You need to work from home Duda. There is no dread of going back into the office after New Years because “the office” is my couch. Helps relieve a lot of work anxiety and annoyances that I used to experience when working in an office everyday.
Those string of Bieber hits really take me back to a happier time in my life too. I remember visiting New York City around New Years with some family, going out and hearing Sorry and Love Yourself nonstop at the bars. Was a magical time. Those songs will never get old and instantly put you in a good mood. We need more music like that.
I was walking around my apartment the other day and started limping for no reason at all. Felt like I sprained my leg or something it was so hard to walk. Happens more than I’d like to admit lol.
I was never a strip club guy either, I just assumed they were all dirty and trashy. Until I went to a really good one in New Orleans, after that I can appreciate a nice strip club from time to time.
Pro tip: they usually have the best happy hour in town, its a good place to pregame before heading out for the night. Also, during happy hour its not as crowded, so if you’ve never been before this would be the perfect time to go and see the lay of the land; learn the customs etc.
My dude! Always been a fan of your writing. As always, this article resonated with me. No matter how much money I make, how prestigious the company I work for, my job title etc. I will always see myself as the poor hispanic kid who grew up in the ghetto, and waited tables/delivered pizzas before I started my career. I’ve worked for a few fortune 100 companies and felt like I had finally “made it”, but was deathly afraid of being figured out or being labeled a fraud.
Now that I’m semi established in my career and somewhat well-respected, the fraud feeling goes away a little bit, but still lingers every now and then. I just got a new job where I can work from home, and is stress-free and very relaxed. This is the happiest I’ve ever been in my career, and I finally feel like I made it!
You’re right it’s not completely absurd but this is a different situation. His new gfs best friend is coming in town, they haven’t met before and he wants to make a good impression. Common courtesy/manners is for him to pick up the tab at dinner, especially since it sounds like he can afford it and the money is no issue.
The gfs friend should then offer to buy him a few rounds afterward as a nice gesture.
Another thing I hate about watching at a bar is then not having the sound on for your specific game. If I can’t hear the sound for a game I’m watching then I usually don’t pay attention and miss a lot of the big plays.
I’ve dated a few strong independent type women who were teachers and didn’t make much money. When they found out how much money I made I could tell there was some jealousy and resentment. It’s hard for both parties when there’s a big gap in income.
High income girl: To me it all depends on the income disparity. If I’m making $100k and my girlfriend is making $120k, then who cares because we’re both relatively high earners. Now if I’m making $50k and my gf is making $100k, then yea that might bug me a little bit (or a lot).
Moral of the story is to go for guys with similar goals and amibitions as you. Date guys in your same industry or similar career paths as you. It will make things a lot easier for both parties!
For someone just starting out like yourself, a simple 3 index fund portfolio is the best move. Open an account at vanguard or fidelity and put 1/3 into total bond market fund, total US stock market index fund, total international stock index fund. That’s it. You are completely diversified in the market with stocks and bonds.
I cook and eat at home Sunday – Thursday. I try to spend zero dollars during the week. Then allow myself to go out and spend whatever on Friday and Saturday. Has worked well so far for me.
My old boss used to do the birthday month thing even though she was like 45. Everyday she would have a different theme or celebration leading up to her actual birthday. It was the most obnoxious and annoying thing I’ve ever experienced. I’ve seen a few other girls do this on Facebook and it’s super cringe worthy.
I hate celebrating my birthday as well which is why I usually go on a solo trip somewhere around my actual birthday. I don’t want to feel pressure to make it a big deal and celebrate amongst friends and family.
Also October is pretty much the last month where real work gets done at the office. Most people take vacations in November and December and it feels like no one is at the office during these months. Everyone is on cruise control the rest of the year after October.
I agree with Champ Mami. In college, girls can pull off the slutty nurse showing off boobs and booty. After college it should only be one or the other. Gotta class up the sluttiness a bit.
Duda, any background info about this girl? Did you guys ever hook up previously? What do you think caused her to change her feelings while you were walking around?
Usually my flights are around holidays when friends and family are usually in town. It’s almost impossible not to go out the night before a flight when everyone is in town at once.
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You need to work from home Duda. There is no dread of going back into the office after New Years because “the office” is my couch. Helps relieve a lot of work anxiety and annoyances that I used to experience when working in an office everyday.
