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Welcome to the PGP Mailbag, wherein I will answer questions from you, our readers. Send your questions to dillon@grandex.co. All topics welcome.
Yo Dilbo Mail Baggins,
This is a weird question because it’s mostly for the commenters and you’ll have a different answer. I’m curious though, how do people describe the other people on this site? I know some people meet up in person and then you can call each other friends (or maybe more) but for the general commenters how do you reference something funny you heard via this site? My internet friends? Some person on this site I spend way too much time on? A fellow toucher? (probably best avoided).
Either way since this is your mailbag I wanna thank y’all for creating such a community even if I don’t know what to call it.
I’ll let you guys answer this dude’s question, but I will take this opportunity to let you all know how we, the media team at Grandex, think of the readers of the site and the listeners of Touching Base.
The sense of community that has formed is a source of pride for us. We think it’s pretty awesome. We’re aware that you guys organize meet-ups in your respective cities, hang out together, hook up, follow each other on social media, keep in touch, etc. Very, very cool to see from our perspective. And obviously we’ve met a ton of you in person at one of our bar crawls, company parties, or just running into you out in the wild.
I don’t have to lie when I say that pretty much every single one of you we’ve met has seemed, at minimum, decently cool. And all very nice. We love meeting you guys. So thank you all for that.
Dillon,
Long time, first time- you know the drill. So there’s this mamí I always see at the gym (s/o team gains). She’s definitely a member of HPO nation.
We both have been going in the morning at the same time for the past month or so. Obviously I’m not going to approach her during a workout bc I’m not a psycho. However, this Sunday I saw her at Target and we made eye contact. We gave each other the “dont I know you?” look and went our separate ways.
Is the move to go up to her at the gym and be like “hey didn’t I see you at Target the other day?” Or did I miss my chance by not approaching her during the initial encounter?
Thanks bruh
We’ve had similar questions to this one in previous Mailbags. Advice I gave before was to time your gym exit with your gym crush’s exit. Make it seem accidental and happenstance. That makes initiating conversation much less forced. “Hi there. Let me grab the door for you. What’s your name, by the way?” Plus, like you said, approaching someone during their workout isn’t always the best play.
You definitely missed an opportunity at Target, but that doesn’t mean you can’t get it right on attempt number two, three, four, or seventeen.
Sup Dillon
Usually you get a good amount of serious questions and that’s fine, but let’s break it up with some simple fun ones. Let the people get to know the real you.
1) Money isn’t a concern…bucket list vacation spot you haven’t been to yet you?
2) If you couldn’t work for Grandex, what would you do?
3) Death row meal and drink?
4) Most embarrassing concert you’ve been to?
5) You get a sponsor exemption to play the US Open all 4 days. What clubs/ball you going with and what’s your 4 day outfit scripting?
Cordially,
Andrew
1) I’m ashamed to say I still haven’t visited Europe. A month traveling around Italy, France, Belgium, Germany, and Switzerland would definitely be an option for me.
However, I think yachting around the Mediterranean (and neighboring seas) for a couple weeks would be the winner. Staying in one of those huts over the water in Bora Bora would be tight, but after a few days being stationary with the same views, I might get a little restless. Give me a yacht with full staff, my closest friends, and the Italian and Greek coastlines and I think that would be about as good as it gets. Jet skis and champagne and lobster every day. Fuckkkk.
2) I’d try to stay in the media industry since I’ve been doing it for almost seven years now and I feel like I’m pretty good at it. If I had to pivot to a different industry, I’d try to get into real estate. I know that’s a broad answer but I’m not sure exactly what I’d do in real estate. I’ve just always been interested in it.
3) Chicken fried steak and mac and cheese. Maybe throw in a baked sweet potato with butter. I’m drinking a fountain Coke or unsweet iced tea. And a single malt scotch.
4) I haven’t been to any concerts I’d describe as embarrassing (I’m not a big concert guy to begin with). I’ve seen Elton John in concert twice and I guess some people might think that’s a little lame, but he’s the man.
5) I’ll stick with my Callaway Apex irons and Rogue Sub Zero driver. The Callaway chrome softs are so tight, too. I promise I’m not just saying this because we sell their apparel on Man Outfitters, but I am all in on TravisMathew golf attire. Their shirts are sharp and the fit feels tailor made. Plus it’s moisture wicking szn and they wick moisture with the best of them.
P.S. I love the format of this question.
Dilly Dilly,
A wedding i will soon be attending as a groomsman is coming up this summer. The bride to be informed me that they are wanting all groomsmen and bridesmaids to give speeches at the wedding. I think this takes too much time and gets boring but obviously it’s not my choice. Is there anything different when compared to a best man speech in preparing for it? I’m guessing it should be shorter since there are 8 people speaking and maybe leave the longer speech for the best man? Also the wedding is a destination so there won’t be a very large amount of people present, not that I guess that matters.
Eight speeches?! Talk about killing the momentum of the night’s festivities. I’m a big time proponent of speeches at the rehearsal dinner. Get the personal, heartfelt, “I’ve known Tim since tee ball” crap out of the way in front of the people who might care — just family and closest friends. I know it’s different since it’s a destination wedding but that’s a general rule I think everyone should consider adopting.
The reception should be all about fun. Let’s skip the story about the time Rebecca left her retainer on her lunch tray in 6th grade and get to the part where the best man is shirtless on the dance floor grinding on your aunt with his neck tie tied around his head.
Most people don’t care what the best man has to say at your reception and zero people care what anyone after him has to say. They have one eye on the open bar the entire time, praying the shit wraps up. It kills the vibe. Since you have to give a speech, keep it short, get a few laughs, wish them well, and pass the mic. Let the best man give the power speech. You’re merely in a supporting role as groomsman, so act like it.
