In regards to Mia? Yes. If you look at my 2-plus years of blogging I hardly blog about dating because I’ve always thought we have people who do it better than me. Duda (The Chase), CMV, Chucky Dubs, Arcadia, just to name a few power players. BUT, 2018 is the year of pushing ‘tent, so I’m going to write more about chicks, I think. We’ll laugh. We’ll cry. We’ll argue in the comments section. We’ll get laid. We’ll get dumped. We’ll knock a chick up and flee the country to get away from her tyrannical religious nut father. It’ll be fun!
This. Exactly this. That’s what I’m writing about. HOWEVER, in real life, I’m not letting it drag on. I’m only letting it drag on on the internet so I have something to write about when I’m at a loss for other things to write about. Sue me, I like writing.
It doesn’t matter. You’re 100% right. And I honestly don’t care about the label, tbh. BUT, I’ve been using my blogs for years to settle debates with my friends, leaving it up to the comments section to answer. So, recently, I said a date was two single people hanging out. My friends were like, “let the comment section decide.” So I wrote a bog yesterday, used a random story of me and Mia grabbing burgers (back in like October) to potentially illustrate the debate, and decided to see what y’all thought re: what you define a date as.
Clearly I’m wrong, my friends all agree with all of you, and I’m the sole person on the planet who’s believed for years that a date is merely two single people alone together. But hey, I’ve been wrong before and I’ll be wrong again.
Normally works out where girl starts as a friend, I fall in love with her, I get over it, we end up being such good friends that the thought of dating her weirds me out. It’s something that I’ve gone through with millions, maybe even hundreds, of female friends since I was, idk, 14? I could see a shrink for this but would rather just take lashings from internet strangers in the comment section
Nah that’s awkward I think I’d rather it just be confusing my entire life and just bitch and moan about it on the internet to random strangers.
In all seriousness, I think the reason I’m so often in these grey areas and refusing to communicate my true feelings is because I don’t want to put myself out there and get rejected by my own friend. I’m actually fine at the moment dating girls who I meet on Bumble or at the bar, but I’ve just got a proclivity for falling in love with my friends. Whoops
I’m fully aware that not everything I write is going to be liked or perceived positively. I write things that I think will generate interesting debate and conversation. Definitely didn’t think I’d take such a bath but, hey, I put myself out there and got smacked around a bit.
That’s a really sobering comment, one that will certainly keep me up at night and cause some introspection. It hurts my feelings, but it’s good criticism, and I get it.
BUT, I don’t know how this is only being read as a sex thing; I’m not trying to be Vance Munson a la Hitch. Mia is a girl who I really liked and thought I could date. Not just try and smash. My use of the word “Sex” in the column is more of a proxy for a relationship that goes beyond “just friends.” Now, having said that, I also do not view Mia as a girl who I keep around just because at one point over the spring I had a big crush on her. I truly do value her friendship, as I value all my friendships, and I never would want to reduce our relationship to just “yeah she’s hot, I want to hit it.” That’s not the intention of the story.
To be 10000% transparent, I wrote this to introduce Jen in a unique way, and to kind of phase Mia out, so to speak, as well as try and write about this thought I’ve been kicking around about what the hell is the definition of “Date.” I will say, I think the point about intention is the best thing i’ve read in here and is well taken.
I do not think date implies romance or vice versa. I’ve gone on “dates” in the true sense of the word (think Bumble match) and have had zero romance. And I’ve hung out with friends in a scenario that probably didn’t intend to be a date and it go flirty. The point I’m trying to make and doing a horribleeeeee job of is to not overlook maybe a really great guy or girl who’s sitting right in front of your face just because you think it’s blasphemous to try a romantic “date” with a friend.
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I pay the whole bill because Daddy wants the points. You’ll get your Venmo request for your portion (split evenly, of course) tomorrow morning.
