Austin/Dallas are beautiful through May. If you wanna visit after it’ll just be too hot. If you like hiking do the Hill Country as well. And there’s Waco in between where you can get your Fixer Upper fix.
Girl moving for her BF – if you guys were married, engaged, or have been together for 3+ years with intention of getting engaged soon I would say go for it. But for one year, I don’t believe it’s a good idea. You are about to uproot your whole life and move to an unfamiliar place where you only know him and will have to depend on him financially. You said you have some savings but those will dwindle down fast. Your only friends will be through him. You will only explore the city if it’s with him. You can say you’re your own person, but you’ll unconsciously become completely dependent on him because he’s the only thing in your new city you’re comfortable with. If you guys break up you will only lose. Be long distance for at least a year to even decide if this relationship is worth pursuing, then decide whether or not to move.
I am a big fan of breakfast for dinner. But whenever I think about it, I’m reminded of someone I knew in college who loved breakfast food so much that he ate it all day every day. Breakfast, lunch, dinner – he was eating eggs, bacon, hashbrowns, pancakes. Refused to eat anything else. He thought he was living the life, until he got sick. Turns out he never added OJ to his routine. Wound up with scurvy.
Just got married in the Catholic church and my priest is a stickler for the rules. They do not ask whether or not the MOH/BM is Catholic. Maybe she thought it would make the priest feel better but it’s not a requirement. My groom wasn’t even Catholic. He was baptized (as a Protestant during his teenage years) and promised he wouldn’t hider me in raising our children Catholic. That’s good enough for the Church.
But typically those non-practicing adults were at least baptized and received the sacraments growing up. While both wrong, there is a major difference between a non-practicing Catholic receiving communion without first receiving confession and a non-Catholic receiving communion.
I’m the kind of person who has a 4 page agenda for a weekend trip and a 10-15 page agenda for a week long trip. Plus a coordinating custom Google Map. If it’s a beach relaxing trip, then I have listed the beaches I want to go to, best times to arrive, a packing check list to ensure I don’t forget anything, and I’ve already researched and listed the best restaurants/bars in the area. That way I don’t think when I get there. Personally, I find it makes things more relaxing.
Honestly, the fact that they haven’t picked a date is truly frustrating. My best friend got engaged last summer and she STILL hasn’t picked a date. I bet just like me, Girl’s friends are going crazy waiting to find out.
Also, are we getting her mother go into full Mother Of The Bride Mode? Based on the kind of girl Girl is, I’d feel her mother would be the one to try to live through her daughter and try to have the wedding of her dreams. At the very least use this as an excuse to show off to her friends. We need a Mother-Is-Trying-To-Take-Over story.
When I moved to a new city, I was able to meet a lot of people by joining a young professionals org. Everyone is around your age, have similar drive and passions, and you get to network and grow in your leadership skills. It’s a win all around.
Yeah my guy has already used what he incorrectly believes is the perfect excuse. “But it’s Ash Wednesday. You said you wanted more support from me in regards to your religion so I’m not going to temp you from breaking your fast by taking you out to dinner or getting you chocolates or wine.”
You’re the one wearing the ring. It’s your responsibility to make sure you get what you want.
When my bf and I decided we were ready to get engaged, he literally got a call from a jewelry store with the woman saying “I just spoke to your gf who says you’re planning on making her your fiancée soon. She has picked out the setting and given me her ring size. All I need from you is carat size and your credit card number”. People would call me crazy, but my husband hates shopping. He appreciated that I took all the work and pressure out of it and he was happy he got me exactly what I wanted.
One of my friends thought I went to far. She created a pinterest page and sent it to him thinking that was enough. She accidentally saw the ring before the proposal and DELAYED the proposal he planned because she hated the ring he picked out. So guess what? She ended up taking him to a store and literally pointed at what she wanted.
No one wants spend an outrageous amount of money on jewelry that their love doesn’t even like and will grow to resent. My parents have been married for 30 years and my mom STILL complains that she didn’t get the emerald cut she wanted. Personally, I don’t think ppt is going far enough. Pick out exactly what you want. If he’s not the kind of guy that appreciates being spoon fed, show your pick to a family member like your mother and have her guide him to the right choice.
My husband hates when he has to interact with my best friend’s husband. When I mention we’ll be seeing them, he always lets out a frustrated groan and a “why do you do this to me?”. She says her husband does the same thing. Nothing is wrong with either guy. Their personalities/interests/lifestyles are just so different that they never have anything to talk about and they mostly sit in bored silence. Not even getting them drunk helps. I just keep telling him he needs to find common ground but he claims that’s not possible.
