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Remember when you were little and you got in trouble at school? Maybe you got sent to the principal’s office and a note was sent home to you parents. Or if you were really a bad kid, your parents got called in for a meeting to discuss your less than acceptable behavior. Then you got the opportunity to hear the speech that every kid wanted to avoid: “I’m not mad, just disappointed.”
There wasn’t anything worse than that phrase and the deep sigh that accompanied it. Give me yelling and a long term punishment of no tv, internet, or phone privileges (the home landline, obvi). Really anything except the pitiful looks that came your way for the next several months. Would you ever redeem yourself??
Let’s fast forward a bit. It’s 2018 and as much as we try to avoid it or pretend that it hasn’t happened, the reality is that we’re adults. We have jobs, pay taxes, and generally do the things teenage us always wanted to avoid. Sure, we still blackout on weekends and spend money we don’t have on things just to give our Instas content, but on paper we technically fit the bill.
That is until we mess up, intentionally or not, and are shoved back into our youth when that familiar phrase is delivered from the parental units. I don’t care how old you are, it still sucks to disappoint your parents.
Despite what my bio says and the fact that I am the ripe old age of 29 years young, I hate disappointing the wonderful people I call Mom and Dad. A couple of weeks ago I did a dumb thing that I knew they wouldn’t be happy about, but my high level of guilt persuaded me into biting the bullet and informing them. Not only did I get the “call us when you’ve grown up” line over the phone, but also the “not mad just disappointed” text a little while later.
Did it make me feel terrible and full of regret? Yep. Did I drunk cry about it excessively on St. Patrick’s Day and ask my bff if her parents would allow me to come to their Thanksgiving and Christmas this year because I swore my parents were going to disown me? Definitely yes.
Ok maybe I’m a little dramatic, but my point stands.
Perhaps it’s something small that you think isn’t a big deal and they take it way out of proportion or perhaps you legit done fucked up and their reaction is justified. Either way, no one likes to feel like they’re twelve years old and being sent to their room to think about what they’ve done.
I’d love to tell you that being an adult means you will always make the right choices that make not only yourself, but everyone else happy along the way. But I think that’s what they call a made for tv Hallmark movie and unfortunately you aren’t a C-List celebrity.
You will misstep a time or two or seven, and your parents will repeat that same ol same ol speech you knew was coming as you sat waiting for your ride home from the principal’s office. But unlike your younger self, you’ve realized that mom and dad will forgive you after one too many apologies and yes they will still love you.
Disappointing the people closest to you still shouldn’t top your list of favorite experiences, but no one said being an adult was all sunshine and roses. Just know that if nothing else, we’re all mess ups in this thing together..