As a recruiter for a fortune 100 company where many people want to work, I can confirm that my title and company have gotten me several dates with girls who want to “break into the industry.” I play it up and use it to my advantage.
Max this article and your texts made me cringe because Ive been there plenty of times with girls I liked. Put in the friend zone but also too scared to make a move, so the vicious cycle continued. I think there are certain girls out there that tend to attract these types of guys over and over because they like the attention. I can almost guarantee Mia has 4-5 other “guy friends” similar to you, who are in love with her and will be there at a moments notice for her whenever she feels like it.
You cannot just be friends with this girl no matter how hard you try. Why dont you just ask Lyla if she thinks Mia has any feelings for you. Or tell Lyla that you kinda have a crush on Mia and see what Lyla says. I promise you Lyla will have the inside scoop on what guys Mia likes.
If Mia doesnt feel the same way for you then just stop talking to her. Focus your attention on other girls that do want to have sex with you. I promise you there are thousands of girls in NYC that will sleep with you and may in fact have feelings for you. It took me a long time to realize this, but once I did, I have had more success with girls. Life is too short to focus your time and effort on girls that dont like you.
As much as others will deny that the dreaded friend zone doesnt exist. It does exist. I’ve been there, youve been there, others have been there. You are in the friend zone right now amigo, do yourself a favor and either make a move or move on!
I know this has been suggested before, but Dave Ramsey’s Total Money Makeover book is perfect for someone in your situation. The methods he talks about in the book helped me pay off around 15k of debt in a short amount of time. However, it appears as if you have a spending problem, and you will always be in debt unless you learn how to live below your means and spend less than you make.
Try and get a higher paying job, if you cant find a higher paying job then get a second or third part time job. For two years I waited tables on the weekends on top of my full time job during the week. This helped me pay off most of my debt as well as accrue savings. After building up my work experience I was able to leave for a much higher paying position where I no longer needed to work the part time job.
It wont be easy, but I have faith in you that you will climb out of this hole. Always remain positive and remember, this too shall pass!
Pro tip: always wear one of those old school phone headsets like the telemarketers do. Makes it look like you’re on the phone 24/7. Also, type away like a mad man while you stare intently at a screen. You could be gchatting a hookup but it will look like youre hammering away a report while talking to a client. I’ve gotten multiple comments from my superiors that it looks like Im busy and working hard all the time since Im always on the phone. I just agree with them lol.
Here’s a tip, start going for Latino guys. They will be more aggressive in their pursuit and you will always know where you stand with them. They don’t like to play games.
I started started going after Latina girls, and there has been a night and day difference in my dating life.
My employer matches our 401k 100% up to 8%, it would be silly not to contribute to get that match and throw away that free money; even if I was drowning in debt. If she is going to work for a big employer with a generous 401k match, the obvious answer is to contribute to the 401k to receive the employer match.
Plus 401k’s are protected from certain events like bankruptcy or if someone tries to sue you. For someone like the writer of the article who might lack certain financial skills at this stage in her life, the 401k is a perfect forced savings plan for her.
My advice to the writer of this article is to work like a mad man (woman) for several years right out of school. Work a part time job on the weekends or after work (bartender, waiter, starbucks, uber) and really focus on paying down the debt. Live with your parents for a year or two and pay down half the debt. Or marry someone rich!
Max trust me, cut out the texting with her and just stick to pics and vids on snap chat. Much easier to get flirty and eventually will lead to nudes. I’ve had girls barely respond to my texts, yet they will blow me up on snap chat with selfies. Girls respond to visuals much better than words, which is why things took a turn for the better after you sent her that selfie. #science
My go to order at a bar like this is one new craft brew I’ve never tried before to get the buzz flowing, and then stick to Miller Lite’s afterward. That way you appease the masses.
This is spot on. I have a list of dream cities I want to live in, with the only criteria being how awesome is their bar scene: Nola, Miami, NYC, Chicago, Denver, San Juan. Also, a body of water nearby to get drunk in comes in at a close second.
Stop dancing around the issue. Invite her out for drinks tomorrow and tell her you want to show her a good time. Proceed to get her drunk at your favorite bar and lightly flirt. DO NOT BRING UP THE EX AT ALL. Keep it light and flirty and hopefully you’ll score at the end.
I’ve been off since Friday. I got obnoxiously drunk this weekend floating the Comal River in Central Texas. Went out last night and have zero motivation to do anything at the office today. Waiting on a job offer thats supposed to come in today. At least its a short week.
Literally this is happening to me. Dating a girl for a month, shes meeting my parents next weekend, things are getting serious. Dont be afraid to ride the wave!
The guy is right ya know. All of my friends who complain about being broke, are the ones going out to lunch/dinner everyday and buying Starbucks multiple times a day. Hes mainly saying live below your means and don’t waste your money on dumb things. Mark Cuban preaches similar things.
I took some time off drinking because I was tired of all the hangovers/sluggishness at work. Well tonight that changes. Rockets game tonight, tomorrow is my Friday off (thank you 9/80s), and this weekend is my birthday. Should be a fun weekend!
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As a recruiter for a fortune 100 company where many people want to work, I can confirm that my title and company have gotten me several dates with girls who want to “break into the industry.” I play it up and use it to my advantage.