There are 12 days of Christmas: Christmas Day through the Epiphany on Jan 6th. You should at least keep your decorations up though the Christmas season.
Eh, not every mom is like this. Sure I know my mom will be happy when my husband and I eventually have kids, but right now her current attitude is “I didn’t limit my career and become a stay at home mom just so my daughters can do the same”. I’m in my late 20s and when her friends mention grandkids, her response is usually “well she’s not an executive yet so it’ll be a few more years before I want them to start thinking about it.”
My office provides free ‘yoga’ in a conference room during lunch twice a week. Because there are no showers, they specifically only do poses that won’t make you sweat and they require you to bring your own personal mat. It’s mostly stretching with the lights turned down low, soothing music playing, and ends with a 20 minute shavasana (i.e., a nap). Maybe that’s the type of yoga you should get into.
Had a Catholic wedding but made it the “non-mass” version hoping that would cut down time. The priest figured since we cut out about 20 minutes, that gave him an extra 20 minutes for his homily. Thus my poor guests had to sit though a 30 minute speech (on top of the rest of the ceremony) where the priest became VERY graphic on the expectations of the wedding night.
In addition, I also did the no kids rule. 7 out of my 9 cousins boycotted my wedding due to the fact their children couldn’t come, but honestly it was worth it.
Everyone has flavors they don’t like. But I had a roommate one summer that was an EXTREMELY picky eater. And it was a lot worse than what you described.
“I don’t eat anything green. Or onions. Or tomatoes”
“The only meat I eat is chicken”
“I’ll eat apples only if they are pealed and sliced. And not by me because I don’t like touching knives”
“The only milk I drink it strawberry, but ONLY if it is a certain shade of pink”
She literally ate box mac and cheese and dinosaur chicken nuggets every night.
I’ve been not invited and even uninvited from multiple of my guy friend’s weddings. Like the girl, I was in a sorority and have plenty of female friends, but I had a solid group of guys in college I routinely hung out with. Unlike girl, I never hooked up with any of them (I met my now husband in freshman year and we’ve always been exclusive). One by one the guys would start to get girlfriends, and one by one they started to get banned from seeing me. When a new girl came along, the rest of the gfs would pile on and make it clear that I shouldn’t be trusted. The guys actually said the gf’s hate for me was a bonding experience between them all. The girls were had trust issues and they didn’t like their bfs having a female friend they were very close and comfortable with. The fact that I had a bf or never did anything physical with them didn’t matter.
So post college they started to get married. Every bride banned me from their wedding. I was told that the brides felt me being there would “ruin” their wedding. After each occurrence the next guy assured me they wouldn’t let their bride be that crazy, and but I was not invited when their time came around. The latest one I got the invite, then a few weeks later received an email from him saying I was uninvited. He later told me the fighting between him and his bride got so bad that she threatened to cancel the wedding if he continued to insist that I be invited.
I was hurt, but honestly I had to look at the situation. All of these girls had serious confidence issues, and they (incorrectly) perceived me as a threat. But it’s their day and they can do what they want. If me not being there (irrationally) made them feel better, then I had to accept that. I realized doing what I could to preserve my friendships was more important than trying to push my way into a wedding.
After the weddings, the girls did mellow out. Marriage does add confidence to a relationship. I’ve now been invited to house parties and go out to dinner with these married couples. Most of the wives are now friendly to me. You just need to accept that this is something they have to work through. And it may take a lot longer for them because you actually were physical. It starts by you taking the high rode. I invited each and every one of them to my wedding. It showed them that I wasn’t going to play into their pettiness and it began the process of rebuilding those friendships.
The RSVPs for my wedding are starting to come in from my guests. And so are the “why didn’t I a get a plus one?” calls. Space is usually a limiting factor, or at least it was for us. We put a hard limit of married, engaged, or have been dating for at least 2 years because we literally don’t have space for more. In the invitations, we specifically wrote “__ of 1” in the accept box to let them know their date cannot come. We made sure they have at least 2 or 3 friends they also know at the wedding so they’re not sitting alone, but I am not going to cut a good friend from my guest list so someone’s recent gf/bf can be there.
I’m sorry friend from college who now lives out of state who’s had a gf for the last 6 months. I’d love to meet her, but my wedding is not the place to do so.
I’m sorry high school friend who’s had a new bf for the last 4 months. You haven’t even filed the divorce papers for the husband you’ve recently separated from.
