People who buy things on Black Friday/Black Thursday are fools. Most of the things out on sale are either old crap that needs to be cleared out of inventory or low quality crap made specifically for Black Friday. That 55″ TV you’re getting for $100 was made specifically for Black Friday with low quality components and will probably fail within two years.
This happened to my friend. His sister’s boyfriend was in my friend’s wedding party and in a ton of wedding photos. About a year after, he broke up with my friend’s sister. RIP to his wedding photo album.
Well there’s a fundamental difference. For a lot of people, myself included, I wouldn’t for a second stay with my girlfriend if she cheated on me because a) cheating is usually a symptom of a greater issue in the relationship that has gone unresolved for whatever reasons and b) the trust is irreparably broken.
And what if they are damaging in some way? No one is perfect and everyone has quirks. Sometimes those quirks can be fixed and sometimes they can’t. I was pretty much a lazy slob before moving in with my girlfriend, whereas she likes things neat and clean. After getting into some discussions, we found a middle ground where I’m no longer a completely lazy slob and she’s no longer a neat freak. But what if I had some deal-breaker quirks and I absolutely refused to budge and my future wife didn’t know until after we got married? Would it be fair for my hypothetical wife to be in a marriage with me if I did things that drove her absolutely crazy and refused to change?
Marriage and relationships also about compromise and while often it’s possible to find a middle ground, sometimes it’s not. Living together before marriage lets you figure out which bucket these things fall into and make a more qualified decision about whether this person really is someone with whom you want to spend the rest of your life.
I meant to reply sooner, but you hit the nail on the head. I think a big point that Jesus misses is that identifying things that bug you is only half the battle. Then you gotta figure out a way for both sides to fix the issues, and that’s not always possible. If it’s not possible to fix these issues and if they’re big enough, people generally conclude that they’re not fundamentally compatible and either break-up or divorce. Only it’s much easier to break-up, even if you’ve been living together for some time, than it is to divorce.
Welcome back, Jesus. I’m glad that you have risen once again, but I strongly disagree with you. There’s just no way to really know a person until you live with them for some time. For all you know, you two might be fundamentally incompatible in your lifestyles. If so, it’s much easier to call it quits if you aren’t already married.
Also, you won’t have the growing pains of moving in together after you’re married because you’re already accustomed to each ofher’s lifestyle habits. It took me and my girlfriend some time to get used to living with each other and we had quite a few arguments/discussions. Would have sucked to have those in the immediate months after marriage, which are supposed to be happy and blissful.
Madoff, your writing is incredible and your piece about losing a parent remains the most touching thing I’ve read on PGP. Thanks for all the great posts and hope there’s many more of them in the future.
Don’t the remotes make like $25 an article? If so, and Duda averages 3 a week, that’s a little under $4,000 a year. Peanuts compared to providing a full on salary with benefits.
Apartment guy: move. While you have some leeway with noise complaints for some things (party at 1 AM on a Wednesday), you generally can’t dictate to your neighbor how to walk. I went through the same thing this year, where I got a new upstairs neighbor that walked like an elephant and drove me insane. When he’d wake up at 3 AM to use the bathroom, I could literally follow his footsteps from his bedroom – above mine – to the bathroom, hear the bathroom flush and then his footsteps back to bed. No one is going to be mindful of your noise complaining at 3 AM when they wake up to go to the bathroom and are half asleep.
I moved to a new apartment on the top floor and couldn’t be happier. If you’re this bothered by it, I suggest you do the same.
Pretty much this. I also rarely pay for flights with cash so those 5x points were basically useless to me. I’m also heavily entrenched in the Ultimate Rewards ecosystem with my Sapphire, Freedom and Ink Business so it’s easy to earn bonuses on one card and move them to the Sapphire for redemption.
A mix of random charges every now and then, kind of like Government Slacker pointed out except not recurring monthly, and because I have multiple cards with the same banks. I don’t know this for a fact, but I think that if you have multiple cards with the same bank and you use one of them often enough, they won’t close the others because you can always transfer your available credit between the cards.
Couldn’t agree more, great point about the recurring charges on cards that are no longer in use. One thing that I’ve found is that if you have multiple cards with the same bank, the bank is less likely to cancel your inactive card. But that’s more of an anecdote than a rule of thumb.
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People who buy things on Black Friday/Black Thursday are fools. Most of the things out on sale are either old crap that needs to be cleared out of inventory or low quality crap made specifically for Black Friday. That 55″ TV you’re getting for $100 was made specifically for Black Friday with low quality components and will probably fail within two years.
