My dad spent what seems like most of my childhood in the bar after my mother died and while I still resent him occasionally when I’m in a shit mood, he’s cut out booze entirely, we lost my older brother, and I’ve forgiven him. We have a very close relationship now.
Parents get older and your opportunities to mend things are limited, so yeah, if you can and want to at all, make the effort now. If your parent continues to be a shithead though, or you just can’t bring yourself to include them in your life after what they did, absolutely do not blame yourself. You’re the kid.
I work tangentially with the Big 4 and provide competing solutions in some areas, and given a cursory understanding of corporate accounting, it sounds like the interviewee simplified the explanation to her friend and the friend provided a summary that further simplified it, not that either party are oblivious to the job basics.
I have been a global mobility software developer for close to ten years and my parents still don’t know what the hell I do despite me trying to explain it every single time I visit.
I made a comically best stab at day-trading last year and ended up with like a hundred bucks in capital loss. When I tried to use TurboTax for free like I always do, and entered I had some 1099s, the fucker wanted to make me pay EXTRA to declare that I had lost money. Since I always declare a single allowance and don’t get a refund, this would mean paying for tax preparation out of pocket .
Long story short, I discovered you can use CreditKarma.com’s tax preparation and get 1099s included for free. This year I went back to TurboTax because the interface is nicer and I only invested in my 401K, though.
I had gloves off for one run down the mountain yesterday so I could video my nephew’s first ever run down a blue, and the whole time I was thinking, don’t wreck, don’t wreck don’t wreck. Even if you don’t get a ski edge to the tendon, crashing into icy snow is gonna hurt if you’re going fast and land on your hands.
We make more money than both our parents. If her parents or my parents or both end up chipping in that’s great, but I don’t expect anything significant. Her parents have two siblings they still help out and my parents have grandchildren so if we can make their lives easier that’s great.
I lost my mom to cancer when I was ten and just my older brother last month to depression. Losing a sibling so early has been a whole new kind of grief, but having gone through losing Mom feels like I at least have some practice as morbid as that sounds.
You never stop missing them but with support from family and friends it gets easier. Take care of your remaining family, and most importantly, take care of yourself. If you don’t take care of yourself you won’t be able to take care of others. I’m talking out of my ass like I have it together, but right now I am feeling better than usual. And don’t feel bad about being happy whenever you actually feel happy if even for a moment.
I respect attention to quality in bringing your sandwich stuff individualized in your lunchbox, but don’t be that asshole who has a whole loaf of bread, multiple full-sized condiments, deli meat and cheese, and god knows what else hogging space in the fridge.
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Boneless with a fork if I’m surrounded by people I don’t trust, bone-in with greasy hands otherwise.
My dad spent what seems like most of my childhood in the bar after my mother died and while I still resent him occasionally when I’m in a shit mood, he’s cut out booze entirely, we lost my older brother, and I’ve forgiven him. We have a very close relationship now.
Parents get older and your opportunities to mend things are limited, so yeah, if you can and want to at all, make the effort now. If your parent continues to be a shithead though, or you just can’t bring yourself to include them in your life after what they did, absolutely do not blame yourself. You’re the kid.
If you don’t end every single work conversation with a “Calc you later!”, I have no idea what the hell you’re doing with your life, man.
I work tangentially with the Big 4 and provide competing solutions in some areas, and given a cursory understanding of corporate accounting, it sounds like the interviewee simplified the explanation to her friend and the friend provided a summary that further simplified it, not that either party are oblivious to the job basics.
I have been a global mobility software developer for close to ten years and my parents still don’t know what the hell I do despite me trying to explain it every single time I visit.
Software dev here; I hit CTRL+S about every three lines or ever paragraph when I’m writing normal human correspondence.
*comically bad
I made a comically best stab at day-trading last year and ended up with like a hundred bucks in capital loss. When I tried to use TurboTax for free like I always do, and entered I had some 1099s, the fucker wanted to make me pay EXTRA to declare that I had lost money. Since I always declare a single allowance and don’t get a refund, this would mean paying for tax preparation out of pocket .
Long story short, I discovered you can use CreditKarma.com’s tax preparation and get 1099s included for free. This year I went back to TurboTax because the interface is nicer and I only invested in my 401K, though.
I don’t work for the government, and half our clients are Europe-based so ¯_(ツ)_/¯
Before or after her shift?
Bobby Flay hasn’t stepped forward into or even thought about that restaurant since the ribbon-cutting.
I had gloves off for one run down the mountain yesterday so I could video my nephew’s first ever run down a blue, and the whole time I was thinking, don’t wreck, don’t wreck don’t wreck. Even if you don’t get a ski edge to the tendon, crashing into icy snow is gonna hurt if you’re going fast and land on your hands.
CoooooOOOkie Crisp!
We make more money than both our parents. If her parents or my parents or both end up chipping in that’s great, but I don’t expect anything significant. Her parents have two siblings they still help out and my parents have grandchildren so if we can make their lives easier that’s great.
Isn’t it ironic, doncha think?
I lost my mom to cancer when I was ten and just my older brother last month to depression. Losing a sibling so early has been a whole new kind of grief, but having gone through losing Mom feels like I at least have some practice as morbid as that sounds.
You never stop missing them but with support from family and friends it gets easier. Take care of your remaining family, and most importantly, take care of yourself. If you don’t take care of yourself you won’t be able to take care of others. I’m talking out of my ass like I have it together, but right now I am feeling better than usual. And don’t feel bad about being happy whenever you actually feel happy if even for a moment.
Thanks for writing this, Madoff.
Dave-burn.
Counterpoint: I like my sloppy joes EXTRA SLOPPY.
I respect attention to quality in bringing your sandwich stuff individualized in your lunchbox, but don’t be that asshole who has a whole loaf of bread, multiple full-sized condiments, deli meat and cheese, and god knows what else hogging space in the fridge.
That’s exactly what a Dave would say, Dave.
If the establishment serves liquor at that hour and the waitress gave me that line (and wasn’t joking around) I’d tell her to fuck right off.