I second this–I spent years bailing out my younger brother, and when I finally stopped he got his shit together on his own. Should you have gone that night? Yeah, maybe. But in the long term, putting your foot down might help her get her shit together.
That being said, if this wasn’t part of a pattern of her relying on you to bail her out, but instead a one-off bad choice…then yeah, you owe her.
My boyfriend and I met two years before we started dating, went on a truly disastrous first date, and then resolved to be friends despite our mutual affection/attraction. We had both just moved to a new city for our first post-grad jobs, and it just didn’t make sense for us to jump into any kind of relationship.
Fast forward through two years of close friendship, us both dating other people, and lots of ups and downs, and we finally got together again–and it was the right time. So, sometimes, it can be the right person at the wrong time, and if that’s the case, you’ll come back together in the end.
Can confirm that it’s worth the horrible hangover–just had my birthday party last weekend and did this with gallons of Burnetts Pink Lemonade punch & keg of Busch light. Theme was “25 is the New 18”
PREACH. I was single for almost six years–most of college postgrad until recently–and that only changed because I finally started working to find someone. It happens because you make it happen.
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I second this–I spent years bailing out my younger brother, and when I finally stopped he got his shit together on his own. Should you have gone that night? Yeah, maybe. But in the long term, putting your foot down might help her get her shit together.
That being said, if this wasn’t part of a pattern of her relying on you to bail her out, but instead a one-off bad choice…then yeah, you owe her.
My boyfriend and I met two years before we started dating, went on a truly disastrous first date, and then resolved to be friends despite our mutual affection/attraction. We had both just moved to a new city for our first post-grad jobs, and it just didn’t make sense for us to jump into any kind of relationship.
Fast forward through two years of close friendship, us both dating other people, and lots of ups and downs, and we finally got together again–and it was the right time. So, sometimes, it can be the right person at the wrong time, and if that’s the case, you’ll come back together in the end.
Can confirm that it’s worth the horrible hangover–just had my birthday party last weekend and did this with gallons of Burnetts Pink Lemonade punch & keg of Busch light. Theme was “25 is the New 18”
PREACH. I was single for almost six years–most of college postgrad until recently–and that only changed because I finally started working to find someone. It happens because you make it happen.