I found the juxtaposition of rereading the title after the article really funny.
Title: “How to be a Confident Introvert”
Solution: “Be an Asshole”
As an outgoing introvert, the rules I’ve created are:
1 weekend a month, I’m not leaving the house, and I reserve the right to do this at any time with 24 hours notice.
1 weekend a month, I will go out and do all the social things, so this is my girlfriend’s chance to plan stuff.
Remaining weekends, we will play it by ear and I will likely do dinner or board games or something, after which I will go home and avoid the next 4 events of the evening.
I think the biggest thing is there has to be light at the end of the tunnel, where both parties know the “where” and “when” of it no longer being LDR.
That being said, I cannot imagine being able to afford to fly somewhere every 3 or 4 weeks (he said, in his late 20s with a decent paying job), and my parents won’t even foot the bill for me to visit them (but still expect me to do so), let alone for me and my girlfriend to vacation in Switzerland. I envy your friends that, if not the LDR.
I got myself a convertible, because if it’s mildly sunny and I put the top down, even a bad day just became at least an okay day. That’s all you can ask for in life.
But yeah also don’t run yourself into the ground would probably be good advice too.
I’m not gonna lie, “As for me? I’ll be fine, I always am.” was the most depressing part of the entire article to me. It could be me projecting, but most people I know who say things like that (myself obviously included), say it because they don’t want to accept that it’s fine not to be fine.
Keep it up, CMV, you’ve got a good head on your shoulders and a lot going for you.
I’m a big lavender and vanilla guy myself, the others either smell exactly like soap to me, or they set off my allergies. All of it smells better than my dog though (which my house would smell like otherwise).
I’ll make the occasional call if it’s someone I know really well and need the information immediately. Otherwise, I would 1000% rather text, largely because I just don’t understand people on the phone well and spend half my time just repeating “what?” or pretending I understood and making noncommittal grunts.
Calling a stranger, I’d rather be shot in the foot.
I’ve been dating my girlfriend for a few months now, and I can proudly say neither of us has ever called the other. My dream is that we can both die having never heard the other’s voice over the phone.
I agree, and yet as someone on the receiving end of this, I don’t at the same time.
My girlfriend dated one of her pretty good (current) friends from law school for like a year. She describes it as a terrible situation where he’s a mess and they fought all the time and it was never that serious, but basically any time she mentions something about him (like him meeting her bosses/kind of adopted parents when they were dating), it gets my hackles up and I get all in my own head for probably the next 12 hours wondering how serious it was and how they stayed friends after such a terrible messy relationship.
I’d feel like an idiot if I found out later, but at the same time I know I’ll never like the guy as much as I would have, because I just always wish he hadn’t dated my girlfriend…knowing full well how unreasonable that all is.
I feel like a date can become a date mid-date so to speak. This wasn’t a date, but if the conversation happened like in his theoretical story…at that moment it goes from hanging out to being a date, IMHO.
My top 5…it would be a helluva party with a lot of wisdom from different walks of life to go around:
1. Teddy Roosevelt
2. Winston Churchill
3. Elon Musk
4. Babe Ruth
5. Frank Sinatra
I feel like this hurts Jack regardless. Unless I’m way off base, even if I weren’t really into a girl and didn’t actually care about her, I’d still be hurt that she felt the need and desire to have “more” than me in the same way CMV describes.
Overall, I’m 100% behind your sentiment that people are too quick to move on, as I’ve said in previous articles.
That being said, you know what the right thing to do is, CMV, so do it. Even though it’ll suck.
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“We’re friends, I just don’t want to see you, speak to you, or spend any time with you.”
“…I guess that makes sense?…”
I found the juxtaposition of rereading the title after the article really funny.
Title: “How to be a Confident Introvert”
Solution: “Be an Asshole”
As an outgoing introvert, the rules I’ve created are:
1 weekend a month, I’m not leaving the house, and I reserve the right to do this at any time with 24 hours notice.
1 weekend a month, I will go out and do all the social things, so this is my girlfriend’s chance to plan stuff.