D-Chev,
Long-time, first-time, etc. Appreciate the fine work you and your fellow kings do at PGP and Touching Base.
The reason I’m writing you is because I want to get to the bottom of your last name, Cheverere (four Es, non-consecutive of course). More specifically, I want to know why in God’s name it’s pronounced “shivery”. It’s spelled like “Chevy”, so naturally shouldn’t they rhyme? I don’t see where you get the sound you use. Also, take another look at how your name is spelled. Cheverere. Chev-er-ere. Notice how there’s two syllables with Rs. “Shivery,” on the other hand, only one R. Just doesn’t add up. For years before I heard Touching Base I had actually thought your name would be pronounced “Chev-err-ear”.
So, Mr. Cheverererererere, what gives?
P.S. The people want more Bone Zone.
You’re preaching to the choir, my friend. My last name doesn’t make sense to me, either. There are alternate spellings — Chevere being one. Maybe that’s where the pronunciation comes from? It’s French, man. I don’t get that shit. That’s just how we say the damn thing because that’s how our family members before us told us to say it.
Truth be told, I think my last name is legit. It’s weird and it sounds cool. Also it’s extremely rare. From the little research I’ve done, I’m one of five people on the planet with my last name. It would be on its way out had I not had a son. Wild stuff.
Four non-consecutive Es, though. Think about that.
P.S. I don’t know if that’s accurate..
The more questions I receive, the better this series is going to be, so send me your Mailbag questions to dillon@grandex.co and please put “Mailbag” in the subject line.
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RogerJDorn
first dude: just go with the generic “my friend,” unless you feel like really getting into it. i met my boyfriend through pgp and we’ve been together for over a year and most people i work with/extended family still think we met through “mutual friends.” if it’s someone you’re close to, sure get into it. but most people don’t need to know the details of how much time you spend on the internet.
Hey friend
That’s been the way I’ve done it. If people ask where you’ve met, and if you’ve met someone in person, just say the location you met them. It’s not technically lying, and avoids raised eyebrows from other friends/family.
Hey friends. Is there a Dallas PGP/Toucher group that meets up on a semi-regular basis?
Anyone know about an LA PGP/Toucher Group? Need some recommendations.
HMU on the twitter
Currently thanking the good Lord I’m not a bridesmaid in that wedding.
If I’m speech number 8.
Hello,
I’m honored to be in the bridal party and am proud my friend married a great girl. Now let’s get some drinks.
Yeah, that’s what rehearsal dinner is for. 8 speeches is a psycho move and there is a 99% chance if I was a guest at that wedding I would be at the bar the whole time.
Beyond just being a momentum killer, this seems so overindulgent. It amounts to force-requesting praise, which is all these speeches are. “…this is why XYZ is the best person and I love them so much…” EIGHT TIMES? At a destination wedding too? Pump the breaks.
The gym is a no go zone for women, the last thing they want is for guys to be bothering them while they sweat it out on the stair master
This is why the walk out chat up is key.
Yes, this is when it’s done. Guys have come up to talk to me between sets of butt exercises and it’s awkward
What is HPO nation?
hot people only
Something a guy you definitely don’t want coming up to you at the gym or Target says.
Something douche bags say
Jealousy is ugly on you, 19th.
Jealous of what exactly? You can workout without cliche terms and instagram posts
First thing that came to mind was “High Protein Only” but I’m probably just making that up
Hey.. your username, shorten it.
Hey good easy reading mailbag for Tuesday, D Man.
Guy with the girl at his gym. Spend less time saying things like “team gains” and more time actually approaching women in an obviously perfect situation. You blew it.
8 speeches at a wedding? Hate to break it to you but the bride (and/or groom) are attention whores who can’t stand to think about the reception turning into a fun for all event where everyone is not focused on them. I’d give a speech, but make it so cringeworthy they regret ever asking.
“True love is hard to find, sometimes you think you have true love and then you catch the early flight home from San Diego and a couple of nude people jump out of your bathroom blindfolded like a goddamn magic show ready to double team your girlfriend”
Glad to see Frank’s Dad made it out. Haven’t seen him in like 8 years.
Nice of Jared to submit a question.
Jared doesn’t work out though…
The proper pronunciation of Dillon’s last name has me shook. I’ve been saying it “Chev-err-air” in my head since the TFM days.
Everytime I pronounce his last name in my head I sound like a revving chainsaw. It makes me happy – I will not stop.
Chev-err-err-errrrrr
Please continue.
I always thought it was super French, maybe even a bougie Chev-er-ay. Like he belongs on that yacht with the champagne dismissing servants or something.
I smile every time Ross pronounces your name “Chiverererererereeeee”
I’m going to a wedding with 8 bridesmaids and 8 groomsman. The thought of all them giving speeches gives me anxiety.
My question is; How do you people go about contacting each other without putting your phone number, real name, etc. on a public commenting board for all to see? Or do you just take that risk and hope for the best?
Lots of people have their twitter/insta attached to their PGP usernames if you go to their profiles
At least for the DC group we have one person who runs the GroupMe and they posted on the subreddit so most people have just messaged them privately with their phone number to be added to the GroupMe.
Thank you Miss Jackson, I am for real.
1) Go to the PGP reddit
2) Post your city/find your city
3) Create/join group chat
4) Chat
5) Profit
Disregard this entire post didnt see missjacksons comment.
Miss Jackson, Im sorry
This is gold
My username is my name spelt backwards…very clever way to keep your true identity sealed lol