How many of your Facebook Friends are actually your friends? It’s probably a significantly smaller number than you actually interact with or really know. Personally, I clock in somewhere over 1,500 and that’s after years of cutting down “friends” who piss me off with various invitations to EDM Concerts, political statements, religious tirades, or ultrasound pictures of their unborn kids. Hell, if it’s your birthday and I can’t remember the last time we talked or have no idea who you are, you’re cut loose. My gift to you is honesty about our friendship; we have none.
But as fun as it is to unfriend someone, it’s also sad how easily we can lose touch with people, even with the advent of being connected on Facebook. Former classmates, coworkers from old jobs, camp friends, acquaintances you’d love to get to know better but just never get around to it, chicks that post rockin’ bikini pictures – it’s just too much effort to talk to everyone.
Or is it? Not for Matt Kuzela, a 28-year-old student from Melbourne, Australia, who wanted to get a little closer to his 1,086 Facebook friends, so he decided to ask them all out for Coffee dates, one at a time. Even cooler, he’s documenting each experience on his Tumblr, “1000+ Coffees,” and sharing pictures and stories from his various dates.
So far, he’s been on 23 dates since the beginning of September, and is hoping to complete the project in “the next three years, or as long as it takes to complete.” That’s some dedication right there.
Matt is setting up dates with all kinds of people in his life, including former coworkers:
Matt, on the right, with Mia, a co-worker from a Japanese restaurant they both worked at in 2011.
Friends He Met Through an Ex-Girlfriend
Matt and Jess, an Australian DJ who hosted a radio show with his ex-girlfriend.
Acquaintances He Met Through Mutual Friends
Matt and Josh, a guy he met while camping at a music festival, now a college professor.
Matt and Clementine, a girlfriend that he dated (and lived with) for 18 months.
Even people he’s never met in real life before
Matt and Kit (left), a graphic artist who did visuals for a band of Matt’s, although they’ve never met in person.
He also made a point to have coffee dates with some of his closest friends, as well as good friends that he had been neglecting or hadn’t seen in person for a long time. I think we can all learn something from Matt here; it’s incredibly easy to discard our relationships as part of our pasts, but occasionally it can be great to revisit the people we once interacted with and cared about. Maybe for networking purposes, maybe for possible relationships and friendships that were cast aside by time or circumstances, but definitely to see where we’ve been to help us grow as people.
Or we can just keep unfriending people left and right because they piss us off. I may opt for the latter..