Three Reasons It’s Acceptable To Tell Someone They’re Fat

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The other day, I was on the couch when my girlfriend walked out of the bedroom completely naked and I was thinking I was about to get a little afternoon delight on this fine Saturday afternoon. Skyrockets weren’t in flight, though, because she asked if she was putting on weight. For the record, she’s stick thin, decent ass, not much up top (I’ll buy those later), and works out every day. So no, I told her that she hasn’t put on weight, which I hoped the compliment would also lead to sex, but I guess her plans were more important. However, if this was a fat person asking me if they had put on some weight, I would have absolutely told them that they were a tub of lard that is only getting bigger. People might call me an asshole for that, but I call myself a realist and a good friend for doing so.

See, I’ve been thinking a lot about this for a while. We’re told to be happy with the body you have and all that jazz, which is fine and dandy for the people who are happy with the body they have. But when someone is consciously asking if they are getting bigger, that’s a sign they don’t want to be bigger. In their mind, they want to do something about it, and society telling someone in this situation that they are a-okay is not okay. In fact, you’re doing that person a disservice by not being honest.

Here’s why.

You’re helping reduce their risk of obesity and further disease.

Obesity is no joke. There’s a reason that people don’t like to see themselves get bigger. Obesity is a disease that leads to other harmful conditions such as: diabetes, heart disease, stroke, arthritis, and some cancers. In fact, according to a study done by the American Journal of Public Health, 18 percent of deaths in the United States between the ages of 40 and 85 is due to obesity.

No one wants to suffer an early death or even further damaging their health over something that is easily prevented. So by telling someone they are putting on weight is only going to wake them up to the fact that maybe they should get out and walk at the very least. Get them moving – that’s the goal.

You’re worried about their financial future.

All of those diseases I mentioned above? Yeah, they come with a cost that isn’t just bad health. Medical costs for these diseases are high. The CDC estimates than a person suffering from obesity will spend, on average, more than $1500/year than your normal weight individual just on medical costs alone. State Of Obesity also notes that obese people will spend 42 percent more on direct healthcare costs than adults who are a healthy weight. It can become a financial burden and dealing with debt is stressful which only hurts someone trying to lose weight. You want this person to be able to have financial freedom and health freedom.

You’re looking out for their mind’s best interests.

I know this may sound contradictory. Why would someone be looking out for someone’s mental best interests by telling them they are gaining weight? Well, once that person has dropped the weight, they will begin to look better naked. Who doesn’t want to look good naked or at the pool? That’s an ego boost that makes people happy because they aren’t going to be conscious about taking off their shirt. All it takes is a little flip of the switch.

Of course, at the end of the day, you gotta offer to help them out. Tell them you’ll hit the gym with them, work on a diet plan, and keep them motivated. They are your friend after all. .

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