Everyone views friendships differently. I have a lot of people I’m very friendly but aren’t super close with, and I also have my core group of girls I know will lifelong friends. Some people like their friend groups small and closed, but personally I think that creates a lot of pressure. Friendships come and go and that’s okay. And you never know when you may need someone or when an acquaintance may turn into a close friend. I don’t really ever “break up” with a friend unless there’s a legitimate problem and it’s unhealthy like you mentioned above.
To the first girl, go for a guy who’s a legitimate friend, not your best friend, but someone who respects you but you also have sexual tension with. We all have them. Back in college I hooked up with a guy for 2 years strictly for sex. We never went out on dates (wasn’t part of the agreement) but he always invited my friends and I out to parties, he never said a bad word about me, and we were both generous in bed. It made for a great experience. We only stopped because he graduated and I️ transferred schools the same spring. But I’ve also hooked up with guys who are trash so I think the friend thing is key. Just bring it up “jokingly” when you’re both drunk. I doubt any guy would turn you down, honestly. And even if he did, he’d be flattered as hell. Congrats on the future sex!
Also my uncle gave me really weird but great advice when I was in high school. “Never chase after a boy or a bus, there will always be another one.” I seriously thank God to this day that he told that all the time growing up.
I matched with a guy once and we texted for 2 weeks until we met up, only because I was away and then working a whole weekend and it was just difficult to get together. By the time we did, his real personality ended up being horrendous and I think we both wished we’d been able to meet up sooner rather than wasting 2 weeks texting a bad match. Meet up ASAP. If a guy doesn’t invite me out the day we start texting, I ask him out the next day. If he won’t make a definitive plan I consider him not interested and I move on. I guarantee the love of your life isn’t the person that’s toying you around so fuck it. Onto the next one.
Well hate to bum you out but most people don’t sanitize OR handwash properly, if they do either at all. People are disgusting. But our immune system can handle most of the shit we encounter (pun intended). At this point I’m just glad people at least make some sort of effort to be hygienic.
I think it’s a balance between appreciating what you have but also not settling. Some of the greatest things that happen to people are a result of a calculated (or sometimes not so calculated) risk. And yet at the same time, plenty of people throw away great jobs, significant others etc and then are left wondering why tf they did that.
And I honest to goodness do love my job and most of the people I work with. I’m lucky to have it and them. But it doesn’t mean things are easy or rainbows and butterflies.
Accurate as hell. As my sweet old grandma always said “Life’s not easy and life’s not fair. Suck it up kid.” People who perpetuate the “do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life” nonsense are more FOS than most of my patients. None of these things are supposed to be easy. Just gotta appreciate the good days and the little things. Great read as always.
Eh age is just a number. Met a guy who was 29 at the time, thought maybe he’d have his life together a bit since he was rapidly approaching 30. Well he hit the big 3-0 a few months ago and now only communicates with me via Snapchat or calls me at 2am. So if you’re worried that watching your 20s slip away means you’ll be forced to grow up… apparently it doesn’t.
I️ show up early for dates. That way in case my hair somehow got destroyed in the car or something I️ get a second to run to the bathroom and make sure I️ look stellar and then I️ just chill at the bar. Always prefer to be first.
One of my ex’s pulled the business card move on me a few years ago. I was young and naive and thought he was super cool. He actually turned out to be a huge douche and if anyone tried to give me their business card now at the bar I’d probably just walk away. Just ask for my number like a normal person please.
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Everyone views friendships differently. I have a lot of people I’m very friendly but aren’t super close with, and I also have my core group of girls I know will lifelong friends. Some people like their friend groups small and closed, but personally I think that creates a lot of pressure. Friendships come and go and that’s okay. And you never know when you may need someone or when an acquaintance may turn into a close friend. I don’t really ever “break up” with a friend unless there’s a legitimate problem and it’s unhealthy like you mentioned above.
To the first girl, go for a guy who’s a legitimate friend, not your best friend, but someone who respects you but you also have sexual tension with. We all have them. Back in college I hooked up with a guy for 2 years strictly for sex. We never went out on dates (wasn’t part of the agreement) but he always invited my friends and I out to parties, he never said a bad word about me, and we were both generous in bed. It made for a great experience. We only stopped because he graduated and I️ transferred schools the same spring. But I’ve also hooked up with guys who are trash so I think the friend thing is key. Just bring it up “jokingly” when you’re both drunk. I doubt any guy would turn you down, honestly. And even if he did, he’d be flattered as hell. Congrats on the future sex!
Also my uncle gave me really weird but great advice when I was in high school. “Never chase after a boy or a bus, there will always be another one.” I seriously thank God to this day that he told that all the time growing up.
I matched with a guy once and we texted for 2 weeks until we met up, only because I was away and then working a whole weekend and it was just difficult to get together. By the time we did, his real personality ended up being horrendous and I think we both wished we’d been able to meet up sooner rather than wasting 2 weeks texting a bad match. Meet up ASAP. If a guy doesn’t invite me out the day we start texting, I ask him out the next day. If he won’t make a definitive plan I consider him not interested and I move on. I guarantee the love of your life isn’t the person that’s toying you around so fuck it. Onto the next one.
How do I become you?
Well hate to bum you out but most people don’t sanitize OR handwash properly, if they do either at all. People are disgusting. But our immune system can handle most of the shit we encounter (pun intended). At this point I’m just glad people at least make some sort of effort to be hygienic.
I think it’s a balance between appreciating what you have but also not settling. Some of the greatest things that happen to people are a result of a calculated (or sometimes not so calculated) risk. And yet at the same time, plenty of people throw away great jobs, significant others etc and then are left wondering why tf they did that.
And I honest to goodness do love my job and most of the people I work with. I’m lucky to have it and them. But it doesn’t mean things are easy or rainbows and butterflies.
Accurate as hell. As my sweet old grandma always said “Life’s not easy and life’s not fair. Suck it up kid.” People who perpetuate the “do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life” nonsense are more FOS than most of my patients. None of these things are supposed to be easy. Just gotta appreciate the good days and the little things. Great read as always.
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This was killer. More of this please!
Eh age is just a number. Met a guy who was 29 at the time, thought maybe he’d have his life together a bit since he was rapidly approaching 30. Well he hit the big 3-0 a few months ago and now only communicates with me via Snapchat or calls me at 2am. So if you’re worried that watching your 20s slip away means you’ll be forced to grow up… apparently it doesn’t.
Your job is an important part of who you are. If I don’t see a job, I assume unemployed and keep swiping.
Seriously. Shit like this makes me so glad I’m single.
I️ show up early for dates. That way in case my hair somehow got destroyed in the car or something I️ get a second to run to the bathroom and make sure I️ look stellar and then I️ just chill at the bar. Always prefer to be first.
Very *nice work*
One of my ex’s pulled the business card move on me a few years ago. I was young and naive and thought he was super cool. He actually turned out to be a huge douche and if anyone tried to give me their business card now at the bar I’d probably just walk away. Just ask for my number like a normal person please.
Do you remember Song airlines? It was part of Delta I think. So bummed it went away because I loved it.
Also… if you don’t pack a shit ton of snacks wyd?