Breaking news – I, queen of commitment issues/one night stands/the quick close, have been on three dates with the same guy. Even more shocking: this has occurred in the last two weeks of December, also known as the Death Zone for any potential new romantic attachments. Traditionally, any new swipes, messages, or dates during this time will fall by the wayside of holiday travel and finding that delicate balance between blackout and functional at Christmas dinner.
However, against all odds, I have managed to go out with and maintain communication with the same guy during this time frame and we have plans to hang out again this week (i.e. finish off a bottle of red wine at a tapas restaurant and head back to my place where I insist on watching a minimum of 30 minutes of Episode IV while downing 2-3 more glasses of wine before smashing it out).
Contrary to most of the suitors that I bring home and never call again, this guy is actually nice and decent. It’s a new look for me. We’ll call him Puppy Brad (he has a particularly cute puppy that I am very desirous of meeting and almost every guy I hook up with looks like his name could be Brad). So, Puppy Brad and I are discussing our New Year’s Eve plans and it turns out neither of us have any. This is due on my part to the fact that I didn’t have the PTO to attend our annual group trip to the Dominican Republic this year, so all of my friends are out of town.
While I was home for Christmas, Puppy Brad suggested to me that we could spend NYE together since we didn’t have any plans and use it as a chance to introduce our pups. I was noncommittal and I’m not sure how I feel about the situation. I’ve broken it down into pros and cons for your input (in increasing order of importance):
1. Comfort: I can cancel that $90 gold sequined floor-length Rent The Runway dress I reserved, throw the Spanx out, and spend the night breathing comfortably in socks and possibly a onesie.
2. Budget: I will save money by not renting aforementioned gown, ordering the 9.0X surge Uber I’m sure I would take, and not attending the $150/head gala I was thinking about.
3. Sex: 100% chance of getting laid.
1. Commitment level: Your girl here is a little gun shy when it comes to commitment (a shocking revelation to all, I’m sure). Holing up with wine, Netflix, and puppies seems awfully coupley to me. Especially on NYE. I’m not sure I’m comfortable with that when my primary goal right now is to rebuild my roster going into 2017.
2. Risk: I’ve only been on 3 dates with this guy. He seems nice so far, but I’m not seeing fireworks or hearing symphonies yet. I do most of the talking. Four plus hours of cuddling may reveal that he’s a terrible conversationalist or super boring or a serial killer.
3. Higher risk: He just got out of a long-term relationship about six months ago. I’m realllll worried he’s going to try and girlfriend zone me faster than I can hookup zone him. I’ve noticed that when people start dating too soon after a serious relationship, they try to pick up where that relationship left off with a new replacement.
So, what would you do? Take advantage of a comfortable, cheap, NYE date, or play it safe, throw on your dancing shoes, and chug champagne in hopes of finding another option at midnight to fill out your 2017 roster? .