Max this article and your texts made me cringe because Ive been there plenty of times with girls I liked. Put in the friend zone but also too scared to make a move, so the vicious cycle continued. I think there are certain girls out there that tend to attract these types of guys over and over because they like the attention. I can almost guarantee Mia has 4-5 other “guy friends” similar to you, who are in love with her and will be there at a moments notice for her whenever she feels like it.
You cannot just be friends with this girl no matter how hard you try. Why dont you just ask Lyla if she thinks Mia has any feelings for you. Or tell Lyla that you kinda have a crush on Mia and see what Lyla says. I promise you Lyla will have the inside scoop on what guys Mia likes.
If Mia doesnt feel the same way for you then just stop talking to her. Focus your attention on other girls that do want to have sex with you. I promise you there are thousands of girls in NYC that will sleep with you and may in fact have feelings for you. It took me a long time to realize this, but once I did, I have had more success with girls. Life is too short to focus your time and effort on girls that dont like you.
As much as others will deny that the dreaded friend zone doesnt exist. It does exist. I’ve been there, youve been there, others have been there. You are in the friend zone right now amigo, do yourself a favor and either make a move or move on!
I know this has been suggested before, but Dave Ramsey’s Total Money Makeover book is perfect for someone in your situation. The methods he talks about in the book helped me pay off around 15k of debt in a short amount of time. However, it appears as if you have a spending problem, and you will always be in debt unless you learn how to live below your means and spend less than you make.
Try and get a higher paying job, if you cant find a higher paying job then get a second or third part time job. For two years I waited tables on the weekends on top of my full time job during the week. This helped me pay off most of my debt as well as accrue savings. After building up my work experience I was able to leave for a much higher paying position where I no longer needed to work the part time job.
It wont be easy, but I have faith in you that you will climb out of this hole. Always remain positive and remember, this too shall pass!
Pro tip: always wear one of those old school phone headsets like the telemarketers do. Makes it look like you’re on the phone 24/7. Also, type away like a mad man while you stare intently at a screen. You could be gchatting a hookup but it will look like youre hammering away a report while talking to a client. I’ve gotten multiple comments from my superiors that it looks like Im busy and working hard all the time since Im always on the phone. I just agree with them lol.
Here’s a tip, start going for Latino guys. They will be more aggressive in their pursuit and you will always know where you stand with them. They don’t like to play games.
I started started going after Latina girls, and there has been a night and day difference in my dating life.
My employer matches our 401k 100% up to 8%, it would be silly not to contribute to get that match and throw away that free money; even if I was drowning in debt. If she is going to work for a big employer with a generous 401k match, the obvious answer is to contribute to the 401k to receive the employer match.
Plus 401k’s are protected from certain events like bankruptcy or if someone tries to sue you. For someone like the writer of the article who might lack certain financial skills at this stage in her life, the 401k is a perfect forced savings plan for her.
My advice to the writer of this article is to work like a mad man (woman) for several years right out of school. Work a part time job on the weekends or after work (bartender, waiter, starbucks, uber) and really focus on paying down the debt. Live with your parents for a year or two and pay down half the debt. Or marry someone rich!
Max trust me, cut out the texting with her and just stick to pics and vids on snap chat. Much easier to get flirty and eventually will lead to nudes. I’ve had girls barely respond to my texts, yet they will blow me up on snap chat with selfies. Girls respond to visuals much better than words, which is why things took a turn for the better after you sent her that selfie. #science
Hustling like the rents due tomorrow!
My go to order at a bar like this is one new craft brew I’ve never tried before to get the buzz flowing, and then stick to Miller Lite’s afterward. That way you appease the masses.
This is spot on. I have a list of dream cities I want to live in, with the only criteria being how awesome is their bar scene: Nola, Miami, NYC, Chicago, Denver, San Juan. Also, a body of water nearby to get drunk in comes in at a close second.
Stop dancing around the issue. Invite her out for drinks tomorrow and tell her you want to show her a good time. Proceed to get her drunk at your favorite bar and lightly flirt. DO NOT BRING UP THE EX AT ALL. Keep it light and flirty and hopefully you’ll score at the end.
Can confirm about the gray hair on the sides. Girls love it, while guys are the ones who will call me out on it and give me shit.
I’ve been off since Friday. I got obnoxiously drunk this weekend floating the Comal River in Central Texas. Went out last night and have zero motivation to do anything at the office today. Waiting on a job offer thats supposed to come in today. At least its a short week.
Literally this is happening to me. Dating a girl for a month, shes meeting my parents next weekend, things are getting serious. Dont be afraid to ride the wave!
The guy is right ya know. All of my friends who complain about being broke, are the ones going out to lunch/dinner everyday and buying Starbucks multiple times a day. Hes mainly saying live below your means and don’t waste your money on dumb things. Mark Cuban preaches similar things.
You forgot the standard morning check bumble/tinder for matches, messages, and more swipes. I cant get out of bed without swiping for a few minutes.
Rockets. Harden. :/
I took some time off drinking because I was tired of all the hangovers/sluggishness at work. Well tonight that changes. Rockets game tonight, tomorrow is my Friday off (thank you 9/80s), and this weekend is my birthday. Should be a fun weekend!
This. This made me feel all warm inside.
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