This is absolutely the worst kind of idea, can’t wait to see how it plays out (aka it turns out just as poorly as any time I’ve played this most dangerous game).
I think it says something about me that I read barber as bartender immediately.
Now that we’re on the subject no one asked about, but I still think is important, I usually give my regular bartender about $50 or so as an additional Christmas tip for putting up with me all year.
I apologize if this isn’t the place or it’s deemed to be comparative in any way, since it’s not and I agree 100% with your premise…
This actually brings up an interesting conversation I had in one of my media classes. We showed this Korean Airlines commercial where this businessman traipsed around the world, with attractive women waiting for him at every stop, and attractive Korean Airlines flight attendants in between.
We spent nearly 30 minutes talking about the negative repercussions of showing women in this light, before anyone even thought about the guy.
Much like the Girl Boss, Commercial Guy was expected to be wildly attractive, speak 8 languages (well enough that women were evidently fawning over him the world round), have a job that allowed him to travel the world in first class, and then have the money and energy to travel the world the rest of the time.
This was all in a 30 second commercial and not a single person blinked at him holding this role.
That is the intrinsic comparison that I think a lot of guys feel in a similar way to what you’ve described with Cool Girl and Girl Boss. We’re expected to be emotionally advanced members of the 21st century, supportive of women, while still maintaining the Commercial Guy “manliness” of past generations.
Well it didn’t post the first time, so sorry if this gets doubled up, but I’ll take the unpopular opinion that you should go on that second date. The worst first kiss I ever had was with a girl I ended up with for a while, and every subsequent kiss was pretty great.
Wanting to rip someone’s clothes off when you meet them isn’t the sign of long-term compatibility. Not wanting to isn’t the sign that there won’t be chemistry later on.
Oh hello dating anxiety, I thought that being in a relationship would make you go away, but evidently Josh can just make you appear anytime he wants just by writing about you.
As a guy who has been putting off my haircut for about a month and is finally biting the bullet this afternoon, I couldn’t agree more.
Can’t wait to sit and wait for 30 minutes to then have someone talking to me while cutting my hair. Can we all just agree that doctors, dentists, and barbers shouldn’t ask me questions while they’re actively working?
Heh. Penetrate in a column about hometown hookups. Evidently the thought of hometown hookups also reverts me back to 5th grade humor, he said, lying through his teeth about that being the reason.
I think I have 80% as many grey hairs as my dad already and I’m still a couple of years from 30. Here’s hoping I stop at a similar level and just live the salt and pepper life forever.
That feeling you’ve had with other girls is just a bunch of chemicals in your head that naturally fades over a short period of time anyway, why would you want to base your decisions on something that fleeting? DTR, and if it doesn’t work, then you can go back on the apps without any hesitation. The one way you can ensure that it doesn’t work is by being half-in.
To the last guy, I don’t think I’m particularly good at it, but my results have turned out alright anytime I’ve really tried, so here goes:
If it’s someone you want to talk to at a bar, I like to have the “random” girl settle a bet between myself and a female friend. It’s light, it shows you have the approval of at least one woman (who you’re clearly not dating), and it allows you to strike up a conversation somewhat naturally.
If it’s the bumble/tinder/whatever, always playfully tease her and yourself, and ask questions that can’t be answered with one word. Then ask her out ASAP.
First date, skip all the “what do you do” talk and make it into a game (like our newest power player described in her column).
Once you’re in private, dunno man, do what feels right?
Shoot your shot, and the shot will come back to you.
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I’m at work every day this week (minus Christmas day). There are two people in the office and I don’t know why I’m here.
This is absolutely the worst kind of idea, can’t wait to see how it plays out (aka it turns out just as poorly as any time I’ve played this most dangerous game).
I think it says something about me that I read barber as bartender immediately.
Now that we’re on the subject no one asked about, but I still think is important, I usually give my regular bartender about $50 or so as an additional Christmas tip for putting up with me all year.
