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I’m not married. And I’m not engaged. But I’d imagine that the decision to take the leap from being single to getting engaged must be a real knee-knocker. Is she the one? Will her dad give me his permission? Will she say yes? Can we afford a wedding? What date will we choose? How many likes will our engagement selfie get on Instagram? And, oh no, will people think the ring I got her is too small after we post it?
Unfortunately for all of us, we live in a world where all of those fears are all too real. The first of which are legitimate concerns while the tail end of those concerns are just societal pressures we put on ourselves after having unrealistic expectations driven by social media. Barf.
British publication The Telegraph explained that men are growing more and more scared to propose to their girlfriends for fear of being ring-shamed on social media. Double barf.
Only half of men now propose to their girlfriends with a ring as increased pressure to announce their engagement with a Facebook selfie is making them “terrified” of getting it wrong, according to jewellers.
We’ve all been around someone who sees someone’s engagement ring for the first time only to hear someone say under their breath, “Where’s the rest of it?” And where there’s smoke, there’s fire. So not only are men just not proposing anymore, but they’re taking their prospective wives to the jeweler with them to ensure they’re not fucking up.
Several jewellers are reporting the number of men choosing rings for their girlfriends before they’ve said “yes” has fallen significantly over the past decade, with less than half of engagement rings now bought by men on their own.
These idiots are also purchasing “holder rings” and then exchanging them out for shittier rings after the photos have been posted. Yes, that’s where we are as a society, guys.
Nicky Danino from The University of Central Lancashire gets it, though – “The art of selfie photography is reaching new levels and is reaching a state of narcissism. Couples now have even more reason now to get the perfect ring because they are posing pictures which will be permanently on the internet for all their friends to see. They want to show off to their friends and for their picture to be even more perfect than the last.”
But just because it’s true doesn’t mean it’s right, Nicky. We’re all scum and it’s Instagram and Facebook’s fault. .
[via The Telegraph]
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I feel like Duda would buy a “holder ring.”
First he needs to find a woman to date.
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At this point, fuck marriage, scotch doesn’t need a ring.
I would never drop money on an engagement ring without getting the approval on what it looks like from the future Mrs. GinAndTonic.
If the thing you’re worried about most regarding a proposal is other people’s reaction to the ring, you’re doing it wrong.
I can’t hold on to a woman long enough considering I die and come back from the dead every Easter.
Mary Magdalene can’t be locked down.
I don’t know why people keep shipping us. She was supes weird.
Instead of working and docking away 3 months worth of income to buy a diamond with some overvalued metal around it, how about people spend real quality time together in a cool place using the money that otherwise would have gone to a piece of jewelry that represents a 60% failure rate of partnership.
Can’t the 2 weeks in Fiji just represent a ring?
I was really rooting for a scathing review of the De Beers Diamond Co.’s stranglehold on the world’s consciousness. Since you went another way with it, here goes: Why do we need to buy a fucking ring that’s value has been artificially inflated by one family who decided that a shiny, clear rock is a good way to prove our love for another human, who won’t be getting us anything to celebrate our engagement, I might add. I tried this argument out on my then-girlfriend (now-fiance), and was met with “But they look pretty, and I want one.”
Obviously, I caved and bought her one, because I lack testicular fortitude.
Never crossed my mind, now I’m gonna need a raise. Thanks deFries
Men aren’t proposing because modern marriage is a scam.
My friend’s ex-wife told him her ring better cost more than 5k. It was 2k. She married him just to have a pissing contest with her sorority sisters over whose wedding would be cuter. They were divorced a year later.
She sounds lovely.
I took the lady ring shopping a year before I actually proposed. That way she got to pick out exactly what she likes, and there was enough time that she didn’t expect it was coming when I proposed. Problem solved.