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Find You A Couple You Can Have A Threesome Of Emotions With

Find You A Couple You Can Have A Threesome Of Emotions With

On Monday night, I took part in the time-honored tradition of being the third wheel on a date night. The original plan was to go to the Cubs game, but since it was pouring rain and 45 degrees outside, we decided to take shelter in Cubby Bear across the street. Delay after delay and drink after drink, Jack and Alex got more and more affectionate.

Now normally, when couples get affectionate, they’re touching each other, making eyes, generally ignoring the person they’re with. You sit across from one of them at the table staring at your sad lunch that you ordered with the hope that you would playfully argue with someone about whether or not they could steal a bite, only to be completely isolated while your best friend probably gets jerked off by a foot under the table.

But every once in awhile, you’ll find a couple that’s special. You go out for drinks with your best work buddy and jokingly groan when you hear he invited his girlfriend that you haven’t met yet, only to be blown away by not only her, but by the entire dynamic of their relationship. They’ll take turns buying you drinks. They include you in their jokes. Shit, maybe they’ll even call you later to see if you want to join them for a cup of coffee later that week.

That’s what Jack and Alex have. They love each other, sure, but more importantly, they give me attention. They give me recommendations on where to go for dates. I can talk to them about career advice. They enthusiastically encourage my drunken shenanigans and get me shitfaced every time we go to Emo Night. Jack actually asked me to be his date to Emo Prom, and I was thrilled to say yes. If we’re being honest, I would probably have a threesome of emotions with them.

What’s a threesome of emotions? Glad you asked. In my almost-quarter century on the planet, I’ve come to find that when a couple finds a third, single person that they feel comfortable enough with, one of two things happens: either they start treating that third person as their child, or they let them into their most intimate moments. I’m not talking about getting involved in the bedroom. Well, not physically at least. I’m talking about sharing secrets. Giving you a glimpse into their world. You see what makes them happy, you know what makes them sad. They feel comfortable coming to you for advice on things that they couldn’t ask anyone else for, and you can bear your soul to them and they won’t think twice about it. All three people’s hearts moving as one, a threesome of emotions.

Before we go any further, it’s really important not to mix up a threesome of emotions and an emotional threesome. Threesomes of emotion are purely emotional, whereas an emotional threesome is when three people really get after it and have a sexual connection unlike any other. You may have seen one on the internet once or twice. Sure, an emotional threesome can be the result of a threesome of emotions, but in my experience, that hasn’t happened yet.

I’ll never forget my first ever threesome of emotions. It was a rainy day in southern California. My best friend, his girlfriend, and I all were sitting on a patio underneath a canopy watching the clouds roll by as the water sprinkled on the concrete. They sat together on an Adirondack chair, and I sat next to them on a lawn chair. A half full case of Coronas laid between us with empty bottles scattered throughout. A slow indie song played through the speakers as I looked over at them and told them how purely content I was at that moment. They reciprocated, and we went on to share secrets and talk about things I would rarely ever feel like discussing. When it was over, I leaned back and lit a cigarette, feeling a sweet release of any tension I had felt up until that point.

If you haven’t done something like this, I highly recommend you to. It may feel wrong at first. You might not know how to get started, and that’s okay. The key is to ease your way into it. Have a few drinks. Light some candles. Put on a movie that you all know you aren’t really going to watch. When it’s all done, I can almost guarantee that you’ll feel more connected to those people than anyone else you know.

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Charlie

Using sarcasm as a defense mechanism since 1993. At any given moment I'm either tired, drunk, or stressed out. Get at me at charliepgp@gmail.com or whatever.

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