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I, as a rule, don’t talk politics with potential mates, girls I’m dating, and girls I’ve been planning on marrying (of which there are many and include but are not limited to: Anna Kendrick, Taylor Swift, and Ariana Grande).
In fact, if politics get brought up in pretty much any situation, I play devil’s advocate without fail. Bunch of conservatives yacking it up? I go straight social justice warrior insufferable on them. Bunch of social justice hardos mixing it up? Go straight Republican on their ass. Roll Tide. I honestly don’t let politics rile me up, and I think that your personal beliefs should be kept private if you so choose, even if it’s with someone you’re dating. Anecdotally, my mom is pure Dem and my dad leans way more conservative, yet they still make it work. Isn’t the old saying “opposites attract” anyway?
Welp, apparently not in Washington DC, where it’s becoming nearly impossible to date outside of your political party. Sad!
Per The Washingtonian:
Washington has the most singles actively dating and using dating apps, according to a recent Time Out ranking, so it’s not surprising that political standoffs would take place in packed bars and Bumble conversations. The League, a selective dating app, says its DC users are 15 times more likely to mention politics in their bios since the 2016 presidential election, and one-third say they wouldn’t date someone with contrasting political beliefs.
In a city as overwhelmingly Democratic as DC, the combination of lingering anger over Hillary Clinton‘s loss and President Trump‘s existence makes it tricky for conservatives to date across party lines.
“A lot of times you’ll connect with someone [on an app] and they’ll Google you, find out you worked for Trump’s campaign, and then it’s pretty much all downhill from there,” says a Trump Administration official.
People who work in right-wing media say they don’t have it any better.
“The political divide has gotten so wide that a lot of younger liberals don’t have any interest in meeting conservatives,” says a reporter at a conservative media company. Working for a right-wing publication is such an obstacle to dating in DC, he doesn’t put his employer on any dating apps and avoids talking about it until meeting someone face-to-face, he says.
“The policies and these things that are attached to the right whether or not you’re a supporter of Trump have been pre-supposed on you, and it’s like a black mark,” says another reporter at the same outlet, who describes himself as a moderate conservative.
He once brought a woman back to his place, and while checking out his bookshelf, she noticed some books by conservative thinkers, he says. “She was like, ‘Oh no. First question: Did you vote for Trump?’,” the reporter says. He told her no, but that he was conservative. “She was like ‘I have to get out of here. I can’t see you,’ and left.”
Okay, first of all, let me give y’all some free advice. STOP MENTIONING POLITICS IN YOUR DATING APP PROFILES. That advice is free. Next tidbit is going to cost you, though. Seriously, why are we mentioning politics in our profiles? Why are we trying to mix politics and sex?
Next thing that’s important to keep in mind: you don’t have to agree with their political beliefs to still put the moves on them and try and schtup. And, more optimistically, if you really hit it off with the person and the only thing missing is political alignment? Give it a try anyway. That advice is free, too, actually. I’ve been seeing someone like two months, probably spans 20+ dates, several sober sex sessions and even more drunk ones that end in neither of us satisfied, and you know how many times politics has come up in conversation? Zero. Goose egg. I have NO IDEA if she’s a Donkey or an Elephant. (Politically speaking; she’s slightly prettier than those beasts). And guess what? Jimmy crack corn and I don’t care.
D.C. millennials, give it a try. Try dating and talk about literally anything else besides politics. It’s eye-opening and hey! Maybe your date will think it’s refreshing that you’ve got other interests besides the happenings on Capitol Hill.
Let’s practice. This is a scenario of two people, one a conservative and one a liberal, out on a first date.
Person 1: So, who’d you vote for?
Person 2: Um, I didn’t vote.
Person 1: *head explodes* WTF, how could you not vote?! It’s your duty as a citizen and as a millennial in this great political hotbed we call a city!
Person 2: I went to the polls, but then I remembered our country is screwed either way, so I went home to crack stick and eat pizza.
Boom. Dating without politics solved.
P.S. Best quote from the entire article: “Conversely, a young White House staffer says she typically looks for someone from the South when swiping through profiles, as she thinks they’ll be more receptive to her support of the President. She swipes left on anyone who went to a small, liberal-arts college or has a photo “wearing one of those pink hats on their heads” at the Women’s March, she says, as she thinks they wouldn’t be compatible.” *tears emojis everywhere* .