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Relationship/social media question for you. My wife has some ridiculously hot friends that, as of late, have taken up some “Instagram modeling” (the typical half naked outfit with some weight loss shake tagged in the picture). I know these girls and would consider them my friends, so it’s not like I’m following thirty random half naked girls.
Anyways, I always like their pictures. Obviously for the brands they’re promoting or the caption is very well thought out (read: they’re so hot my thumbs just can’t help but hit the like button). My wife has never said anything about this and I’m not in a situation where I’m not attracted to my wife or getting my rocks off to Instagram posts, I just wanted to get your (and the PGP community) thoughts on this.
Is it inappropriate and/or weird or am I just making a bigger deal of it than I should? I just don’t want to lose an argument in six months when the wife pulls out the “yeah well how about all the half naked pictures you like on Instagram?!” card and I really don’t want to be the weirdo who likes pictures he shouldn’t be liking. Thanks for your time, big dog.
A guy who spends way too much time on instagram
Good question. Very relatable. I’ve done some thinking on this topic before, and I actually think we covered it on the Mailbag a while back? Can’t remember.
Here’s the rule: Guys, if you have a wife or girlfriend, you are allowed to like pictures of her close friends, and also celebrities. Those are totally fair game. This is only regarding hot/swimsuit/revealing pictures. Celebrities aren’t a threat and her close friends are merely an extension of her. It’s not your fault they’re dropping hot bikini pics on the TL. You’re just being a supportive boyfriend.
You’re good, man. Just stay away from liking beach pics of that girl you were crushing on before you met your wife, or an ex, and if you have an attractive, platonic friend of the opposite sex, save your likes for her pics that don’t show much of her skin. Like skiing in Breckenridge or at a brewery or brunch. Stuff like that.
What are your thoughts on the girl taking the guy’s last name after marriage? My big day is coming up and while I always figured I would take my husband’s last name because hey, that’s what you do, I’m having doubts now.
I don’t want to come off as being all “I am woman, hear me roar” but I think it’s unfair that everyone is just assuming I’ll take his name and even telling me I need to. No dude out there would want to change his last name so why am I expected to? I’m not trying to take some big stance here or make a point. I’ve just grown up with this name, I’ve gotten attached to it, and I feel like changing it is somehow giving up a big piece of myself. Not sure if it matters but we don’t plan on having kids, so which name they would be given isn’t an issue.
The future husband has assured me that he would never try to tell me I have to take his name, but I could tell he was really thrown and dissapointed when I told him about my concerns. He sees it as romantic, I’m not sure i do anymore.
I’m not always a traditionalist, but don’t you think a married couple, who legally binds their lives in front of family and friends, should have the same last name? It represents that you’re a family unit. That you’re all the way in. Celebs aside, if I was made aware that each member of a married couple kept their last names, it would give me “one foot out the door” vibes or something. Or maybe that their marriage was a business decision. Like yeah they love each other but I’m not sure if they’re crazy about each other?
I’m not telling you what to do, but that’s some real, neutral perspective for you. And I doubt I’m the only one who feels this way. Then again, maybe you don’t care what other people think. That’s cool, too.
Love the articles and don’t usually write in but really need some guidance on this one.
We recently hired a new receptionist at our office and boy oh boy is she attractive. Like a cross between a young “Friends” era Jennifer Aniston and an older but still attractive horrible bosses era Jennifer Aniston (she looks a lot like Jennifer Aniston). We went to a company happy hour last week and ended up going out for some drinks with my friends after. She sat super close to me and was giving me some suggestive looks all night.
We’ve been going to lunch a lot recently and flirting and my question is, do I try and sleep with my receptionist? In a bit of a dilemma and need a fresh perspective.
Here’s a classic “is the juice worth the squeeze?” scenario. It usually isn’t.
If you’re going to make the decision to sleep with a coworker, your job should be something you’re not super attached to. Be okay with moving on from it. One of many possible scenarios will play out, and a handful of those end with termination. Think about your next move, sir.
