Thanks for writing this, Madoff. I lost my dad to cancer when I was 14 and you’re right, you never really stop missing them. I got married recently and it was an amazing day, but it stung looking over at the family table and not seeing my dad there. All of the milestones of adulthood have a little moment of sadness in them for me where I find myself thinking what I wouldn’t give to have him there to share it with me. I definitely value any family time/phone calls I get now like it’s gold, far more than I did when I was younger. Will certainly be calling my mom after work today. Thanks for sharing your story.
I wonder if we get Peter as the next Bachelor if the same thing will happen – he’ll get to this point in the season and not be ready to propose to anyone. Like does Chris Harrison just force him to choose someone at gunpoint?
Right? I’ve rarely felt bad for a contestant on this show, but Dean’s hometown visit and then watching him be sent home after all of that was hard to watch.
I’ve experienced the loss of friends and family in my mid-20’s as well and I’m sorry to hear you have too because it just sucks. I’m lucky enough to have a tight knit group of friends and family that I was able to rely on to get me through it. If you are fortunate enough to have either, then I’d certainly lean on them. I’d also recommend finding a therapist, it can make all of the difference in the world and there’s no shame in it. I also found that using my hobbies and discovering new ones as a way to stay busy kept my sadness in check. For me, keeping myself busy helped me to deal with what I was feeling in a healthy way. Hope those ideas help some.
My fiancé and I had this talk early on in our relationship. We live in DC and neither of us are swimming in cash and I have student loans which she does not. We try to split things evenly and when one treats the other its with the understanding that they are doing it because they can afford to. The money talk is awkward, but we’ve been open about it since our relationship started which has made it easier to have, even if it does get uncomfortable sometimes. I think talking about money is something that all couples have to be able to do about openly and honestly, even if it is uncomfortable.
Supervisor just stopped by and let me know I got the promotion I’ve been working for. Gonna drink my celebratory coffee and punch this Tuesday in the face.
The first person I talk to will be Steve, my supervisor. He is in his 70s and should retire but he likes to remind me almost daily that he “works because he wants to, not because he has to.” Steve will then ask what my plans are for the day, which I believe are an effort to remind himself of what he told me to do or plan his hourly “check ins” to perfect his micromanaging style of supervising in his late years. My first cup is usually sufficient to get me through this encounter.
Cups two and three sustain me as I explain to Steve how to attach a document to an email, work an excel spreadsheet, or my favorite – answering this email, “can you print this for me?”
If you work private sector though, the forgiven loan amount once the 10 year or 25 year mark is reached is considered taxable income. And the 10% of your discretionary income isn’t set in stone if your income increases past a certain level. Just so happened to be working on mine when I saw this article so I had this up: https://studentaid.ed.gov/sa/repay-loans/understand/plans/income-driven
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Thanks for writing this, Madoff. I lost my dad to cancer when I was 14 and you’re right, you never really stop missing them. I got married recently and it was an amazing day, but it stung looking over at the family table and not seeing my dad there. All of the milestones of adulthood have a little moment of sadness in them for me where I find myself thinking what I wouldn’t give to have him there to share it with me. I definitely value any family time/phone calls I get now like it’s gold, far more than I did when I was younger. Will certainly be calling my mom after work today. Thanks for sharing your story.
I wonder if we get Peter as the next Bachelor if the same thing will happen – he’ll get to this point in the season and not be ready to propose to anyone. Like does Chris Harrison just force him to choose someone at gunpoint?
Working from home today and watching some videos to catch up on my CLEs, should be a relaxing slide into the weekend.
Seriously. If someone is saving me from getting an uber/taxi the last thing I’m gonna do is complain.
Right? I’ve rarely felt bad for a contestant on this show, but Dean’s hometown visit and then watching him be sent home after all of that was hard to watch.
Just had a meeting with my supervisor to explain how to attach a document to an email. Guess the day can only go up?
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I’ve experienced the loss of friends and family in my mid-20’s as well and I’m sorry to hear you have too because it just sucks. I’m lucky enough to have a tight knit group of friends and family that I was able to rely on to get me through it. If you are fortunate enough to have either, then I’d certainly lean on them. I’d also recommend finding a therapist, it can make all of the difference in the world and there’s no shame in it. I also found that using my hobbies and discovering new ones as a way to stay busy kept my sadness in check. For me, keeping myself busy helped me to deal with what I was feeling in a healthy way. Hope those ideas help some.
The boss is still out on vacation so we’re looking at a nice, relaxing Friday in the office.
My boss began his 2 week vacation today so this Monday is off to an excellent start.
Doing some background research for an upcoming audit. Thankfully the coffee is free this morning because I’m going to need a lot of it.
Got an all day “fundatory” training, but at least there is free coffee and I’m saved from doing any real work.
I’ve got 3 monitors and can confirm that it’s awesome.
My fiancé and I had this talk early on in our relationship. We live in DC and neither of us are swimming in cash and I have student loans which she does not. We try to split things evenly and when one treats the other its with the understanding that they are doing it because they can afford to. The money talk is awkward, but we’ve been open about it since our relationship started which has made it easier to have, even if it does get uncomfortable sometimes. I think talking about money is something that all couples have to be able to do about openly and honestly, even if it is uncomfortable.
That and she gets another shot at jump starting her acting career.
So true. I was pleasantly surprised by how good the s’mores cookies are.
Supervisor just stopped by and let me know I got the promotion I’ve been working for. Gonna drink my celebratory coffee and punch this Tuesday in the face.
The first person I talk to will be Steve, my supervisor. He is in his 70s and should retire but he likes to remind me almost daily that he “works because he wants to, not because he has to.” Steve will then ask what my plans are for the day, which I believe are an effort to remind himself of what he told me to do or plan his hourly “check ins” to perfect his micromanaging style of supervising in his late years. My first cup is usually sufficient to get me through this encounter.
Cups two and three sustain me as I explain to Steve how to attach a document to an email, work an excel spreadsheet, or my favorite – answering this email, “can you print this for me?”
The link to the post article is also to the review of Founding Farmers, which is a different restaurant from Farmers and Distillers.
If you work private sector though, the forgiven loan amount once the 10 year or 25 year mark is reached is considered taxable income. And the 10% of your discretionary income isn’t set in stone if your income increases past a certain level. Just so happened to be working on mine when I saw this article so I had this up: https://studentaid.ed.gov/sa/repay-loans/understand/plans/income-driven