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Friday night after his birthday dinner and two bottles of wine, the guy I’ve been seeing since October brought up the topic of our relationship status. As a girl who has been single for that last three years, commitment isn’t the top of my list of things I’m great at, so the idea of this conversation is kinda scary. And leads to all kinds of rational thoughts and feelings.
Is this happening right now?
Maybe it’s just the wine talking.
Yeah, yeah drunk words are sober thoughts. Damn you, logic!
Was this what he wanted all along for his birthday present?
That’s actually really cute.
And my making a cake probably encouraged that I’m great girlfriend material…
I mean our friends already think we are… so what’s really the difference?
A title is just a title.
And they all already call him my boyfriend…
He said we don’t even need to make it FB official. No one does that anymore anyway, do they?
Okay, it’s been three months since our first date. Most people would have probably had this conversation before now, right?
But he knows my concerns about commitment and settling etc. So, like, we’ve touched on it.
He’s probably been too understanding about that actually.
I feel like most guys would have run away from this situation by now. He’s totes into me.
Duh, you know he likes you. He literally just asked you to officially be his girlfriend.
He also brought you flowers tonight. On his birthday.
Ugh, he’s so nice.
Maybe a little too nice.
But you need nice. You just aren’t used to it.
We need less nice in the bedroom though…
Hence the Pop Rocks you brought to include in his birthday blowjob. You’re so good at birthdays.
And okay, the sex has gotten way better since the initial couple times. Did not expect that.
But is it too much to ask for some roughness? I just need some hair pulling, slight choking, and ass slapping every once in a while.
Like not all the time. Just occasionally.
That’s a fixable thing though. Not a deal breaker.
Oh, god. Way to be one of those girls who tries to “fix” guys.
Too bad I can’t “fix” the fact that he’s a Packers fan…
Maybe fixable isn’t the right word? More like adjustments.
It’s not my fault that’s what I like!
And I really do like him.
Despite all the over thinking I’ve done on the topic…
Because why does he want to date me when every other aspect of my life is a mess?!
I don’t even like telling people that I’m unemployed, so he definitely can’t enjoy that. Although he enjoys making fun of me for it.
A boyfriend is soo not what I need right now.
Can I trade boyfriend in for a sense of direction or even a job that I kinda sorta care about?
Hold on, don’t ruin this over something that might happen or maybe develop. That’d be stupid.
And too much like your normal pattern of stopping potentially good things before they even start.
See, look at you growing up! You can have an adult relationship without sabotaging it!
You are always happy around him…
This is a good thing.
Hopefully a really good thing.
Okay. Yeah. Yes. We’re doing this.
So, I have a boyfriend now. Which is such a weird thing for me to say. And as you can see, I am totally not thinking that I’m going to fuck it up. .
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Whatever Lola Wants
Outward appearance of being a hot mess with just enough Type A personality to not be a complete disappointment to my parents. Almost as good at avoiding commitment as I am at holding my liquor.
@LauraMeinert
Congrats. Literally the exact opposite happened to me this morning. via text.
Ouch, opposite of congrats to you then.
Much appreciated fellas.
congrats on the sex that you used to have.
Idk too soon imo.
Sup?
The text break up is bullshit. Based only on that I’m going to assume that you’re too good for him anyway.
Thanks for the positive vibes!
Makes me feel better about my ex coming over to break up with me in person, while I was planning to exchange xmas gifts.
Girls, if you want rougher sex just tell us… I promise you literally none of us will have an issue satisfying your need if that’s what you want.
Communication is key. I’d rather it that way than to do something and her be like “uh what the fuck are you doing?”
“I’m….. leaving…. that’s what I’m doing…..”
Slow your roll on the pop rocks/BJ combo. I can’t speak from personal experience but it made me wince just reading that one
It’s like sticking your dick in a wood chipper. I blame Cosmo’s “hot sex tips.”
If you’re feeling any adventurous or for you masochists out there, try receiving a BJ after she downs anything crazy spicy like a bag of XXXTRA Hot Cheetos. Good luck.
I’m intrigued. But I’ll let someone else test it out and report back.
I’ve heard good reviews but I’m terrified one of those little things tries to sneak in the exit
He said he couldn’t really tell they were involved.
So either they do nothing OR you’re giving Grade A certified BJ’s, that nothing can top. Side note- sad to see you off the market, Red.
The BJ’s have previously been reviewed as “amazing” so. We’ll always have internet flirtation. He’s cool with it.
In all honesty how in the hell is this even supposed to go down even? I mean I asked my now ex to be official while we were sitting on her couch. Like is there a proper way to do this without looking like you’re proposing, or is it always just going to be an awkward “sooooo like…. are we a thing now?”
No idea the proper way, but right before you finish seems like a good time.
I can tell you the right time is not drunk at a halloween party rocking a mullet wig and homemade jorts.
I actually wouldn’t have been able to come up with a better time.
Thought we had something special going after you sup’d me back.
Still do. Relationships with strangers based on sup’s have their own place.
So….sup?
Still do. Totes a separate category for relationships with strangers based on sup’s.
Congrats, sounds like a decent dude. If your friends have already signed off on him, then that should tell you it’s a good thing. Scary topic to start but being honest is the best way.
So Lola, my question is: was there a separate conversation that stated y’all would not be actively trying to date/sleep with other people? Or was that just implied and this was the first official recognization of that fact?
Congrats on finding a solid fella, enjoy it!
He should’ve done it right after sex. You would’ve been much less likely to be doubtful.
Dude……. RUUUUUUUNNN!