We all get to that point in your mid-twenties when you’re single and reeling – tossing out your phone number to waitresses hoping it’ll stick, fervently swiping until it says there are no more singles left in your area, and going to the bar alone in hopes of having a modern day meet-cute but instead just creeping everyone out.
Wait, no one else got to that point? Well, shit, alright. Looks like everyone else is dealing with this issue in a more mature way than I did.
But if you are actually struggling with finding “the one” (whatever the hell that is) in your given area, there’s hope. Kind of. LiveScience did a survey that compared every state. This wasn’t some small Twitter survey that means nothing because it only involved 2,000 like-minded people. This took 127,070 and compared their home state’s “attachment-related anxiety” and “attachment avoidance” to come up with a score that equates to the best states to find a partner. Yeah, I was confused when I read the study too but I’m going to trust the results because these scientists are probably smarter than I am.
Per LiveScience, these were the top states.
6. North Carolina
Not exactly the sexiest list, but it could be worse. As one of the researchers stated, a lot of the top states directly reflect the stereotype of that state when it comes to their connection to romance. New York, for example, came in at #42. When I think of New York, I think of the anxious Woody Allen type, and New York had one of the highest scores for attachment anxiety,” he said. Despite the sheer amount of people that actually live in New York City, that doesn’t exactly equate to a diminished feeling of loneliness.
Meanwhile, California (#10 on the list) was viewed differently. He said, “California, on the other hand, seems like a romantic place with beautiful sunsets, oceans and warm weather. And Utah residents are known to be very nice, warm and generous, which many people attribute to the large Mormon population.” Fair, though I wouldn’t recommend moving to Utah because I hear they have weird liquor laws there.
Either way, if you’re too lazy to move, you can always stick to the tried and true method of leaving your phone number on checks at restaurants. I hear it has a zero percent chance of success.