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Austin/Dallas are beautiful through May. If you wanna visit after it’ll just be too hot. If you like hiking do the Hill Country as well. And there’s Waco in between where you can get your Fixer Upper fix.
Girl moving for her BF – if you guys were married, engaged, or have been together for 3+ years with intention of getting engaged soon I would say go for it. But for one year, I don’t believe it’s a good idea. You are about to uproot your whole life and move to an unfamiliar place where you only know him and will have to depend on him financially. You said you have some savings but those will dwindle down fast. Your only friends will be through him. You will only explore the city if it’s with him. You can say you’re your own person, but you’ll unconsciously become completely dependent on him because he’s the only thing in your new city you’re comfortable with. If you guys break up you will only lose. Be long distance for at least a year to even decide if this relationship is worth pursuing, then decide whether or not to move.
I am a big fan of breakfast for dinner. But whenever I think about it, I’m reminded of someone I knew in college who loved breakfast food so much that he ate it all day every day. Breakfast, lunch, dinner – he was eating eggs, bacon, hashbrowns, pancakes. Refused to eat anything else. He thought he was living the life, until he got sick. Turns out he never added OJ to his routine. Wound up with scurvy.
Just got married in the Catholic church and my priest is a stickler for the rules. They do not ask whether or not the MOH/BM is Catholic. Maybe she thought it would make the priest feel better but it’s not a requirement. My groom wasn’t even Catholic. He was baptized (as a Protestant during his teenage years) and promised he wouldn’t hider me in raising our children Catholic. That’s good enough for the Church.
But typically those non-practicing adults were at least baptized and received the sacraments growing up. While both wrong, there is a major difference between a non-practicing Catholic receiving communion without first receiving confession and a non-Catholic receiving communion.
I’m the kind of person who has a 4 page agenda for a weekend trip and a 10-15 page agenda for a week long trip. Plus a coordinating custom Google Map. If it’s a beach relaxing trip, then I have listed the beaches I want to go to, best times to arrive, a packing check list to ensure I don’t forget anything, and I’ve already researched and listed the best restaurants/bars in the area. That way I don’t think when I get there. Personally, I find it makes things more relaxing.
Honestly, the fact that they haven’t picked a date is truly frustrating. My best friend got engaged last summer and she STILL hasn’t picked a date. I bet just like me, Girl’s friends are going crazy waiting to find out.
Also, are we getting her mother go into full Mother Of The Bride Mode? Based on the kind of girl Girl is, I’d feel her mother would be the one to try to live through her daughter and try to have the wedding of her dreams. At the very least use this as an excuse to show off to her friends. We need a Mother-Is-Trying-To-Take-Over story.
“I brought a bottle of wine”
When I moved to a new city, I was able to meet a lot of people by joining a young professionals org. Everyone is around your age, have similar drive and passions, and you get to network and grow in your leadership skills. It’s a win all around.
Yeah my guy has already used what he incorrectly believes is the perfect excuse. “But it’s Ash Wednesday. You said you wanted more support from me in regards to your religion so I’m not going to temp you from breaking your fast by taking you out to dinner or getting you chocolates or wine.”
You’re the one wearing the ring. It’s your responsibility to make sure you get what you want.
When my bf and I decided we were ready to get engaged, he literally got a call from a jewelry store with the woman saying “I just spoke to your gf who says you’re planning on making her your fiancée soon. She has picked out the setting and given me her ring size. All I need from you is carat size and your credit card number”. People would call me crazy, but my husband hates shopping. He appreciated that I took all the work and pressure out of it and he was happy he got me exactly what I wanted.
One of my friends thought I went to far. She created a pinterest page and sent it to him thinking that was enough. She accidentally saw the ring before the proposal and DELAYED the proposal he planned because she hated the ring he picked out. So guess what? She ended up taking him to a store and literally pointed at what she wanted.
No one wants spend an outrageous amount of money on jewelry that their love doesn’t even like and will grow to resent. My parents have been married for 30 years and my mom STILL complains that she didn’t get the emerald cut she wanted. Personally, I don’t think ppt is going far enough. Pick out exactly what you want. If he’s not the kind of guy that appreciates being spoon fed, show your pick to a family member like your mother and have her guide him to the right choice.
My husband hates when he has to interact with my best friend’s husband. When I mention we’ll be seeing them, he always lets out a frustrated groan and a “why do you do this to me?”. She says her husband does the same thing. Nothing is wrong with either guy. Their personalities/interests/lifestyles are just so different that they never have anything to talk about and they mostly sit in bored silence. Not even getting them drunk helps. I just keep telling him he needs to find common ground but he claims that’s not possible.