I apologize if this isn’t the place or it’s deemed to be comparative in any way, since it’s not and I agree 100% with your premise…
This actually brings up an interesting conversation I had in one of my media classes. We showed this Korean Airlines commercial where this businessman traipsed around the world, with attractive women waiting for him at every stop, and attractive Korean Airlines flight attendants in between.
We spent nearly 30 minutes talking about the negative repercussions of showing women in this light, before anyone even thought about the guy.
Much like the Girl Boss, Commercial Guy was expected to be wildly attractive, speak 8 languages (well enough that women were evidently fawning over him the world round), have a job that allowed him to travel the world in first class, and then have the money and energy to travel the world the rest of the time.
This was all in a 30 second commercial and not a single person blinked at him holding this role.
That is the intrinsic comparison that I think a lot of guys feel in a similar way to what you’ve described with Cool Girl and Girl Boss. We’re expected to be emotionally advanced members of the 21st century, supportive of women, while still maintaining the Commercial Guy “manliness” of past generations.
Well it didn’t post the first time, so sorry if this gets doubled up, but I’ll take the unpopular opinion that you should go on that second date. The worst first kiss I ever had was with a girl I ended up with for a while, and every subsequent kiss was pretty great.
Wanting to rip someone’s clothes off when you meet them isn’t the sign of long-term compatibility. Not wanting to isn’t the sign that there won’t be chemistry later on.
I don’t like change.
Nope, this is my god-given name.
Yeah, if they don’t recommend a rescheduled time immediately, it’s a blow off. The few days later text is you getting back burnered. Choo choo.
Oh hello dating anxiety, I thought that being in a relationship would make you go away, but evidently Josh can just make you appear anytime he wants just by writing about you.
What are these “friends you make as an adult” you speak of? Actually nevermind, I made plenty, but they’re all from this site. Weird realization.
As a guy who has been putting off my haircut for about a month and is finally biting the bullet this afternoon, I couldn’t agree more.
Can’t wait to sit and wait for 30 minutes to then have someone talking to me while cutting my hair. Can we all just agree that doctors, dentists, and barbers shouldn’t ask me questions while they’re actively working?
Heh. Penetrate in a column about hometown hookups. Evidently the thought of hometown hookups also reverts me back to 5th grade humor, he said, lying through his teeth about that being the reason.
I’m just here waiting for the NurseJackie girl crush comment that is coming (and well-deserved)
The accuracy of this comment hurts my soul
I think I have 80% as many grey hairs as my dad already and I’m still a couple of years from 30. Here’s hoping I stop at a similar level and just live the salt and pepper life forever.
I’m always here with some earthy wisdom that’s a mixture of stuff I’ve read online and stolen quotes from TV whenever you need it, red.
Same. I hand people my phone and they automatically ask what’s the passcode, so I’m pretty sure we are.
That also describes relationships in general…
That feeling you’ve had with other girls is just a bunch of chemicals in your head that naturally fades over a short period of time anyway, why would you want to base your decisions on something that fleeting? DTR, and if it doesn’t work, then you can go back on the apps without any hesitation. The one way you can ensure that it doesn’t work is by being half-in.
tl;dr: Don’t half-ass two things, whole-ass one.
To the last guy, I don’t think I’m particularly good at it, but my results have turned out alright anytime I’ve really tried, so here goes:
If it’s someone you want to talk to at a bar, I like to have the “random” girl settle a bet between myself and a female friend. It’s light, it shows you have the approval of at least one woman (who you’re clearly not dating), and it allows you to strike up a conversation somewhat naturally.
If it’s the bumble/tinder/whatever, always playfully tease her and yourself, and ask questions that can’t be answered with one word. Then ask her out ASAP.
First date, skip all the “what do you do” talk and make it into a game (like our newest power player described in her column).
Once you’re in private, dunno man, do what feels right?
Shoot your shot, and the shot will come back to you.