Twitter is a messy place sometimes. It’s probably even messier than you thought. A recent study confirmed that Twitter could also be bad for your relationships–and not just the relationships with potential employers when they see the spring break photos you tweeted out two years ago. The study showed that those who use Twitter with high intensity are more likely to get into arguments, cheat, and eventually get divorced.
Now, some caveats: the study was self-selecting from both the Huffington Post and a research Twitter account, so the sample selection is decidedly not very random. This means people participating could have had an axe to grind over the issue. That said, I would not be surprised if this is 100 percent true, based on past experience. You haven’t been in a true modern relationship if you haven’t fought over your social media use with your partner. It’s basically a right of passage at this point. It certainly doesn’t help that a platform like Twitter could make all this much easier for someone looking to cheat on a significant other. People can learn a lot about you from your Twitter account, especially if you’re active. When that much of “you” is out there, it can create complications.
The findings also included an interesting piece of information about men–we share our feelings on social media because we don’t want to share them with our girlfriends. That one hits home, because I know I’ve done that after eight drinks at the bar with some friends. Blame our biological predisposition to higher social anxiety, gents. The suggested solution, which is some kind of joint account, is just out of the question. Shared social media accounts for couples are the worst.
We tweet about everything, down to really personal details. Is it any shock that Twitter could be a contributor to failing relationships when people live-tweet their fights and their frustrations? That would be like asking if secret love letters contributed to relationship issues in the 1800s. I’m assuming they did, based solely on every bad romantic period drama ever. If Jane Austen wrote today, Mr. Darcy would have sent his letter to Elizabeth in 140 characters, including hashtags.