Those string of Bieber hits really take me back to a happier time in my life too. I remember visiting New York City around New Years with some family, going out and hearing Sorry and Love Yourself nonstop at the bars. Was a magical time. Those songs will never get old and instantly put you in a good mood. We need more music like that.
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I was walking around my apartment the other day and started limping for no reason at all. Felt like I sprained my leg or something it was so hard to walk. Happens more than I’d like to admit lol.
I was never a strip club guy either, I just assumed they were all dirty and trashy. Until I went to a really good one in New Orleans, after that I can appreciate a nice strip club from time to time.
Pro tip: they usually have the best happy hour in town, its a good place to pregame before heading out for the night. Also, during happy hour its not as crowded, so if you’ve never been before this would be the perfect time to go and see the lay of the land; learn the customs etc.
My dude! Always been a fan of your writing. As always, this article resonated with me. No matter how much money I make, how prestigious the company I work for, my job title etc. I will always see myself as the poor hispanic kid who grew up in the ghetto, and waited tables/delivered pizzas before I started my career. I’ve worked for a few fortune 100 companies and felt like I had finally “made it”, but was deathly afraid of being figured out or being labeled a fraud.
Now that I’m semi established in my career and somewhat well-respected, the fraud feeling goes away a little bit, but still lingers every now and then. I just got a new job where I can work from home, and is stress-free and very relaxed. This is the happiest I’ve ever been in my career, and I finally feel like I made it!
Keep writing sir.
Either that or she just lost interest.
You’re right it’s not completely absurd but this is a different situation. His new gfs best friend is coming in town, they haven’t met before and he wants to make a good impression. Common courtesy/manners is for him to pick up the tab at dinner, especially since it sounds like he can afford it and the money is no issue.
The gfs friend should then offer to buy him a few rounds afterward as a nice gesture.
Another thing I hate about watching at a bar is then not having the sound on for your specific game. If I can’t hear the sound for a game I’m watching then I usually don’t pay attention and miss a lot of the big plays.
Put it in a Roth IRA with vanguard. Select a target retirement date fund that most closely matches with your expected retirement age. That’s it!
I’ve dated a few strong independent type women who were teachers and didn’t make much money. When they found out how much money I made I could tell there was some jealousy and resentment. It’s hard for both parties when there’s a big gap in income.
High income girl: To me it all depends on the income disparity. If I’m making $100k and my girlfriend is making $120k, then who cares because we’re both relatively high earners. Now if I’m making $50k and my gf is making $100k, then yea that might bug me a little bit (or a lot).
Moral of the story is to go for guys with similar goals and amibitions as you. Date guys in your same industry or similar career paths as you. It will make things a lot easier for both parties!
For someone just starting out like yourself, a simple 3 index fund portfolio is the best move. Open an account at vanguard or fidelity and put 1/3 into total bond market fund, total US stock market index fund, total international stock index fund. That’s it. You are completely diversified in the market with stocks and bonds.
I cook and eat at home Sunday – Thursday. I try to spend zero dollars during the week. Then allow myself to go out and spend whatever on Friday and Saturday. Has worked well so far for me.
My old boss used to do the birthday month thing even though she was like 45. Everyday she would have a different theme or celebration leading up to her actual birthday. It was the most obnoxious and annoying thing I’ve ever experienced. I’ve seen a few other girls do this on Facebook and it’s super cringe worthy.
I hate celebrating my birthday as well which is why I usually go on a solo trip somewhere around my actual birthday. I don’t want to feel pressure to make it a big deal and celebrate amongst friends and family.
Also October is pretty much the last month where real work gets done at the office. Most people take vacations in November and December and it feels like no one is at the office during these months. Everyone is on cruise control the rest of the year after October.
I really enjoyed and related to this. Similar situation happened to me last year with a good buddy.
Keep writing Madoff.
I agree with Champ Mami. In college, girls can pull off the slutty nurse showing off boobs and booty. After college it should only be one or the other. Gotta class up the sluttiness a bit.
Duda, any background info about this girl? Did you guys ever hook up previously? What do you think caused her to change her feelings while you were walking around?
Usually my flights are around holidays when friends and family are usually in town. It’s almost impossible not to go out the night before a flight when everyone is in town at once.