Remaining weekends, we will play it by ear and I will likely do dinner or board games or something, after which I will go home and avoid the next 4 events of the evening.
I think the biggest thing is there has to be light at the end of the tunnel, where both parties know the “where” and “when” of it no longer being LDR.
That being said, I cannot imagine being able to afford to fly somewhere every 3 or 4 weeks (he said, in his late 20s with a decent paying job), and my parents won’t even foot the bill for me to visit them (but still expect me to do so), let alone for me and my girlfriend to vacation in Switzerland. I envy your friends that, if not the LDR.
Oh, Eric, no…
Those are the things you drunkenly say to your guy friends a week later when they find out, this isn’t the text you send the ex.
-the guy who got left for a used car salesman whose band was gonna make it big
For one of the few times in my life, I’m jealous of Todd…I want to know the owner of Braunschweigers.
Man this looks weird on my work computer where all social media sites are blocked.
I’m sad to report that my girlfriend has now called me (after 4.5ish months of dating)…so that I could let her into my dad’s house.
I have no issue with calling being other people’s game, but it’ll never be mine, and I’m okay with that.
I got myself a convertible, because if it’s mildly sunny and I put the top down, even a bad day just became at least an okay day. That’s all you can ask for in life.
But yeah also don’t run yourself into the ground would probably be good advice too.
I’m not gonna lie, “As for me? I’ll be fine, I always am.” was the most depressing part of the entire article to me. It could be me projecting, but most people I know who say things like that (myself obviously included), say it because they don’t want to accept that it’s fine not to be fine.
Keep it up, CMV, you’ve got a good head on your shoulders and a lot going for you.
I’m a big lavender and vanilla guy myself, the others either smell exactly like soap to me, or they set off my allergies. All of it smells better than my dog though (which my house would smell like otherwise).
I’ll make the occasional call if it’s someone I know really well and need the information immediately. Otherwise, I would 1000% rather text, largely because I just don’t understand people on the phone well and spend half my time just repeating “what?” or pretending I understood and making noncommittal grunts.
Calling a stranger, I’d rather be shot in the foot.
I’ve been dating my girlfriend for a few months now, and I can proudly say neither of us has ever called the other. My dream is that we can both die having never heard the other’s voice over the phone.
-the guy that really hates talking on the phone
I agree, and yet as someone on the receiving end of this, I don’t at the same time.
My girlfriend dated one of her pretty good (current) friends from law school for like a year. She describes it as a terrible situation where he’s a mess and they fought all the time and it was never that serious, but basically any time she mentions something about him (like him meeting her bosses/kind of adopted parents when they were dating), it gets my hackles up and I get all in my own head for probably the next 12 hours wondering how serious it was and how they stayed friends after such a terrible messy relationship.
I’d feel like an idiot if I found out later, but at the same time I know I’ll never like the guy as much as I would have, because I just always wish he hadn’t dated my girlfriend…knowing full well how unreasonable that all is.
I feel like a date can become a date mid-date so to speak. This wasn’t a date, but if the conversation happened like in his theoretical story…at that moment it goes from hanging out to being a date, IMHO.
My top 5…it would be a helluva party with a lot of wisdom from different walks of life to go around:
1. Teddy Roosevelt
2. Winston Churchill
3. Elon Musk
4. Babe Ruth
5. Frank Sinatra
That’s the move right there.
Thank you. There’s even a song about it and everything, but I still had someone ask why mine was up last Friday.
I’m so thankful that I deleted all questionable numbers to stop me from drunk texting them.
I feel like this hurts Jack regardless. Unless I’m way off base, even if I weren’t really into a girl and didn’t actually care about her, I’d still be hurt that she felt the need and desire to have “more” than me in the same way CMV describes.
Overall, I’m 100% behind your sentiment that people are too quick to move on, as I’ve said in previous articles.
That being said, you know what the right thing to do is, CMV, so do it. Even though it’ll suck.
I don’t know why, but it amuses me so much that you end all of these with lol.