The way I see it, and I try not to be negative, but life kind of sucks. For anyone and everyone. It just has a tendency to be unfair. Shitty things happen to great people, awful people seem to get away with everything… etc. I could go on. I think we work so hard trying to set ourselves up for greatness that when we face serious struggles in different areas in our lives, we think we caused it, or we wonder why the shitty things always happen to us. But I genuinely think that that is just how it is and instead of focusing on why these things suck, I try change it when I can, and when I can’t, I try to just appreciate the moments that don’t suck. When I’m killing it at work, I try to hold onto it inside and remind myself how lucky I am to have a job at all, let alone be good at it. When I meet a guy who actually seems to have good intentions, I try to enjoy it and not take it for granted. Not everything is, but a lot of great things are fleeing and I think that it’s important to learn to be someone who can take what’s handed to them and deal with it in the best or at least most productive way possible, and enjoy the hell out of the good stuff and the little things too. This is a perspective I’ve taken on over the last year or so and I’m obviously still working on it but believe it or not I’ve become a lot happier overall.
Honestly I wonder how many times this happens to me. I don’t know if I’d be comfortable outright asking someone out in person, during the day, sober, but I’d definitely make some small talk and open up the possibility.
I didn’t know who Jaqueline was until like last week and I found her highly annoying. Won’t miss her at all on my TV screen. Def want to be BFFs with Bekah though.
I don’t really mean like criticize I make fun that’s how I flirt. But I kinda back off once I realize I like them. But ok I guess I never thought of myself as clingy but that’s fair. Thanks for taking the time to explain all that.
No I don’t think I have an issue w the sex thing it’s more like it takes a while for me to get comfortable with someone and then once I do I want them to feel appreciated so I guess maybe I do put them on a pedestal? Idk it’s like the guy is the more interested one at first and then once I catch up suddenly they lose interest and disappear. My last 3 exes turned out that way and it’s starting to take a toll, lol. I do tease guys and call them out on their shit and I try to do it in a way that’s not bitchy but sometimes I just feel like I’m being a bitch so I back off and maybe that’s where I go wrong lol. I really don’t know.
19th Hole I think that was a pretty condescending comment. I completely get where Rachel is coming from especially after having been recently seriously burned by a guy when I finally truly let my guard down and was vulnerable. It blew up in my face and now not only am I hurt but I feel like an idiot for trusting him in the first place. The idea of being so open to again is terrifying and I don’t see it happening for a while.
Never would I have thought that Kendall would be the most self assured and levelheaded woman on the show but I wish I could see the world the way she does. She is so underrated and awesome.
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The way I see it, and I try not to be negative, but life kind of sucks. For anyone and everyone. It just has a tendency to be unfair. Shitty things happen to great people, awful people seem to get away with everything… etc. I could go on. I think we work so hard trying to set ourselves up for greatness that when we face serious struggles in different areas in our lives, we think we caused it, or we wonder why the shitty things always happen to us. But I genuinely think that that is just how it is and instead of focusing on why these things suck, I try change it when I can, and when I can’t, I try to just appreciate the moments that don’t suck. When I’m killing it at work, I try to hold onto it inside and remind myself how lucky I am to have a job at all, let alone be good at it. When I meet a guy who actually seems to have good intentions, I try to enjoy it and not take it for granted. Not everything is, but a lot of great things are fleeing and I think that it’s important to learn to be someone who can take what’s handed to them and deal with it in the best or at least most productive way possible, and enjoy the hell out of the good stuff and the little things too. This is a perspective I’ve taken on over the last year or so and I’m obviously still working on it but believe it or not I’ve become a lot happier overall.
Are there other men like you? Asking for a friend
Honestly I wonder how many times this happens to me. I don’t know if I’d be comfortable outright asking someone out in person, during the day, sober, but I’d definitely make some small talk and open up the possibility.
LOL just saw your comment about it… nvm you crack me up.
Add Raisin Bran to your geriatric cereals. My grandma’s favorite. Very good for keeping you “regular.”
Sorry guys never gonna happen
I didn’t know who Jaqueline was until like last week and I found her highly annoying. Won’t miss her at all on my TV screen. Def want to be BFFs with Bekah though.
I really do not like Matthew McConaughey. And I definitely had to google how to spell his name. He just bothers me… always has.
Thank you everyone for the above and beyond advice and differing opinions. You guys rock 🙂
Um…. sup?
I don’t really mean like criticize I make fun that’s how I flirt. But I kinda back off once I realize I like them. But ok I guess I never thought of myself as clingy but that’s fair. Thanks for taking the time to explain all that.
See this is the SOML.
No I don’t think I have an issue w the sex thing it’s more like it takes a while for me to get comfortable with someone and then once I do I want them to feel appreciated so I guess maybe I do put them on a pedestal? Idk it’s like the guy is the more interested one at first and then once I catch up suddenly they lose interest and disappear. My last 3 exes turned out that way and it’s starting to take a toll, lol. I do tease guys and call them out on their shit and I try to do it in a way that’s not bitchy but sometimes I just feel like I’m being a bitch so I back off and maybe that’s where I go wrong lol. I really don’t know.
Ugh the last post breaks my heart. That girl is me over and over.
I usually just grab a drink and some food and sit at the bar with a book. Seems to work out just fine for me, certainly don’t need a lounge.
19th Hole I think that was a pretty condescending comment. I completely get where Rachel is coming from especially after having been recently seriously burned by a guy when I finally truly let my guard down and was vulnerable. It blew up in my face and now not only am I hurt but I feel like an idiot for trusting him in the first place. The idea of being so open to again is terrifying and I don’t see it happening for a while.
If not, at least she gets to leave with Louboutins.
Never would I have thought that Kendall would be the most self assured and levelheaded woman on the show but I wish I could see the world the way she does. She is so underrated and awesome.
All I have to say is this guy better not screw it up.
You don’t belong here then, sorry