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Welcome to the PGP Mailbag, wherein I will answer questions from you, our readers. Send your questions to firstname.lastname@example.org. All topics welcome.
Longtime, first-time, you know. I don’t know how to dress well. By the time I finally get a grip on what the trend going around is, it’s already passed. Got any hot tips to make me look good but not like every other guy at the bar? What’s your summer aesthetic looking like this year? Feel free to plug Man Outfitters, because I’d love to use promo code thicc. I appreciate it.
I should start by saying I don’t consider myself to be fashion-forward. I don’t stay up on trends, I don’t buy clothes for the brand name, and I avoid spending triple digits on a single article of clothing whenever possible. I buy shit that I think looks good, but first I make sure it’s not so out of style that people think I’m a lost soul. I also don’t want to dress too well, because that’s not who I am. Having said all that, I don’t have any general clothing tips.
Now, am I going to use this teed-up opportunity to promote RG and Man Outfitters? Yes, I am. Do I actually, in my soul, believe in these brands and these recommendations? I really, really do.
The RG Hawaiian collection is a lot fun and perfect for anything on the water, near the water, or for any casual drinking occasion. My fave:
It’s the summer of short sleeve button downs, like these from MO.
Lastly, you pretty much have to own a pair of Seavees in 2018. These shoes with some classic khaki shorts and one of the above shirts is how you’ll find me this summer.
Love your column. The world could use more people like you with a rational fucking brain.
I’ve been seeing a girl for about three months now, and things have been going pretty well. She’s really nice, got a great sense of humor, and is probably the most attractive girl I’ve ever been with. We’ve even started to plan a vacation for this summer when we both get some time off.
Here’s the catch. Although we’re out of college now, we were classmates a couple years back. Knew each other and had a couple classes together but didn’t talk too much. But I knew her enough to know that she had a reputation and had been with a lot of guys.
Normally this would be cool, but some of the guys she was with were my close friends. Still are my close friends. And we’re not talking one or two guys here…she’s bagged like half of my friend group. Now when we all go out or pregame together, I can’t stop thinking about it.
Am I being a little bitch here for letting it bother me? Hate to say it but now and again I feel like it’d be easier calling it quits and eventually finding a new girlfriend who my buddies don’t have nudes of. Like I said though, things are going great, she’s super kind, hot, and outgoing.
Any thoughts would be appreciated.
It sounds like you’re not judgmental simply because she’s been with a lot of guys (that’s good), but just that some of the guys she’s been with are close to you. I get it. Sex is some intimate shit so it’s not fun knowing that the girl you have feelings for has done freaky shit with your boys. They have mental images in their brains that you can’t take from them. They own them.
You’re going to have to find a way to handle it because this really shouldn’t be a deal breaker with someone you could potentially see a longterm future with. I think the move here is to tell her that it’s bothering you and go from there. Hear her out. If she has a good brain and some interpersonal skills, she might have a great way of making you feel better about things.
If that doesn’t work, you may have to move on before you’re too emotionally invested.
What’s up Dillon,
Long time first time ya know, I have found myself in a predicament that only you and the touchers in the comments can help me out with.
One day some random chick slid into my DM’s and for the longest time I had no idea who she was and didn’t think anything of it. Figuring it was the year of ‘shooting your shot’, we started DM’in which led to texts and FaceTime’s, in which I quickly realized she is an absolute smoke with a pretty good sense of humor who can shoot the shit with the best of them. Mind you this whole time we still had no idea how we knew each other or how she got my @. After some investigative work we finally realized we are both fellow touchers and she found me through the comment section. We’ve decided that we should probably meet-up (we are 8 hrs apart btw), but we are not sure what the move is.
Do we meet up in one of our hometowns giving one of us the home field advantage? Or do we just pick a random spot on the map and wing it? Also, what if she is a complete psycho and nothing like she is over the phone? Do I pack up and my bags and get out of there while I can, or do I try to make the best out of it?
Look at this. Touching Base bringing people together. If y’all have a kid, we get to name it. We’ll reach our decision live during a poddy.
Meet up in one of your hometowns or pick a neutral city. That part doesn’t matter so much. Does one of you get a hotel if you’re visiting the other’s hometown? I think it’s not a bad idea. If you show up expecting to stay with her, or her with you, that’s some added pressure to an already awkward meet-up. Having the safety net of “I’m just going to head back to my room and call it a night” could be a Godsend at night’s end.
If you’re traveling to meet her, I think it’s smart to drive, too. If shit goes south, or if she’s just not as cool as you thought, or if she very clearly Facetunes all her IG pics, it’ll be nice to be able to abort mission and head back home at the drop of a hat.
LT, FT. Anyway, randomly met this guy in the PGP comments section and as luck would have it, he’s actually pretty cute and we get along. There’s just one catch – he’s in the Midwest and I’m in the dirty South. Is it psycho (or a total meet cute) to hop on a plane to meet this stranger, and if not, where should we go? We’ve got St. Louis and Atlanta on the short list based on flights, but I’m open to suggestions. Also, any other tips on not making this totally weird are appreciated. I’ll be honest and say I’ve never even had a Bumble date (I just don’t do online dating), so your girl is walking in blind here.
Thanks a million
You are not going to BELIEVE this.
I’m moving to Denver in two weeks and really just wanted to see if there are any other PGPers that live there & want to be my friend. Also wondering if you or the commenters have any advice on how to adjust to a new city especially one where you don’t know anyone?
Thanks! I’ll miss seeing you at the gym but will of course still be listening to every episode of Touching Base.
This is my gym girlfriend, everybody. Her name is Sara. Say hi to her. She’s nice. If you’re living in Denver, she’d make a good friend addition to your squad. From the little I know about her, she enjoys getting adult drinks, running on a treadmill, tasteful tattoos, core exercises, and friendly weight room banter.
I’ll miss you.
What are your thoughts on lunch dates? Initially I started thinking it was good because it limits it to a certain time frame, but that’s also like putting a peacock in a cage. I’m a peacock, you gotta let me fly.
Also, if lunch dates are a go I’m assuming lunch beers are a no go because it’ll make you seem “unprofessional” to some girls.
Are you implying the lunch dates would occur during the work week? I think you are. Yeah, you are. That’s insane to me. Do people actually do this? You get like an hour tops, you can’t drink away the nerves, the sun is out, and a million other reasons.
This is a terrible idea. Save a lunch date for your established girlfriend..
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