You have to be prepared that this may be a long process with delayed gratification. Also, although this has anecdotally worked in the past, this won’t work for every girl (so don’t blame me/don’t let your “friend” blame me if this doesn’t work). Here goes.
The key point/TL;DR Version: make her think it’s her idea.
Step 1: The Building Phase
Get her thinking about “girl-crushes”–getting her talking about her favorite girl celebs. Yes, you’re going to have to put up with a monologue but you can tune out for most of it. Also, if Lena Dunham is the answer, you can stop here because it’s probably not going to happen. This step shouldn’t be too hard.
Equally important–get her talking about the craziest thing she’s done before. If that doesn’t work, ask her about the craziest things her friends have done, or some of the best moments from college etc. Prepare to hear lots of stories. Encourage this by saying stuff like “wow, you’re so much fun, I’m so lucky” etc. Repeat this as necessary. Positive reinforcement is key.
Step 2: The Check-in
Do you have the type of relationship where you talk about your friends and their relationships? Girls like to know things that other people don’t–say something along the lines of not to tell anyone, but one of your buddies had a three-way. Crazy, right? After adequate time in Step 1, use this to gauge her response. Even if she immediately responds “ew, no way, I would never”, make a comment like “X said that his girlfriend Y was surprisingly all about it ” and then don’t say anything else about it. The last part is important–don’t push for it, just get her thinking about it.
Step 3: The Change-up/Communication Time
Where are you in your relationship? If you’re new in a relationship, keep the fresh, trying new things/figuring out what each of you like momentum going. If you’ve been together for a while, use caution when saying this but find some way to bring up changing things up in the bedroom in general (I know, easier said than done but I have faith in you). There are a bunch of different quizzes to explore what types of sex both of you are interested in (http://mojoupgrade.com is a big one). There’s an option for a threesome there. Be sure to click it. See if she also chooses it. This step will almost definitely go much better when lots of alcohol is involved.
Step 4: The Grand Finale
At this point, you’ve laid the groundwork, you’ve communicated to her that you’re interested in a three-way both indirectly (see Steps 1 and 2) and directly. Assuming she hasn’t totally shot down the idea yet, it’s all about timing (and finding another girl) now. Two options. 1) Go to a bar and get drunk and find a random girl. Do NOT pick a friend or someone you know–that does not bode well for any parties involved even if it seems easier at the time. 2) Tinder. This really doesn’t need an explanation, but the quantity of options, anonymity, and online rejection being easier than in person are pros. Cons are STDs and potential serial killers, so be careful.
Step 5: Come back and tell us all about it (even if it didn’t work)
See title.
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You have to be prepared that this may be a long process with delayed gratification. Also, although this has anecdotally worked in the past, this won’t work for every girl (so don’t blame me/don’t let your “friend” blame me if this doesn’t work). Here goes.
The key point/TL;DR Version: make her think it’s her idea.
Step 1: The Building Phase
Get her thinking about “girl-crushes”–getting her talking about her favorite girl celebs. Yes, you’re going to have to put up with a monologue but you can tune out for most of it. Also, if Lena Dunham is the answer, you can stop here because it’s probably not going to happen. This step shouldn’t be too hard.
Equally important–get her talking about the craziest thing she’s done before. If that doesn’t work, ask her about the craziest things her friends have done, or some of the best moments from college etc. Prepare to hear lots of stories. Encourage this by saying stuff like “wow, you’re so much fun, I’m so lucky” etc. Repeat this as necessary. Positive reinforcement is key.
Step 2: The Check-in
Do you have the type of relationship where you talk about your friends and their relationships? Girls like to know things that other people don’t–say something along the lines of not to tell anyone, but one of your buddies had a three-way. Crazy, right? After adequate time in Step 1, use this to gauge her response. Even if she immediately responds “ew, no way, I would never”, make a comment like “X said that his girlfriend Y was surprisingly all about it ” and then don’t say anything else about it. The last part is important–don’t push for it, just get her thinking about it.
Step 3: The Change-up/Communication Time
Where are you in your relationship? If you’re new in a relationship, keep the fresh, trying new things/figuring out what each of you like momentum going. If you’ve been together for a while, use caution when saying this but find some way to bring up changing things up in the bedroom in general (I know, easier said than done but I have faith in you). There are a bunch of different quizzes to explore what types of sex both of you are interested in (http://mojoupgrade.com is a big one). There’s an option for a threesome there. Be sure to click it. See if she also chooses it. This step will almost definitely go much better when lots of alcohol is involved.
Step 4: The Grand Finale
At this point, you’ve laid the groundwork, you’ve communicated to her that you’re interested in a three-way both indirectly (see Steps 1 and 2) and directly. Assuming she hasn’t totally shot down the idea yet, it’s all about timing (and finding another girl) now. Two options. 1) Go to a bar and get drunk and find a random girl. Do NOT pick a friend or someone you know–that does not bode well for any parties involved even if it seems easier at the time. 2) Tinder. This really doesn’t need an explanation, but the quantity of options, anonymity, and online rejection being easier than in person are pros. Cons are STDs and potential serial killers, so be careful.
Step 5: Come back and tell us all about it (even if it didn’t work)
See title.
Good luck!