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The Mailbag, a podcast based on this series, is now live. The questions that make the podcast will be a combination of emails (if you’d like to remain anonymous) and voicemails. The hotline number is above. All topics are on the table.
Episode 7, featuring Will deFries, is below.
1. Hey Dillon,
Something that I feel never got touched on before was how you got your way into Grandex, and the media world in general. Many recent postgrads, like myself, wonder how to get your leg in the door or even the steps to take, to work in media. Really interested to hear your answer.
There’s nothing inspiring about my story. Two of my friends started a Twitter account and website that gained enough popularity that they could use them to promote and sell t-shirts, koozies, and hats, so they made me an offer to come aboard and run operations for it. In my downtime I would write columns and grow my social following. Eventually, the task of operating what was then called Frocketees.com became too big for me to manage, so we outsourced it. I was full time media/content from then on out. Media is interesting because it’s always changing. Four years ago if you told me I’d be recording six podcasts a week in 2018, I’d have called you a liar and an asshole. Yet here I am.
The best way to get into media is to create your own niche and get really good at it. Build a portfolio. If you want to write, start a blog or do freelance work. If you want to podcast, start one. If you want to be a reporter, get a journalism degree and then I have no idea where to go from there.
Yesterday when returning from the office to my downtown apartment complex I was completely in the zone listening to The Mailbag podcast as I climbed the identical levels of the parking garage. I parked my car and entered the building and walked straight into my corner apartment across from the elevators just like every other day.
Except today, I notice someone is in my hallway bathroom. I walk past and see a chick wearing nothing but a long T-shirt doing her makeup. My immediate thought was “sweet, my roommate has lady friend over for some afternoon delight. Good job buddy.” So I awkwardly say “Hey, what’s up? How you doing?” and keep walking into the kitchen. Then it hits me. THIS IS NOT MY APARTMENT! I accidentally parked on the floor below mine. I apologize a million times as I run out of there as fast as I can. All the while she is totally chill and nice about the whole thing.
Here’s the kicker… I found this girl really attractive and maybe I’m just narcissistic, but it seemed like she was giving me the “who is this cute dude rockin’ business casual that just strolled into my apartment?” eyes. So now, I just really want to see her again so I can explain the whole situation, laugh about it, and maybe parlay a date out of the whole thing.
My question here is this: Is it a creepy move to put something like a bottle of wine with a lighthearted apology note explaining I’m the upstairs neighbor or should I just hope I run into her at some point? (Note: this building is huge and we are on different floors so the chances of running into each other are slim).
What do you think?
Thanks, my man.
I really hope this story is true. Even if the part about being distracted by my podcast was an embellishment (which I appreciate), I hope the meat of this really happened. If it’s true, and if you get a date out of this, then we’re on our way to a Hollywood script.
No, this is definitely not a creepy move. In fact, it’s suave move. An apology is appropriate, but to parlay that into a date inquiry is a smooth move. A bottle of wine and a note. Do it. Do it right now. If you get married, I expect an invitation.
3. What’s up Dillon, just listened to the most recent episode of The Mailbag and I gotta say I love what y’all are doin and keep up the solid content! So this is about the worst things to be allergic too, and also a PSA to keep all my Kings and Queens on their toes. So about 4 years ago I got bit by a Lone-star Tick and ever since I have been allergic to any and all red meat. So no pork, beef, lamb, bison, venison none of it. If I do eat it I go into anaphylactic shock so it’s a no no. Anyways just thought I’d enlighten you, keep up the good work!
Mannnnnnn. I’ve heard of this particular tick bite situation but figured it was one or two isolated cases and only happened in third-world countries. Holy shit. Wikipedia tells me they’re located in the northeastern United States and Mexico. Yikes. The thought of eating red meat all your life then boom, one day a bug bites you and you become crazy allergic — that’s awful.
I don’t know what to say other than I’m sorry to hear it.
4. What up big Dill?
I found myself in a pickle last night and I need your opinion. My girlfriend and I were out at a bar that was semi crowded. We were standing at the bar waiting to order a drink and a dude walked by and grabbed my gf’s butt. At first I thought she overreacted because it definitely could have been an accident, but she swears it was a full on grab and she was wearing tight pants so I guess it would be pretty easy to do.
I didn’t really see it happen because I was trying to get the bartender’s attention, but she was pretty freaked out. I was pissed but the problem was the dude was 6’5″ and probably weighed 250. I am about 6′ tall and 175. I wasn’t really sure what to do. I didn’t have my boys there to back me up and I knew I couldn’t take him.
After some reflection I realized I probably should have said something but as I stated before, I didn’t have the physical prowess to back it up. My gf was pretty pissed that I didn’t stand up for her and I feel like pussy. Obviously if the dude was my size I would have been more motivated to fight but then you risk getting in some legal shit of you attack someone, etc. It seems like there are no good options here but I would like to hear your opinion.
This is a nightmare scenario for any self-respecting man. This asshole put you in a lose-lose, and he probably knew he could get away with it, but the fact remains: You messed up. You have several courses of action you can take, but the one you absolutely cannot take is the one you chose. You can’t do nothing. That’s the only wrong choice.
Approaching him to let him know what he did was wrong doesn’t mean for certain you’ll be in a physical altercation with him. You can simply, and calmly, have a man-to-man discussion about putting hands on women. If you keep the right demeanor, no punches are getting thrown.
I look forward to your podcast all week and anticipate it getting its own feed soon. I’m hoping you answer this question with your trademark empathy, as this is a sensitive subject for me. I have weight loss surgery scheduled soon. It’s something my doctors have recommended I undergo after a lifetime of being overweight and battling hypothyroidism and various other hormonal and endocrinal problems. That being said, I’ve generally done okay with guys. As a 28-year-old female, I anticipate dating after the surgery. How do I handle talking about this with guys? I’ll be eating really small amounts of food – like ½ cup at a time, and I’m sure it will come up. I’ll also be losing weight at a really quick pace for a while. Any advice on how to handle questions that come up, especially from the papis, would be appreciated.
By the way, you’ve really cornered the market on the whole single, straight, male early-30’s advice-columnist thing. A few more years and you could do a TED talk. It writes itself – TFM to TED.
First of all, good on you for taking steps to improve your physical (and probably mental) health.
As a guy, a girl I’m talking to inserting this subject into just about any conversation wouldn’t deter me or freak me out at all. During dinner is probably the best time to do since there’s food involved and, as you said, you’ll be eating a very small amount of it. If the dude has a backbone, he’ll appreciate your honesty and that you’re improving yourself, and it won’t be an issue. Just a “by the way, the reason I’m only eating this much is because…” would be a perfect conversation starter.
P.S. I don’t know how it happened or why people feel comfortable enough with me to lay their issues out with me, but I’m thankful for it..
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