You want a pet? Adopt. From a shelter or a breed-specific rescue. You want a working dog? Buy your dog from a responsible breeder, train it, and give it a good home for the rest of its life. This coming from a HUGE animal lover and volunteered at an animal shelter all through college, law school, and even studying for the Bar that STRONGLY supports responsible breeding, particularly for working dogs.
I don’t understand the concept of weeknight sleepovers. By the time I’m done working and working out, its time to smoke a J, shower, eat something, and pass the eff out. In the morning, I want to wake up in my own bed, in my own apartment.
I got my dog in law school, when I was in a serious/living together relationship. We broke up, I got the dog. I have no problem affording him but I haven’t been able to spend the night out in 7 years which realllly puts a damper on the dating life.
My parents got engaged on their first date. I’ve literally seen my dad give more consideration to which iPad case to purchase. They’ve been happily married for 40 years.
The guy I’m seeing and I are around 60/40. He makes 20x what I do and always pays for our “dates”, but I’m still making six figures so I will pick up drinks, lunches, carryout, or alcohol for his place. I would feel uncomfortable actually splitting the bill (I’m from the south) and I think he would find it emasculating. As a woman, I find it incredibly unattractive when women expect men to pay all the time.
I just went through the exact same thing. Had a 2-year FWB situationship and I caught the feels. Be honest with him. Give him the option of being nothing or something. Either way, you know. There’s this thing called the four agreements, the third is “Don’t make assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to communicate what you really want to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama.” Realistically, what’s your alternative?
I disagree with Dillon as well. I live in Washington DC and when an acquaintance from college moved here and asked me to drinks, I thought nothing of it other than he was new to the area and trying to make friends. I realized he thought it was a date when he tried to kiss me goodnight. We became good friends (friends are hard to make in a new city postgrad) and can laugh about it now, but do not assume its a date.
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You want a pet? Adopt. From a shelter or a breed-specific rescue. You want a working dog? Buy your dog from a responsible breeder, train it, and give it a good home for the rest of its life. This coming from a HUGE animal lover and volunteered at an animal shelter all through college, law school, and even studying for the Bar that STRONGLY supports responsible breeding, particularly for working dogs.
I don’t understand the concept of weeknight sleepovers. By the time I’m done working and working out, its time to smoke a J, shower, eat something, and pass the eff out. In the morning, I want to wake up in my own bed, in my own apartment.
I got my dog in law school, when I was in a serious/living together relationship. We broke up, I got the dog. I have no problem affording him but I haven’t been able to spend the night out in 7 years which realllly puts a damper on the dating life.
My parents got engaged on their first date. I’ve literally seen my dad give more consideration to which iPad case to purchase. They’ve been happily married for 40 years.
The guy I’m seeing and I are around 60/40. He makes 20x what I do and always pays for our “dates”, but I’m still making six figures so I will pick up drinks, lunches, carryout, or alcohol for his place. I would feel uncomfortable actually splitting the bill (I’m from the south) and I think he would find it emasculating. As a woman, I find it incredibly unattractive when women expect men to pay all the time.
I just went through the exact same thing. Had a 2-year FWB situationship and I caught the feels. Be honest with him. Give him the option of being nothing or something. Either way, you know. There’s this thing called the four agreements, the third is “Don’t make assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to communicate what you really want to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama.” Realistically, what’s your alternative?
I disagree with Dillon as well. I live in Washington DC and when an acquaintance from college moved here and asked me to drinks, I thought nothing of it other than he was new to the area and trying to make friends. I realized he thought it was a date when he tried to kiss me goodnight. We became good friends (friends are hard to make in a new city postgrad) and can laugh about it now, but do not assume its a date.