I’m fully on board the No train, but I know my girlfriend would say Yes.
I have people I’m friends with that I kind of had a fling with, but I wouldn’t call them exes. I also think the weird sexual tension keeps them from ever being real friends.
People I’ve been in a serious enough relationship to call them an ex? No way. I can wish them the best and be civil, but it’s too weird to look at someone you talked about having kids with and talk about their boyfriend or your girlfriend. Everyone acts like its cool, but that takes a level of maturity I’ll likely never have.
My girlfriend’s ex is one of her best friends, and as the new boyfriend and someone that would also now call the guy a buddy, it still rankles the shit out of me every once in a while.
To her, they were never really serious because she didn’t see a future with him, so she can be friends with him. To me, they dated for a year, he’s met her family, gone to work functions with her, and did all the serious boyfriend stuff before I did. Every time I get reminded of that fact, I just want to go “Cool.”
Will, I’m feeling real targeted by this. I live near Columbia, MO, am going to Colombia in like two weeks, and have had to explain numerous times that no I’m not taking a vacation 2 hours away for a week.
This usage of my life without my permission is egregious.
Also many times you can pay off the PMI with a much smaller lump sum, I bought out my PMI when I got my house for something like a grand-$1500, and it would have cost somewhere upwards of $20k by the time I got it paid off.
Just remember to ask whoever is doing your mortgage paperwork.
Yeah, unless they are truly terrible, if there were any spark at all in the pre-date texting, I’d give anyone a second date.
First dates are basically, am I attracted to this person/can they do the whole song and dance of bullshit that is most first dates.
But I also am huge on the slow burn relationships, and until my current one, I’ve never dated anyone I wasn’t already friends with for months/years.
Mostly what he says. I tend to be very similar to you (CMV) in that I tend to process all of the stuff on my own and no one generally knows that anything is going on. Whether you realize it or not, the people that are closest to you and spend the most time with you, like a significant other, tend to notice the subtle changes even if they often misinterpret both your feelings and the reasons why.
I think it is something you should work on, but not necessarily in the way I feel like you were suggesting above where it is for them at the detriment to you. For me, what has worked the best is when I tell the people important to me, “Hey, hopefully you haven’t had to deal with any weirdness, but I’m currently dealing with X. I’m trying to wrap my head around it before I involve you, but I don’t want you to feel left out of anything. I’ll let you know if I need anything, but for now I’m going to work on getting myself back to the Robby we all know and love (tolerate).”
Then a simple cheeky grin and you’re mostly off the hook to figure out your stuff without anyone important feeling like they’re not a part of your life.
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I have never set my alarm for every 20 minutes until noon just to keep my IM active while I slept off a hangover.
Thank God someone made a website to help with the most important of those questions.
I’ve come to learn that’s a lot more people’s dream girl than I was led to believe. Gotta throw in some freckles on that nose though.
I’m fully on board the No train, but I know my girlfriend would say Yes.
I have people I’m friends with that I kind of had a fling with, but I wouldn’t call them exes. I also think the weird sexual tension keeps them from ever being real friends.
People I’ve been in a serious enough relationship to call them an ex? No way. I can wish them the best and be civil, but it’s too weird to look at someone you talked about having kids with and talk about their boyfriend or your girlfriend. Everyone acts like its cool, but that takes a level of maturity I’ll likely never have.
My girlfriend’s ex is one of her best friends, and as the new boyfriend and someone that would also now call the guy a buddy, it still rankles the shit out of me every once in a while.
To her, they were never really serious because she didn’t see a future with him, so she can be friends with him. To me, they dated for a year, he’s met her family, gone to work functions with her, and did all the serious boyfriend stuff before I did. Every time I get reminded of that fact, I just want to go “Cool.”
Will, I’m feeling real targeted by this. I live near Columbia, MO, am going to Colombia in like two weeks, and have had to explain numerous times that no I’m not taking a vacation 2 hours away for a week.
This usage of my life without my permission is egregious.
Also many times you can pay off the PMI with a much smaller lump sum, I bought out my PMI when I got my house for something like a grand-$1500, and it would have cost somewhere upwards of $20k by the time I got it paid off.
Just remember to ask whoever is doing your mortgage paperwork.
Is there such a thing as both Nice Working an article and demanding it be taken down from the site at the same time?
I’m having some PTSD and was expecting to be mad at Eric from the title, not reeling on a Thursday morning.
Good on him though for gtfo of that situation. He did the right thing (eventually).
If you aren’t going to have sex on derek’s leg, then why even show up?
I think you accidentally spelled “in a body-bag” as disappointed.
My god, this was a work of art in subtle shade that Girl & friends could learn from.
Name definitely checks out.
Yeah, unless they are truly terrible, if there were any spark at all in the pre-date texting, I’d give anyone a second date.
First dates are basically, am I attracted to this person/can they do the whole song and dance of bullshit that is most first dates.
But I also am huge on the slow burn relationships, and until my current one, I’ve never dated anyone I wasn’t already friends with for months/years.
Mostly what he says. I tend to be very similar to you (CMV) in that I tend to process all of the stuff on my own and no one generally knows that anything is going on. Whether you realize it or not, the people that are closest to you and spend the most time with you, like a significant other, tend to notice the subtle changes even if they often misinterpret both your feelings and the reasons why.
I think it is something you should work on, but not necessarily in the way I feel like you were suggesting above where it is for them at the detriment to you. For me, what has worked the best is when I tell the people important to me, “Hey, hopefully you haven’t had to deal with any weirdness, but I’m currently dealing with X. I’m trying to wrap my head around it before I involve you, but I don’t want you to feel left out of anything. I’ll let you know if I need anything, but for now I’m going to work on getting myself back to the Robby we all know and love (tolerate).”
Then a simple cheeky grin and you’re mostly off the hook to figure out your stuff without anyone important feeling like they’re not a part of your life.
I dunno, I think my dad is still madder about me running through the house with a sharpie at age 4 than he has been about any of my behavior since.
Grant coming in with the haymaker at the end there.
One of my great life regrets remains that I forgot to hit up Nived when I was in Boston on a trip to see the Sawx with some PGPers.
lol
the beige hellscape that is my cube*
Tell them that the joke’s on them, you don’t Look dead inside, you Are dead inside.
If they decide on StL, I’d be more than happy to shoot them some recommendations on where to go and what to do while in the Lou.