Honestly I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your parents helping you out, but there’s a difference between helping with a down payment or a car and giving someone everything they have. Parents can gift their kids some money for a big expense to accomplish a goal they’ve worked hard for while also making sure they understand the value of a dollar.
THIS. A close friend of mine just bought a house absolutely comparable to the one in duda’s story. She and I work the same job, have the same amount of experience, and make the same money, and I’m always mind blown by her and her fiance’s spending. It’s not always about how expensive your things are. Managing the money you have, in my opinion, speaks much more to “success” than having a fancy house and fancy grill etc. I’m very happy in my modest apartment and strong savings account I’ve been working my ass toward. I have no desire to be house poor at 25.
As a nurse I can tell you that I have absolutely had patients with weird raspy facial infections from doing this. The worst part is that they don’t come up with half assed excuses, they straight up admit it. I am not against a little anal play but please dear God keep your mouth up front.
I agree to a point. It is important however to have a sense of stability and to know how to manage your money. If you’re trying to decide if you can see a future with someone, money counts but it’s so much more than the dollar amount.
This is true, when you’re ready to get to that point. I’m just saying it’s okay to go through the motions and be pissed at first. Feelings just aren’t usually neat and tidy, there are just so many factors and intricacies that go into relationships and breakups.
In my fantasy world the goat is Tom Brady. Still a tough question because if I had sex with him I would want literally everyone to know and that’s not an option.
I fully agree with this. A little anger helps me transition out of feelings. Plus, frankly, it’s natural to feel that way if you’ve been broken up with because you actually feel kinda rejected by someone you really care about… even if you knew it was coming. I’m friendly and cordial with most of my exes but I really don’t understand people who are legitimately friends with theirs. Just seems like there should be boundaries.
Personally I’m attracted to someone who’s got a good personality and treats me like I’m important to them. Not so worried about their sexual history. And frankly, regardless of how experienced someone is or isn’t, you’re still gonna have to train them toward what you like so what’s the big deal? Any girl who makes you feel weird about being a virgin or uncircumcised seriously isn’t worth your time.
Ghosting someone is shitty in general. After 5 dates, that’s embarrassing. You can get to know someone pretty damn well in 5 dates, certainly well enough to have the decency to tell them you don’t see a future or whatever the issue may be. Sorry if that happened to you, definitely not cool.
And this is why you make the date happen ASAP. I’ve been seeing someone for a little over a month and I think we exchanged like 4 or 5 messages before exchanging numbers and deciding to just meet up at a bar. Definitely the right move.
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Honestly I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your parents helping you out, but there’s a difference between helping with a down payment or a car and giving someone everything they have. Parents can gift their kids some money for a big expense to accomplish a goal they’ve worked hard for while also making sure they understand the value of a dollar.
THIS. A close friend of mine just bought a house absolutely comparable to the one in duda’s story. She and I work the same job, have the same amount of experience, and make the same money, and I’m always mind blown by her and her fiance’s spending. It’s not always about how expensive your things are. Managing the money you have, in my opinion, speaks much more to “success” than having a fancy house and fancy grill etc. I’m very happy in my modest apartment and strong savings account I’ve been working my ass toward. I have no desire to be house poor at 25.
Big time thank you. The bumble gods blessed me with a good one.
This prompted a killer back and forth between me and the bf. Many thanks.
Hahah I’m sure that’s not out of the question
Rashy* not raspy.
As a nurse I can tell you that I have absolutely had patients with weird raspy facial infections from doing this. The worst part is that they don’t come up with half assed excuses, they straight up admit it. I am not against a little anal play but please dear God keep your mouth up front.
I agree to a point. It is important however to have a sense of stability and to know how to manage your money. If you’re trying to decide if you can see a future with someone, money counts but it’s so much more than the dollar amount.
Guy making 60K, sounds like you’re into the wrong girls.
I agree. Sounds like she had a tough year. Just work through it with her, you guys are a team.
This is true, when you’re ready to get to that point. I’m just saying it’s okay to go through the motions and be pissed at first. Feelings just aren’t usually neat and tidy, there are just so many factors and intricacies that go into relationships and breakups.
A girl can dream
C’mon, don’t be that guy.
In my fantasy world the goat is Tom Brady. Still a tough question because if I had sex with him I would want literally everyone to know and that’s not an option.
I fully agree with this. A little anger helps me transition out of feelings. Plus, frankly, it’s natural to feel that way if you’ve been broken up with because you actually feel kinda rejected by someone you really care about… even if you knew it was coming. I’m friendly and cordial with most of my exes but I really don’t understand people who are legitimately friends with theirs. Just seems like there should be boundaries.
Personally I’m attracted to someone who’s got a good personality and treats me like I’m important to them. Not so worried about their sexual history. And frankly, regardless of how experienced someone is or isn’t, you’re still gonna have to train them toward what you like so what’s the big deal? Any girl who makes you feel weird about being a virgin or uncircumcised seriously isn’t worth your time.
As much as it sucks and it majorly sucks, it sounds like this girl dodged a bullet. Thank GOD she didn’t marry him.
I’m going to slyly suggest this to the guy I’m dating
Ghosting someone is shitty in general. After 5 dates, that’s embarrassing. You can get to know someone pretty damn well in 5 dates, certainly well enough to have the decency to tell them you don’t see a future or whatever the issue may be. Sorry if that happened to you, definitely not cool.
And this is why you make the date happen ASAP. I’ve been seeing someone for a little over a month and I think we exchanged like 4 or 5 messages before exchanging numbers and deciding to just meet up at a bar. Definitely the right move.