There are 12 days of Christmas: Christmas Day through the Epiphany on Jan 6th. You should at least keep your decorations up though the Christmas season.
Eh, not every mom is like this. Sure I know my mom will be happy when my husband and I eventually have kids, but right now her current attitude is “I didn’t limit my career and become a stay at home mom just so my daughters can do the same”. I’m in my late 20s and when her friends mention grandkids, her response is usually “well she’s not an executive yet so it’ll be a few more years before I want them to start thinking about it.”
My office provides free ‘yoga’ in a conference room during lunch twice a week. Because there are no showers, they specifically only do poses that won’t make you sweat and they require you to bring your own personal mat. It’s mostly stretching with the lights turned down low, soothing music playing, and ends with a 20 minute shavasana (i.e., a nap). Maybe that’s the type of yoga you should get into.
Had a Catholic wedding but made it the “non-mass” version hoping that would cut down time. The priest figured since we cut out about 20 minutes, that gave him an extra 20 minutes for his homily. Thus my poor guests had to sit though a 30 minute speech (on top of the rest of the ceremony) where the priest became VERY graphic on the expectations of the wedding night.
In addition, I also did the no kids rule. 7 out of my 9 cousins boycotted my wedding due to the fact their children couldn’t come, but honestly it was worth it.
Everyone has flavors they don’t like. But I had a roommate one summer that was an EXTREMELY picky eater. And it was a lot worse than what you described.
“I don’t eat anything green. Or onions. Or tomatoes”
“The only meat I eat is chicken”
“I’ll eat apples only if they are pealed and sliced. And not by me because I don’t like touching knives”
“The only milk I drink it strawberry, but ONLY if it is a certain shade of pink”
She literally ate box mac and cheese and dinosaur chicken nuggets every night.
I’ve been not invited and even uninvited from multiple of my guy friend’s weddings. Like the girl, I was in a sorority and have plenty of female friends, but I had a solid group of guys in college I routinely hung out with. Unlike girl, I never hooked up with any of them (I met my now husband in freshman year and we’ve always been exclusive). One by one the guys would start to get girlfriends, and one by one they started to get banned from seeing me. When a new girl came along, the rest of the gfs would pile on and make it clear that I shouldn’t be trusted. The guys actually said the gf’s hate for me was a bonding experience between them all. The girls were had trust issues and they didn’t like their bfs having a female friend they were very close and comfortable with. The fact that I had a bf or never did anything physical with them didn’t matter.
So post college they started to get married. Every bride banned me from their wedding. I was told that the brides felt me being there would “ruin” their wedding. After each occurrence the next guy assured me they wouldn’t let their bride be that crazy, and but I was not invited when their time came around. The latest one I got the invite, then a few weeks later received an email from him saying I was uninvited. He later told me the fighting between him and his bride got so bad that she threatened to cancel the wedding if he continued to insist that I be invited.
I was hurt, but honestly I had to look at the situation. All of these girls had serious confidence issues, and they (incorrectly) perceived me as a threat. But it’s their day and they can do what they want. If me not being there (irrationally) made them feel better, then I had to accept that. I realized doing what I could to preserve my friendships was more important than trying to push my way into a wedding.
After the weddings, the girls did mellow out. Marriage does add confidence to a relationship. I’ve now been invited to house parties and go out to dinner with these married couples. Most of the wives are now friendly to me. You just need to accept that this is something they have to work through. And it may take a lot longer for them because you actually were physical. It starts by you taking the high rode. I invited each and every one of them to my wedding. It showed them that I wasn’t going to play into their pettiness and it began the process of rebuilding those friendships.
Because I have poor lighting in my living room and it doesn’t take up much space.
The RSVPs for my wedding are starting to come in from my guests. And so are the “why didn’t I a get a plus one?” calls. Space is usually a limiting factor, or at least it was for us. We put a hard limit of married, engaged, or have been dating for at least 2 years because we literally don’t have space for more. In the invitations, we specifically wrote “__ of 1” in the accept box to let them know their date cannot come. We made sure they have at least 2 or 3 friends they also know at the wedding so they’re not sitting alone, but I am not going to cut a good friend from my guest list so someone’s recent gf/bf can be there.
I’m sorry friend from college who now lives out of state who’s had a gf for the last 6 months. I’d love to meet her, but my wedding is not the place to do so.
I’m sorry high school friend who’s had a new bf for the last 4 months. You haven’t even filed the divorce papers for the husband you’ve recently separated from.