Not because someone isn’t entitled to feel that way, but because I think that’s something a couple would discuss before they got married. If I want to stay at home (given that we are lucky enough to live comfortably on a single income) that shouldn’t be a surprise to my future husband. If I need to work, I can and would without hesitation. If we communicated properly (as I think a healthy relationship should regardless of your opinions on my article) this wouldn’t be an issue.
After all, can I build a deck? Absolutely not. I don’t know anything about building decks. I’m confident that given the proper time and help I could learn to build a deck, but that’s not something I ever want to do. I think you were trying to point out that any work involving the house that has been thought of as being a particular gender’s work is of equal value, and you’re absolutely right. I’m not entirely sure why my inability to build a deck matters, because if we decided that someone needed to build a deck and we decided that the person staying at home should build the deck because they had more free time, I’d do it.
The aspirations to be a stay-at-home mother do not infuriate all men of this generation. It infuriates some, but they shouldn’t be with those women. They should with the women that write articles like the previous article. I’ll agree that living in the south makes it even harder to find those women, but if the shoe were on the other foot I’d be hard pressed to find a husband that was ok with me staying at home if I lived somewhere else. It’s hard to live in an area where the cultural norm is different from your beliefs, regardless of what those are.
You want a co-pilot? Great. Everyone should have a co-pilot, not a dependent. Emotionally, physically, financially, whatever. If my future and husband and I communicate about what we want and expect, then we have each have a co-pilot based on what we want.
I stated in the article that I could stay at home IF we were lucky enough to be financially stable doing so, but nothing in the article implied that I wanted to “sit at home”. I mentioned a multitude of volunteer work or school involvement I could be doing. Am I the type of person who is fully comfortable being dependent on someone else? Financially, yes. Because I don’t have to feel stuck if I wanted to leave. I addressed that as well.
“Miss Independent” is about being emotionally guarded so the girl in the song doesn’t get hurt in a romantic relationship. Then she falls in love and realizes she can be emotionally vulnerable and it’s okay to “let someone in”. You should listen to that song again.
I never said that women who work can’t be a capable parent. I think almost anyone can agree they know great moms who worked and terrible moms that stayed at home. Being a good mom depends on the individual. Same with being a good father.
TL;DR: Communication is key, and you should be in a relationship based on mutual respect and understanding.