Nah, I’m good
Obvi it’s You’ve Got Mail. Too easy, Will
yes
Hard disagree
In regards to Mia? Yes. If you look at my 2-plus years of blogging I hardly blog about dating because I’ve always thought we have people who do it better than me. Duda (The Chase), CMV, Chucky Dubs, Arcadia, just to name a few power players. BUT, 2018 is the year of pushing ‘tent, so I’m going to write more about chicks, I think. We’ll laugh. We’ll cry. We’ll argue in the comments section. We’ll get laid. We’ll get dumped. We’ll knock a chick up and flee the country to get away from her tyrannical religious nut father. It’ll be fun!
Agreed. But it seems like they roll in similar circles because they’re all from outside of NYC and live in the city.
I do. I’m pretty good at it, too
It’s too late for me and Mia.
And they’ll be glorious
This. Exactly this. That’s what I’m writing about. HOWEVER, in real life, I’m not letting it drag on. I’m only letting it drag on on the internet so I have something to write about when I’m at a loss for other things to write about. Sue me, I like writing.
After my last two blogs? Safe to say I’m wearing the crown
It doesn’t matter. You’re 100% right. And I honestly don’t care about the label, tbh. BUT, I’ve been using my blogs for years to settle debates with my friends, leaving it up to the comments section to answer. So, recently, I said a date was two single people hanging out. My friends were like, “let the comment section decide.” So I wrote a bog yesterday, used a random story of me and Mia grabbing burgers (back in like October) to potentially illustrate the debate, and decided to see what y’all thought re: what you define a date as.
Clearly I’m wrong, my friends all agree with all of you, and I’m the sole person on the planet who’s believed for years that a date is merely two single people alone together. But hey, I’ve been wrong before and I’ll be wrong again.
Normally works out where girl starts as a friend, I fall in love with her, I get over it, we end up being such good friends that the thought of dating her weirds me out. It’s something that I’ve gone through with millions, maybe even hundreds, of female friends since I was, idk, 14? I could see a shrink for this but would rather just take lashings from internet strangers in the comment section
Can confirm. Lord of the Idiots.
Nah that’s awkward I think I’d rather it just be confusing my entire life and just bitch and moan about it on the internet to random strangers.
In all seriousness, I think the reason I’m so often in these grey areas and refusing to communicate my true feelings is because I don’t want to put myself out there and get rejected by my own friend. I’m actually fine at the moment dating girls who I meet on Bumble or at the bar, but I’ve just got a proclivity for falling in love with my friends. Whoops
Nah man I’m good, thanks.
I’m fully aware that not everything I write is going to be liked or perceived positively. I write things that I think will generate interesting debate and conversation. Definitely didn’t think I’d take such a bath but, hey, I put myself out there and got smacked around a bit.
That’s a really sobering comment, one that will certainly keep me up at night and cause some introspection. It hurts my feelings, but it’s good criticism, and I get it.
BUT, I don’t know how this is only being read as a sex thing; I’m not trying to be Vance Munson a la Hitch. Mia is a girl who I really liked and thought I could date. Not just try and smash. My use of the word “Sex” in the column is more of a proxy for a relationship that goes beyond “just friends.” Now, having said that, I also do not view Mia as a girl who I keep around just because at one point over the spring I had a big crush on her. I truly do value her friendship, as I value all my friendships, and I never would want to reduce our relationship to just “yeah she’s hot, I want to hit it.” That’s not the intention of the story.
To be 10000% transparent, I wrote this to introduce Jen in a unique way, and to kind of phase Mia out, so to speak, as well as try and write about this thought I’ve been kicking around about what the hell is the definition of “Date.” I will say, I think the point about intention is the best thing i’ve read in here and is well taken.
I do not think date implies romance or vice versa. I’ve gone on “dates” in the true sense of the word (think Bumble match) and have had zero romance. And I’ve hung out with friends in a scenario that probably didn’t intend to be a date and it go flirty. The point I’m trying to make and doing a horribleeeeee job of is to not overlook maybe a really great guy or girl who’s sitting right in front of your face just because you think it’s blasphemous to try a romantic “date” with a friend.