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Last week I got a DM from a reader who, in the nascent stages of my CallMeVictoria Instagram career, messaged me to say that he related to an article I wrote about quitting my job. I remember thinking he was nice, and that it was cool to know there was someone out there reading and relating to my writing. We talked about work (we’re both in consulting), and that was that.
At least, I thought that was that until Sunday night, when he sent me another DM. This time, however, his message was a simple request. “Hey, so I had a “dating playbook” script I was wondering if you could look over. Mind if I email it your way?”
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Every week I write a column in which I recount a past date, (most of which I expertly craft in order to swoon my suitor and trick him into ignoring the sharper of my edges) with the intention of inspiring or motivating any or all members of the Single Squad™ to get out there and fight the good fight. In time, you’ll come to learn we’re all about taking shots.
Now that you’re caught up, I digress.
I responded to our anonymous Instagram DM slider that of course he could email me…and email me he did.
Sure enough, on Monday morning when I checked my email I had a pending correspondence with an attachment titled “Dating Playbook.” I was a little bit confused considering readers don’t generally send me play books. I suspected he was up to something – I just didn’t know what.
The below letter is what I received and all I can say is, shouts. to. this. guy.
He’s smart, he’s fearless, and while we’re all over here talking a big fat game about 2018 being the year of shooting your shot, he’s out here doing the goddamn thing.
It is with great respect that I post the below email. It was like surprise piece of delicious chocolate cake in my normally boring, whole-wheat toast of a Monday morning inbox. Bon appétit!
Set the Stage
So to give you the quick background on me, I was single the majority of 2017, but really didn’t reenter the dating game until last July. Since then I’ve talked to more people than I care to count, and have probably been on a dozen or more dates.
My dating game seems to follow a circuitous process.
1) Match on Bumble, Tinder, Hinge, etc.
2) Send a few messages back and forth to get a feel for each other and see if there is any chemistry
3) Set up a date – normally happy hour, sometimes going a little outside the box with escape rooms or paint & sips.
It’s not the most original process in the world, but it seems to do the trick and generally sets a good foundation for meeting new people.
Here’s where it gets interesting though. I’ve been wanting to ask this one girl on a date who I did not meet on a dating app. The beauty of the dating app is you know they are looking to meet people, and they at least have a base interest in you.
For this girl, I’ve got no idea what my chances are. She’s single and we’ve had good conversations, but I do not have a solid basis on what her take on me is.
This play is riskier, more nerve-racking, but also more fun in this situation, which brings me to where I am now…
Plan the Play
The girl in question, an overview of: down-to-earth, intelligent, and thrives on originality. She is outgoing and very open about what she wants in life. One of the big problems is we are not from the same city, BUT I am visiting her city for work in two weeks’ time.
Thus, to get her attention, I’m breaking out all the stops. Diligent planning and sound execution are key. My goal is to blindside her, but in a good way. That approach certainly has backfire potential, but I’m sticking to my guns.
She’s constantly busy, so it will be paramount to distinguish myself as an interesting person who would be worth meeting up with.
Michael Scott said it best, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take – Wayne Gretzky”.
Shoot Your Shot
This is the final piece to the puzzle. This part of the story is currently in the works. I figured I’d turn to the “professional playbook creator” to help me best finish this part of the post….
With that being said, Victoria would you like to finish this story with me in LA at some point the week of Feb. 13th – 20th? ☺
(Feel free to text me: 555-555-5555)
So there you have it. Aside from the fact that he’s probably a masochist (considering he wants to take ME on a date), I won’t lie in saying this guy had me uniquely impressed.
I was intrigued – and if there’s anything I know about dating, it’s that intrigue is as fine an aphrodisiac as any.
I guess the question is: Do I take him up on the offer and help him finish the play?
Tell me what you think below, because I’m itching for Single Squad input. Hell, tell him what you think below – you know he’s reading..
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