What’s up Dilly Bop,
I just got wind of some details on an old season of the Challenge, and it left me pretty unsettled. Being the content guy you are, maybe you’re already aware, or maybe not. Either way, I just found out and I’d love to hear you and the boys discuss on the pod. Here goes:
We all remember the fated finale when Johnny Bananas kept the prize money for himself, leaving Sarah with nothing. A total dick move, sure, but it’s a game. Well today on the Reality Steve Podcast, Steve interviewed Susie Meister, former Challenge contestant and good friend of Sarah. **Side note: I know that Touching Base is an anti-Reality Steve podcast so normally I wouldn’t fw him, ESPECIALLY not on a Thursday, but I’m a sucker for juicy gossip so I had to do it to em just this once**
Well it turns out that good ol’ Bananas had some unprescribed adderall that he intended to take and share with Sarah, but when he found out that they were competing against each other, he took his and kept hers. The big issue here is that he won because he was able to stay up all night and got more points than Sarah, which obviously the addy played a big part in. MTV knew about it, fined him $5,000 (out of his $275,000 winnings….I’m sure he really felt that fine), and they kept Sarah from discussing it to the media.
So here’s the question, is that a Douche Move or a Power Move? Did he have to do it to her? I’ve always been a big Johnny girl. Love him or hate him, you can’t deny that he’s played the game better than anyone else in Challenge history. I just can’t decide what to make of this.
It’s Reality Steve Podcast episode 73, Johnny/Sarah talk starts at 16:40 and they go into more detail if you’re so inclined.
Anyway, love you guys, love the pod. I’m about to delete this Reality Steve t-t-t-trash off my phone and hear all about Micah and This Weekend In Fun and it feels so right.
I did not like that move by Johnny Bananas. He totally fucked one of his good friends out of a lot of money. Even worse than that, though, he made it be known to everyone else on future Challenge shows that he is not to be trusted and will turn on even a close friend for extra money. It was a dick move, but it was also not a smart move, as it could cost him in the long run. Plus Sarah seems like a real sweetheart.
I had not heard about the Adderall angle until I read this question, but that adds another layer to it all (if true). Double dick move by Bananas. He might be an asshole, and while I don’t think this decision was a smart one by him, that dude can win some Challenges.
P.S. Shoutout to the greatest moment on Challenge history.
I don’t know much actual advice you can give me, as the groom is gonna get what he wants, but I’m just looking for some confirmation to prove I’m not crazy.
My brother is getting married and has asked for TWO bachelor parties. One for close friends/wedding party, and one for all his friends not close enough for Bachelor Party-Prime. And the “close” bachelor party? TWENTY PEOPLE.
Like I said, I’m gonna make it happen, but it’s not just me, right? This is excessive.
I don’t think having 20 guys to your bachelor party is that ridiculous. Is it too many guys? Yeah. Is it an absurd number? Nah. I’ve been to one with 20 before and it was fine.
What’s nuts is having TWO bachelor parties. Who does this guy think he is? If you have a big friend group, it can be pretty tough to narrow it down. What makes it tough, however, is only having ONE bachelor party, like a normal person, because that means you have to leave some people out. You don’t put your friends in tiers just so you can go on two, most likely free, trips.
And how would you feel if you made the B team? Fuck that. I’m not going to South Padre with you, dickhead. You just got back from doing coke in Aspen with your A team. You asshole.
So, no, you’re not crazy. Your brother is.
Reaaaaal quick need to know how much of a shit bag I am. I have two weddings coming up this fall, about a month apart from each other. First one is my cousin’s, and second one is one of my best friends who I am a bridesmaid for. I live very far away (different country) and could probably make both weddings, but vacay days are limited plus it would be a quick 2k + to fly back for both weddings. I feel more obligated to go to my best friends’, since I’m in it and I have absolutely no part in the other wedding other than attendance. But it’s my cousin…. Help please.
You’re fine. Just go to your best friend’s wedding. It clearly means more to you. You live in another country. That’s absolutely an adequate excuse for only making one trip. The cost, the long travel, the time off from work — it’s all enough..
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