Plot twist: Ashley ended up giving you a hickey and now you have to wear an awkward turtleneck at Thanksgiving dinner.
This happened to my friend. His sister’s boyfriend was in my friend’s wedding party and in a ton of wedding photos. About a year after, he broke up with my friend’s sister. RIP to his wedding photo album.
Show me a man who won an argument with his wife and I’ll show you a man who’s sleeping on his couch that night.
Well there’s a fundamental difference. For a lot of people, myself included, I wouldn’t for a second stay with my girlfriend if she cheated on me because a) cheating is usually a symptom of a greater issue in the relationship that has gone unresolved for whatever reasons and b) the trust is irreparably broken.
And what if they are damaging in some way? No one is perfect and everyone has quirks. Sometimes those quirks can be fixed and sometimes they can’t. I was pretty much a lazy slob before moving in with my girlfriend, whereas she likes things neat and clean. After getting into some discussions, we found a middle ground where I’m no longer a completely lazy slob and she’s no longer a neat freak. But what if I had some deal-breaker quirks and I absolutely refused to budge and my future wife didn’t know until after we got married? Would it be fair for my hypothetical wife to be in a marriage with me if I did things that drove her absolutely crazy and refused to change?
Marriage and relationships also about compromise and while often it’s possible to find a middle ground, sometimes it’s not. Living together before marriage lets you figure out which bucket these things fall into and make a more qualified decision about whether this person really is someone with whom you want to spend the rest of your life.
I meant to reply sooner, but you hit the nail on the head. I think a big point that Jesus misses is that identifying things that bug you is only half the battle. Then you gotta figure out a way for both sides to fix the issues, and that’s not always possible. If it’s not possible to fix these issues and if they’re big enough, people generally conclude that they’re not fundamentally compatible and either break-up or divorce. Only it’s much easier to break-up, even if you’ve been living together for some time, than it is to divorce.
Deleting comments? Is PGP turning into North Korea?
Welcome back, Jesus. I’m glad that you have risen once again, but I strongly disagree with you. There’s just no way to really know a person until you live with them for some time. For all you know, you two might be fundamentally incompatible in your lifestyles. If so, it’s much easier to call it quits if you aren’t already married.
Also, you won’t have the growing pains of moving in together after you’re married because you’re already accustomed to each ofher’s lifestyle habits. It took me and my girlfriend some time to get used to living with each other and we had quite a few arguments/discussions. Would have sucked to have those in the immediate months after marriage, which are supposed to be happy and blissful.
Madoff, your writing is incredible and your piece about losing a parent remains the most touching thing I’ve read on PGP. Thanks for all the great posts and hope there’s many more of them in the future.
Don’t the remotes make like $25 an article? If so, and Duda averages 3 a week, that’s a little under $4,000 a year. Peanuts compared to providing a full on salary with benefits.
Hey Grandex, now that you guys are rolling in dough from all the freed up salary space, maybe you can hire a decent IT guy to fix the fucking app.
Shit. I never listened to the podcasts, but I loved reading Dave’s and Dillon’s pieces on here. Sad to see them go.
Apartment guy: move. While you have some leeway with noise complaints for some things (party at 1 AM on a Wednesday), you generally can’t dictate to your neighbor how to walk. I went through the same thing this year, where I got a new upstairs neighbor that walked like an elephant and drove me insane. When he’d wake up at 3 AM to use the bathroom, I could literally follow his footsteps from his bedroom – above mine – to the bathroom, hear the bathroom flush and then his footsteps back to bed. No one is going to be mindful of your noise complaining at 3 AM when they wake up to go to the bathroom and are half asleep.
I moved to a new apartment on the top floor and couldn’t be happier. If you’re this bothered by it, I suggest you do the same.
That’s how we do it in the big leagues. This year’s Thanksgiving shopping trip to Costco is going to help pay for European travel next summer.
Pretty much this. I also rarely pay for flights with cash so those 5x points were basically useless to me. I’m also heavily entrenched in the Ultimate Rewards ecosystem with my Sapphire, Freedom and Ink Business so it’s easy to earn bonuses on one card and move them to the Sapphire for redemption.
A mix of random charges every now and then, kind of like Government Slacker pointed out except not recurring monthly, and because I have multiple cards with the same banks. I don’t know this for a fact, but I think that if you have multiple cards with the same bank and you use one of them often enough, they won’t close the others because you can always transfer your available credit between the cards.
Couldn’t agree more, great point about the recurring charges on cards that are no longer in use. One thing that I’ve found is that if you have multiple cards with the same bank, the bank is less likely to cancel your inactive card. But that’s more of an anecdote than a rule of thumb.