It’s not really about his skill level. It’s about the fact that you cant even really enjoy it because of like hardcore sensory overload. When you’re enjoying something truly wonderful like oral sex you should not be asked to multitask. Imagine if your boss invited you out for bottomless mimosa brunch but made you work on spreadsheets the whole time. Messy, low key stressful, but kind of good too I guess?
Might do. My last boyfriend was Danish and I lived in Scandinavia for a bit and quite enjoyed. Very nice to not live in an endless misery cycle of gluttony. 10/10 would do again.
If it makes you ladies feel better I feel the same way about xmas. It’s a bit harder to completely ignore that one because my family, friends, and colleagues are not as naturally pragmatic, sullen, and anti capitalism as I am but I do my best to bring transparency to the holiday season.
I don’t know what to tell you dude, I’m just not here for it. My bf and I both tend to approach life pretty wryly and it embarrasses me to see people going hard for Vday. The reality is that my boyfriend is truly the best man I’ve ever met and I could never expect more from him than what he already does for me every day ¯_(ツ)_/¯. If you need to put on a big show for each other then I guess do you.
No? I love thoughtful gestures from my boyfriend but to me it’s weird to do it just because of some random holiday that it meaningless to both of us. It feels disingenuous and contrived. It’s expensive, it’s tacky, and for what?
But if the expectation is that you’re going to listen to and trust her when she says this holiday is bogus/stressful let’s ignore it then you’re not really exceeding the expectation, you’re ignoring it in favor of your own logic.
Oooorrr you could just trust that she’s a mature adult and when she says she doesn’t want to do anything she means it? If she says she doesn’t want anything and then gets mad when she doesn’t get anything there’s a lesson in communication. Enough of this “she said xyz but I’m going to ignore that because I think I know what she reeaallly means” bullshit.
Wtf do you have any idea how much this would cost? If I said don’t do anything for v day and he did this I would be weirded out at best. If she says don’t do anything Listen. To. Her.
Honestly weddings are criminally expensive but $25 per person? Are you getting married at Sizzler’s like what is this? Your guests are also shelling out for you and the least you can do is get them hella booze, a nice dinner and let them bring a plus one. you’re mad about the cost? Who told you to have a vainglorious party to celebrate a contractual obligation?
I haven’t been single in several years but judging from my nights out and my friends’ dating experiences I’d say viable options are prettyyyy limited these days if you’re 25 or older.
I think 25 is a bit young to be experiencing physical decline. You probably still bounce back quickly from illness and injury and still have good range and mobility. Your hangovers are not nearly as bad as they will be in two years and your friends are mostly childless with semi-disposable income. Enjoy your youth and your birthday.
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It’s not really about his skill level. It’s about the fact that you cant even really enjoy it because of like hardcore sensory overload. When you’re enjoying something truly wonderful like oral sex you should not be asked to multitask. Imagine if your boss invited you out for bottomless mimosa brunch but made you work on spreadsheets the whole time. Messy, low key stressful, but kind of good too I guess?
Absolutely. I was shook when I read that.
Might do. My last boyfriend was Danish and I lived in Scandinavia for a bit and quite enjoyed. Very nice to not live in an endless misery cycle of gluttony. 10/10 would do again.
If it makes you ladies feel better I feel the same way about xmas. It’s a bit harder to completely ignore that one because my family, friends, and colleagues are not as naturally pragmatic, sullen, and anti capitalism as I am but I do my best to bring transparency to the holiday season.
U ok sis?
Thank u <3.
I don’t know what to tell you dude, I’m just not here for it. My bf and I both tend to approach life pretty wryly and it embarrasses me to see people going hard for Vday. The reality is that my boyfriend is truly the best man I’ve ever met and I could never expect more from him than what he already does for me every day ¯_(ツ)_/¯. If you need to put on a big show for each other then I guess do you.
No? I love thoughtful gestures from my boyfriend but to me it’s weird to do it just because of some random holiday that it meaningless to both of us. It feels disingenuous and contrived. It’s expensive, it’s tacky, and for what?
But if the expectation is that you’re going to listen to and trust her when she says this holiday is bogus/stressful let’s ignore it then you’re not really exceeding the expectation, you’re ignoring it in favor of your own logic.
Idk. Enjoying being free from the need for external validation in my relationship is p uplifting.
Oooorrr you could just trust that she’s a mature adult and when she says she doesn’t want to do anything she means it? If she says she doesn’t want anything and then gets mad when she doesn’t get anything there’s a lesson in communication. Enough of this “she said xyz but I’m going to ignore that because I think I know what she reeaallly means” bullshit.
Wtf do you have any idea how much this would cost? If I said don’t do anything for v day and he did this I would be weirded out at best. If she says don’t do anything Listen. To. Her.
I feel like it would raise some concerns for my boyfriend if I cried myself to sleep every night in bed next to him…
Truly giving a fuck about Valentine’s Day as an adult woman is tragic.
Is wearing a suit to work still a thing if you’re not in government or a bank teller?
Honestly weddings are criminally expensive but $25 per person? Are you getting married at Sizzler’s like what is this? Your guests are also shelling out for you and the least you can do is get them hella booze, a nice dinner and let them bring a plus one. you’re mad about the cost? Who told you to have a vainglorious party to celebrate a contractual obligation?
*$200
I haven’t been single in several years but judging from my nights out and my friends’ dating experiences I’d say viable options are prettyyyy limited these days if you’re 25 or older.
I think 25 is a bit young to be experiencing physical decline. You probably still bounce back quickly from illness and injury and still have good range and mobility. Your hangovers are not nearly as bad as they will be in two years and your friends are mostly childless with semi-disposable income. Enjoy your youth and your birthday.
But it legitimately is cheaper for everyone.